Pregnant after Recurrent Miscarriage

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  1. Emily0505

    Emily0505 Well-Known Member

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    So seeing as how there's a few of us pregnant after recurrent miscarriage, I thought I'd start a thread where we can all be terrified together!

    Miscarriage changes pregnancy and recurrent miscarriage makes it unbearable in my opinion.

    I'm struggling to feel at all excited about it and whole heartedly expecting another miscarriage.

    I can't imagine going for a scan and getting good news. I can't picture myself making happy announcements to friends and family or see myself with a bump.

    I've no inclination to tell anyone this time round and we've always told our parents early. Obviously I'll tell them if we have another loss but I'm in no hurry to announce this pregnancy to anyone. I'm even debating about whether to tell my boss or not? I can keep myself pretty safe at work and be careful and use PPE etc if I need to.

    My mood isn't helped by the fact that I've been poorly for the last two days with a terrible tummy upset among other things! Bleugh!

    I'm keeping everything crossed for all of us that this time is our time. That this time will bring us all our rainbows.

    XX
     
  2. snowbee

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    Hi Emily hope you are doing ok so far and that you are better very soon. Being ill is the worst.

    I'm also terrified but still excited. I've got to book my early scan tomorrow with the mc trial team, not really looking forward to it as I've had a lot of scans and I've never had good news at one! Actually I did have good news at one and that was my second follicle tracking scan when I finally had grown a follicle but that hardly counts does it haha.

    I also struggle to equate a positive test with a baby, I hope I can change my mindset at some point. It is difficult to be positive, especially when we have been ttc for such a long time.

    What do you do at work? I think if it is a low risk job I would be reluctant to say too early as I'm usually quite a private person. My job is quite physical and higher risk but I work with my husband so he can make things a but easier for me without telling the others.

    I'm not sure if or when we will tell family and friends. Something to think about a bit further down the line. I think a day by day approach might be a good idea at the moment.
     
  3. Tina18

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    Good idea Emily xx

    We have told quite a few people this time, it made no difference the last two times and I'd rather have people there for support! Also I went to a wedding yesterday and it was obvious!! Also I have a bit of a bump! Even one of Alex friends said is Tina pregnant I can see a bump and he said no she's just fat! He was only joking lol but ended up telling him!

    It's the 12 week scan that I'm the most terrified of! I just don't like the epu as it only has bad memories, lucky I had my warly scan on gyno, even though that's where I had he medical management I feel oddly safe/comfortable there!!

    This time around I'm a lot less stressed at work which o hope is helping and I feel much more relaxed just a bit worried! Xxxx
     
  4. Emily0505

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    I work in a rescue centre with dogs and cats and the occasional small furry.

    I've been there for twelve years and obviously was pregnant with my son while I was there, so I'm clued up on all the risks. Martin ones are heavy lifting (bags of stuff did, crates etc) handling big, boisterous or aggressive dogs, handling aggressive cats, cat faeces and handing medications. I can wear gloves to handle cat poo or medications and can just be a bit selective as to which animals I handle if needs be.

    The thing is, I'm very aware that I don't want to go over the top and be like oh I can't walk this Chihuahua in case it pulls me over and I hurt my baby. I took a fair few knocks to the bump when preggers with Cam and my rational, sane brain tells me that doing my job isn't going to cause a miscarriage! The other part of me is like oh my God don't do anything at all!! Get signed off for the next nine months and wrap yourself in cotton wool!!!

    XX
     
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    I am there with the cotton wool!!
    It's hard to be excited, my OH has encouraged me to be positive though. As soon as we had embryo transfer he said, let's enjoy it, be positive and if it doesn't work then it was better to be happy for the time we had, than to feel anxious. I have been trying my best but still have my moments xx
     
  6. Emily0505

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    When I was pregnant with the second baby I lost, I tried really hard to be positive- I bought a little outfit, started a wishlist on Amazon, all that sort of thing. I think because I tried so hard to be happy and enjoy it and believe it would be ok, it made it all the more difficult to deal with when we got bad news.

    At the moment I'm just completely prepared for the worst. I'm hoping that will change over time but I just can't envisage a good outcome at the moment.

    XX
     
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    Thanks I was thinking there should be somewhere we can be scared together! Can't belive were here again! I'm the same thinkin should I lift this. So far the only issue I've had with lifting is farting! Anyone else as windy as Chicago? Lol hubby has finally noticed a line I still have 2 cb digital I'm hoping to we 3+ this time. Baby steps! I need to let my clinic know. But I'm going to wait til Monday til I'm "late" by normal standards!

