Seeya soon!

[LouiseB]

I've had a word with hubby and we have decided that the stress of our situation is starting to become unbearable so what i'm going to do is go ahead and book our treatment tomorrow.

I'll be trying to get it to start either the 31st May or the 28th June.

I know we don't have funding in place but i really need a date.

We'll pay for anything that needs to be done in advance, maybe another consultation, and just hope that the funding comes in before the actual drugs need paying for. I mean, they will be getting an additional 2 weeks at the least.

Wish me luck that there won't be any nasty surprises

 

[positivity :)]

all the luck in the world louise, as i said in the may testing thread, the actual procedure sounds pretty hard going let alone all this stress on top. if you can do it, then go for it and give yourself a break. really really wish you all the best xxxxx

 

[Olive]

Wishing you all the luck in the world

xxxxxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Good luck Louise xx

 

[jomc]

The very best of luck hun xxxxxxxx

 

[Lander]

Best of luck hun Lxx

 

[maybe baby]

Good luck Louise, and I'm sorry although not surprised that things are getting stressful for you.

I think you're doing the right thing getting things booked but I still wouldn't give up chasing the doc with the files 'on the desk!" Maybe you could get Hubby to ring the receptionist instead?

xx

 

[LouiseB]

Thanks a lot ladies

Hubby starts getting a bit shouty if he starts to feel like he is being taken the piss out of, so not sure it would help lol

I'll report as soon as i do it... i think they open at 9

 

[EmilyB]

Good luck! Xx

 

[Nurse 26]

Good luck louise

 

[FebMum2Be]

Best of luck to you Louise, I hope everything goes smoothly x

 

[Sam's Mum]

Lots and lots of luck from me too! x x

 

[vickib_1984]

good luck louise fx for you xxxx

 

[LouiseB]

Bad news i'm afraid

They say that i need to have funding in place before they can give me any appointments because basically i'm at the stage when i need to cough up because treatment is next.

The hospital is still holding my files "in the doctors office" so he has a huge pile and she doesn't know which he has done and which he hasn't. I left another message afterward just begging her to go and check my file and i'll phone her back later.

Then it gets worse because the lady at the clinic says it'll be july just to get an appointment with the doctor and THEN another month or two to start treatment so i'm looking at September/October BFP

I just feel sick.

I asked the lady at the clinic what about private funding and she said it would get the ball rolling now, but what if the funding is just a day or two away?

If they had told me there would be a wait at the clinic i would have coughed up ages ago

 

[cosmicgirl]

Aww no, how frustrating. So sorry it's taking so long, that dr needs a severe kick up the backside xx

 

[Amyrose]

wot a bloody bunch of complete twats! I hate the way they desensitise everything. I really feel for you Lou its awful been made wait like this. If i were you i would call the F**kers every god dam day until they are so sick of you that they just give it to you. I hate you being upset just because they feel like playing god. GRRRRR!!!! xxxxxxx

 

[maybe baby]

Oh Louise I'm so sorry!

What exactly is taking so long with your file? Have you asked them?

Also who is in control of the funding can you chase them or get your GP to chase them?

If it makes you feel any better the way my cycles are going to fall I'll probably be having Clomid in September so you probably won't be alone.

If you don't have any luck sorting this out maybe get a nice holiday booked and take a step back from the forum for a while to take your mind off things, I've not been on as much and it does help.

xx

 

[LouiseB]

I hate you being upset just because they feel like playing god. GRRRRR!!!! xxxxxxx

That is what hubby says, that they are just enjoying playing God

 

[LouiseB]

What exactly is taking so long with your file? Have you asked them?

Also who is in control of the funding can you chase them or get your GP to chase them?

If it makes you feel any better the way my cycles are going to fall I'll probably be having Clomid in September so you probably won't be alone.

I'm under the impression that he takes a pile of files into his office every so often and then work his way through them between appointments and when they are all done, he exchanges them for another pile - but he hasn't got through the pile with my file in it yet. It so annoying because when we went to see him, he spent most of the time talking about my hubby being a pharmacist so he likes to chat...

I have contacted the PCT again but i don't think they try to exert their authority over anything. They set guildlines and review guidlines.

It's nice to know i won't be alone. You know what i'm like, i make plans and i had all these plans in order based on when i was told my treatment should start and now it means nothing - again.

It like when i first started ttc, i had plans. I'd just moved and made some real life friends all wanting babies and i wanted to be involved with that... but i missed it.

Then i spent a year making some really good friends on here and i'm starting to miss out all over again

 

[sarah1]

Hi Louise. Sounds like you are having a really tough time of it atm. Firstly, big hug.

Secondly, you aren't alone. I too cannot TTC again now for the next few months at least (waiting for operation, then waiting few months for clomid) so you will have me!! I don't know if that's good or bad....

I know it feels like the end of the world and its awful watching your plans go down the drain - we were meant to have a six month old by now and be sorting out lots of new things. I can't offer any great advice except trying to appreciate what you have and your time together bc! (before children).

I know its hard, but one day when we have kids we will forget all this pain and horrible stuff I am sure. Hang in there chuck, it'll all be worth it.

Ps. I agree with Maybe, taking tiime out from here can be good. That's why I'm not around much.

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