OH -- don't know what to do

[karenandbump]

Hey hon, did u talk to him about it last night? xx

 

[Lilelephant]

No I didn't

 

[jomc]

Oh hun, hope u got some sleep. Not having sex since u got pg isnt an excuse and dont start thinking he is doing this because of that cos I dont want u winding urself up and blaming urself. Maybe sit down with him today and have a chat?

 

[Lilelephant]

Yeh he going to cimema with a friend then I am meeting him for lunch and baby shopping

 

[cosmicgirl]

Hope you're ok, was thinking of you all night, don't you dare blame yourself/take responsibility for the horrible stuff he's watching xx

 

[Susanne]

Maybe that would be a good time to broach the subject, when he's got baby fresh on his mind and sees himself in his role as responsible father. Can understand you are feeling upset, I would hit the roof if my husband did that. Hope you can sort it out.

 

[Samsgirl]

hon you need to talk to him about it.......and dont you dare blame yourself as the others have said. xxxx

 

[Kezzamunster]

In agreement with the girls, please don't blame yourself hun, this is no way your fault

He knows how you feel about this & should be showing more respect & understanding to how you feel



xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Thanks everyone. U just thought I'd use my Doppler to cheer myself up and as soon as I put the probe on there was baby's heartbeat. Makes me smile

 

[Kezzamunster]

xxx

 

[Georgie0]

Bless you, agree with the others that you need to talk this through with him so you can make him understand how you feel about it. It really isn't a huge ask to not have disturbing things in your house! I think i must have had a very sheltered life as i have NO idea what he is looking at, but i gather it isn't good! Again, daren't google it!

 

[Lilelephant]

Basically it's women in next to nothing standing on stiff like bugs and small animals it is sick

 

[Georgie0]

yep, just googled it - that is very worrying. Keep strong hun and think of your LO. (((((hugs)))))

 

[Kezzamunster]

Basically it's women in next to nothing standing on stiff like bugs and small animals it is sick

Oh....., didn't realise was that kinda thing

Defo gotta speak to him as that's a bit worrying

xxx

 

[Kezzamunster]

I know it's hard but chin up babes & we are all here for you
xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Luckily he is more into the bugs than the small animals :-|

 

[Amyrose]

Hun you have to remember you havent had any sexual contact either since you became pregnant your every bit as important as you OH your not looking up porn. You have told him before how you feel about it so he should respect your opinion. I would confront him about it and tell him if he is not willing to treat you with the respect you deserve then he has no place in your life. put the poos up him and tell him to pack his bags and bugger off. In my experience you never know what you have until you are actually faced with loosing it. dont sit there thinking this is anything you have done wrong because it isnt. he is being totally disrespectful towards you i would teach him a lesson chick xxxx

 

[Kezzamunster]

Well said Amy
xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

I am gonna talk to him over dinner and basically tell him that it isn't on! I understand that he needs releif but re crush thing is perverse and I can't deal with it and if can't live without it he'll have to live without me and bubs

 

[Amyrose]

with a wealth of experience comes knowledge xxx