    I too find it hard to equate a bfp with a baby. I seem to look on it as officially starting ttc...
     
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    I was very windy just before I got my bfp.

    I'm not now thankfully as I have a horrendous stomach upset at the moment. Couldn't trust a fart in my current condition!Lol!

    This morning's test is darker again so hopefully things are all progressing as they should be in there.

    XX
     
  9. Eryinera

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    Yay i'm glad Emily. I hope your tummy gets better soon!

    Every time I move at the moment I fart. I don't know how I've got do much air inside me! I'm like a one woman matching band!
     
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    Haha!!

    This thread is very glam already- cm, farts and diarrhoea!! Sharing is caring!! Lol!!

    XX
     
  11. Eryinera

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    Lmao! Well we were similar in the tww and in the run up to ov.... seems a shame to stop now lol!
     
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    My line is also darker than yesterday's. I kind of wish I had done the cd digital now lol. But that's too scary. We are out shopping tomorrow so I may make a sneeky diversion to get a frer.

    What vitamins are you all taking so far I'm still on my 500mg folic acid
    I'm not sure if I should continue with my asprin. I'm under the care of 2 hospitals. One said I don't need it. The other said they recommend it regardless after 2 losses. Tbh the hospital that recommended it had a doctor who was extremely specialised in rmc and was so successful he was fully booked for nearly a year! Hence I ended up with a different hospital and someone who told me. "Oh we don't usually worry about things like this with people your age" In my head I flew across the table and punched him!
    I was wondering if I should take a pregnacare type pill or just focus on some of the main ones?
     
  13. Tina18

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    Glad your lines are getting darker! I'm taking seven seas vitamins with folic acid and 75mg baby asprin! I would personally continue taking the asprin. I spoke to Dr Beattie who is a very well known fertility specialist in Wales, he has a private practice and also works on NHS. I had a private scan at his clinic and asked him over the phone when i booked it (I was so happy wen he answered as a consultation with him is £250) and I told him I had two miscarriages and asked is asprin would help and he said yes and that it won't cause any harm! Xxxx
     
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    Brill thank you! Deffo taking that then! I half wish I had waited for that better specialist. I feel the guy I'm with couldnt tell his arse from his elbow! I've had to tell him things. He's told me stuff that is completely untrue as well and has the bedside manner of a gorilla lol
     
  15. Emily0505

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    By clotting tests all cane back normal so my consultant said there's no point in me taking aspirin.

    I'm going to call the clinic today so they can hurry along the rest of my results and arrange a care plan for me.

    I've been so ill with this stomach upset I've totally forgotten to take my pregnacare!! Must make sure I take it with whatever I can manage of my tea tonight.

    XX
     
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    They did the usual clotting test for me but what I found out by researching what they thought caused my heart issue ia that only 80% of people with the condition will get a positive to the moat common two blood clotting tests.
     
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    I've nearly finished my current pack of seven seas conception, I think I have 6 days left so I will finish those first then decide what to take. My consultant told me to take low dose asprin (75mg), which I have been since I got my bfp. I've just spoken with the mc trial team and they want me to also take a higher dose of folic acid, so I've got to see my gp about that this afternoon. She also wanted me to take vitamin D, which I am doing already as pcos ladies are often deficient in D. I'm also taking metformin for the pcos and I would prefer to stay on that at least a while longer so I will check with my gp about that later on today too. Ha I bet I rattle if you shake me!
     
  18. Eryinera

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    Lol I think we all will! I was just about to take something for my heart but I think I'll hold off on that! I'be got lots of 7seaa trying for a baby but not preggie ones
     
  19. MillersMissus

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    Just want to come and wish you all luck in your pregnancies!!!

    We had 2 miscarriages and an ectopic which as you all know are just heartbreaking. Every BFP you just won't allohave yourself to believe this may be the one. However it does happen - im now 31 weeks and had a smooth one so far expect from the anxiety issues which can't be helped. Take time out from work if you need it - yes, distractions are good, but rest also is! I got signed off work between 6 & 9 weeks as they were my "danger" weeks (when I've lost previously).

    Take each day as it comes and celebrate each day as well - they are your milestones! Xx
     
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    Wow hubby just said "when we're out 2moro you should get some more sensative tests and dome of those with the times on... get a few" when did he turn into woman! I love that he's showing more interest :) I get to pee on even more things lol.
     

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