I feel like I rushed getting pregnant, I have a ten year old and life is easy. I'm 32 and felt pressured that if I had another it have to be by 34. I haven't known bf long, but I knew he was a good guy from the start unlike my exes. I thought he would be the one and live happy ever after, but I don't think I love him. Before I found out I was pg I made up my mind I would break up with him. I have more fun without him. He's just a hinderance. I'm scared I won't cope with this baby as a single mum. I'm desperately unhappy here and me and my son want to go back to Australia, my bf is willing to come with us but he isn't a citizen and now I'm plagued by these thoughts of I'm going to have to let him live with us, support him and who knows what else just so he can be there and help me out and co parent if I have the guts to break up with him. I feel I may have made a mistake even though I had an urge to have another child. It I have also had anxiety and depression last 12 years so I didn't need this, and having to sell everything and move there it's all so stressful and overwhelming. I shouldn't of got pregnant, I could've been living my life free and single and happy with an easy to look after ten year old. I think I would be depressed if I didn't go through with pregnancy I just can't win.
Pregnant and it's all a mess!
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Such a difficult situation to be in. If you were to go back home to Australia do you have family there who could support you with the baby so you didnt have to do it alone? If he traveled with you I can imagine it would put a huge strain on an already difficult relationship so you need to do what is right for both of you.
No I don't have any support in my life, no matter where I go. It's always been that way. Which is why I wanted him to be able to live there without me having to be stuck with him. It would be a different case if we both lived in the same country and both citizens then sure, pop over when you like, take your child all good. But no, I wonder if I should just let him have his child and I go back with my son and see my kid once a year for a couple of months, that would break my heart but my options are limiting. From Ireland to oz though? That would be a long way to travel with a toddler, maybe people out there have that arrangement I don't know. I just can't live here I can't afford it and I suffer depression and I need to finally make life easier for myself not harder.
