Only 1?

[isobel84]

Last night we where layin in bed talkin about the little one being really happy. I said " maybe its better to have a boy first?"
Then he says it.. He dont want anymore children after this one!?!
Its our first!! none of us have children before.
I dont know i have just always seen myself with a bunch of kids and growin up in a big family i always wanted the same for my children... And now.. i might just have one.. I know one is a blessing but.. do u know what i mean?

Did anyone else have this? I really hope he will change his mind..

 

[Toonlass]

He might change his mind when he realises how great being a parent is xx

 

[megsmeadow]

Give him time, once he falls in love with your LO he'll probably change his mind! I'm already saying we'll wait a while to have our second, but knowing me that'll change!!

 

[isobel84]

he better! haha..
I just find it really hard imagine an only child
I wouldnt mind 4

 

[wirenth]

my DH didn't want any kids but he soon changed his mind once they started coming along.

 

[scaredmum2be]

I have the same problem but i wanted 2 kids in my life and hubby only wants the one because he thinks hes to old by then but im also thinking hes right because of financial matters although hes mentioned the snip few times but he hasnt since because i havent said anything bout wanting nemore. In time i hope he says yes for another for you ur OH i mean whereas it might not be so easy with my man with a stubborn brain lol.
i know where ur coming from an i feel blessed with this one but eventually in time i know i would like another in the long run depending on how labour goes. xx

 

[titch]

^^ this made me laugh cos my mum and I were trying to explain to my sister last night; if a man wants to do something, and you dont want him to do it, the best thing you can do is totally not mention it AT ALL. He'll totally not get round to doing it! It works a treat on my OH. he bought a tree that I didnt want in the garden cos it was so ugly, actually someone gave it to him free. Wel I just tidied it into the garage and didnt mention it. It died ! woohoO! He never even knew I didnt want him to plant it lol. It make me chuckle when you said about not mentioning the snip or more babies. lol

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

My O/H said exactly the same thing After DD was born!! 3 years later and it was his idea to have this baby! Give him time, he'll change his mind Hun

 

[scaredmum2be]

^^ this made me laugh cos my mum and I were trying to explain to my sister last night; if a man wants to do something, and you dont want him to do it, the best thing you can do is totally not mention it AT ALL. He'll totally not get round to doing it! It works a treat on my OH. he bought a tree that I didnt want in the garden cos it was so ugly, actually someone gave it to him free. Wel I just tidied it into the garage and didnt mention it. It died ! woohoO! He never even knew I didnt want him to plant it lol. It make me chuckle when you said about not mentioning the snip or more babies. lol

Men eh . bet ur glad u never mentioned anything lol x

 

[Lovisa]

We both want a few but who knows what will happen due to money, jobs, childcare ect
But I totally understand what you mean as I have a few friends whos OH's feel the same as yours.
Hopefully yours will come around. In the meantime enjoy this pregnancy and I wish you all the best xx

 

[x-misspinkuk-x]

my OH said the same thing hun, now look at me, TTC#2.
once he realises the joy of being a father, his going to want more. xx

 

[Chellybaby88]

My OH said the same thing to me when we had DD but i think that is because we were young and scared and didnt know how we would manage with one baby, never mind another one!

But three years on, here i am TTC our second. Men are stubborn and i know my OH thinks about what i am saying but pretends he doesnt and just has a barny with me. You never know, you might not want another one after this one either! Either way, give it time and let him get used to being a first time dad before mentioning more babies lol

xx

 

[isobel84]

thanks girls!! i will keep quiet and keep my fingers but not my legs crossed

 

[Mamafy]

He'll want a football team after you have this lil one

 

[NatEvz]

Like everyone else said hun, i think once he realises how amazing being a father is he will change his mind xxx

 

[evajo]

My hubby was th same but once he saw how u coped he was great. We were going to stop after the last one and when this little suprise popped up he wasn't bothered at all - well actually he was rather proud of his fertility!!! I think men think their lives will be taken over by sleepless nights forever and stop them having a social life but soon realise that although things change they enhance their lives - just wait a while after babe has been born and bring it up again xx

 

[vixforever]

Once the babys born I'm sure he'll want more

 

[isobel84]

Im so blessed to have one on the way and i will be happy with 1 but if he would change his mind and we would be lucky to have anotherone later on then thats a bonus

 

[isobel84]

Oh said yesterday after 20week scan when we talked about buying cot and i want to buy one secondhand.. "with the firstone we want everything new dont we?"
I didnt comment on that, but was that a little "maybe we have anotherone later on" thing?

 

[MrsR]

Aw sounds promising honey x I never wanted any children and now I've got my second on the way! Lol x I have said to OH that I don't think I'll want anymore after this one but you never know x give me a couple of years (or 6) and I might change my mind x x