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[3_for_me]

Does anyone wake up and just feel completely and utterly drained with zero energy and oomph? I don’t feel like I want to do anything at all! I feel miserable, emotional and just bleurgh! I’ve not had horrendous nausea or anything, although just a general sicky feeling which is preventing me from enjoying any meals, but I just feel awful! I’m consumed with worry about the pregnancy which doesn’t help, I just don’t know how to deal with feeling like this for the next 7 months!

 

[MrsBunny]

Thanks guys. Definitely feel like its a need to know situation, so still unsure about the party. Could get away with no booze, but harder to hide avoidance of half the cheeses.

I told the friend with ttc issues yesterday. We were out for dinner, and pair of us were having a quiet conversation separate from the group. She was telling me about ivf, and then asked me how it was going for me and oh (she knows we're ttc) - I had planned on saying 'no news', but I just couldn't lie to her face. It went okay, but feel like it could have gone better, and kind of wish we'd told her and her oh together a different time. I think I would have felt worse lying to her, only for her to find out a few weeks later though.

Still no booking appointment for me, so feel completely in limbo. Don't think it'll feel real until scan!

 

[MrsBunny]

Does anyone wake up and just feel completely and utterly drained with zero energy and oomph? I don’t feel like I want to do anything at all! I feel miserable, emotional and just bleurgh! I’ve not had horrendous nausea or anything, although just a general sicky feeling which is preventing me from enjoying any meals, but I just feel awful! I’m consumed with worry about the pregnancy which doesn’t help, I just don’t know how to deal with feeling like this for the next 7 months!

Sorry to hear you're feeling like this. Sending you virtual hugs. Xxx

 

[CornishGirl]

My symptoms are much worse this time around.

First time I didn't retch once. This time I can't stop retching every time I cough or brush my teeth and it's awful.
Last time I felt nauseas if I didn't eat regularly. This time I just really don't want to eat anything. Nothing looks appetising and yet if I eat nothing I feel so sick and horrendous I have to lie down. At least last time I fancied eating food.
Last time my moods were fairly stable but this time I keep crying. I cried when my husband said something mildly annoying, during Call The Midwife last night and then I cried while laughing because I sent my husband to Tesco for a pack of 4 sausages and he came back with 30!!!

I guess I couldn't be a magical pregnancy unicorn both times?

 

[netty]

hey ladies! Can i go down for 30.10.2018 please

im in a bit of a hard situation with this atm as my friend MC her first very recently, the dates actually work out that i concieved as she MC and she is obv utterly heartbroken - i have told other close friends but not her and i feel bad for leaving her out but i also dont want to hurt her as i know the pain of MC

really not sure what to do

 

[CornishGirl]

Yay! Hi netty. Lovely to see you in here!

I can understand why you wouldn't have told your friend. I wonder if maybe you could tell her over the phone? Or via a message? It would give her the space to take a step back and not reply if she chooses. If you tell her face to face it might be harder for her to react how she'd like.
It's a hard one though.

 

[netty]

when she MC i was the first to go over and offer her some consolation and advice having gone through the same, we are quite close we are actually family via my partners side

however i dont want to make a big deal of going over to see her specifically to tell her, i think i will wait until i am more sure of things just yet!

 

[3_for_me]

I’m so annoyed. Had my booking appointment booked for Friday but cancelled due to snow. They now won’t see me until I’m 10+5! That means they won’t book my scan in until after that date either! I’m really upset about it

 

[tara_46]

Hi Ladies - I am trying to update EDD if your name isnt on the front page what iks your EDD and I will update it to the cover page

 

[tara_46]

I’m so annoyed. Had my booking appointment booked for Friday but cancelled due to snow. They now won’t see me until I’m 10+5! That means they won’t book my scan in until after that date either! I’m really upset about it

That is so frustating because al you want to do is see you little peanut but hey will generally make sure that your scan is in between 11 - 13 weeks so hopefully it will only be a week late.

 

[tara_46]

Is anyone starting to show yet? im 10weeks today and have what is a well defined bump 8-/ its cute but since not many people know i am pregant i just look fat!!!

 

[Surveyor]

I am just bloated and have gained weight, no baby bump.

-Sev

 

[3_for_me]

I’m so annoyed. Had my booking appointment booked for Friday but cancelled due to snow. They now won’t see me until I’m 10+5! That means they won’t book my scan in until after that date either! I’m really upset about it

That is so frustating because al you want to do is see you little peanut but hey will generally make sure that your scan is in between 11 - 13 weeks so hopefully it will only be a week late.

She said they’ll fit me in when they can and it could be 14 weeks. Just seems like so long to wait! So frustrating x

 

[3_for_me]

Is anyone starting to show yet? im 10weeks today and have what is a well defined bump 8-/ its cute but since not many people know i am pregant i just look fat!!!

Yes my tummy is huge! I’m a size 10 usually and there’s no way of hiding this!

 

[LyndseyB]

when she MC i was the first to go over and offer her some consolation and advice having gone through the same, we are quite close we are actually family via my partners side

however i dont want to make a big deal of going over to see her specifically to tell her, i think i will wait until i am more sure of things just yet!

Welcome Netty. It is a difficult situation, I have only ever been on the receiving end of it and it is bloody hard, however, no-one decided to tell me privately making it more difficult. And it was always easier if I knew the person had their own troubles, that sounds so bad but it was a natural feeling of being more happy for them.

Looking at it a different way, you may actually give her some hope in this time she is finding it difficult, she knows you have been through what she is going through and you have conceived again.. hopefully that gives her the hope of it happening again too x

 

[LyndseyB]

I’m so annoyed. Had my booking appointment booked for Friday but cancelled due to snow. They now won’t see me until I’m 10+5! That means they won’t book my scan in until after that date either! I’m really upset about it

That is so frustating because al you want to do is see you little peanut but hey will generally make sure that your scan is in between 11 - 13 weeks so hopefully it will only be a week late.

She said they’ll fit me in when they can and it could be 14 weeks. Just seems like so long to wait! So frustrating x

That is very annoying! Everywhere must work differently as I got my scan date and midwife appointment in the same phone call, and that was the case in 2015 also. The number I call is one that seems to look after a very large area and not just linked to my doctors surgery so maybe that's the difference?

My scan is not until 12+6 which seems so long away.

re bumps, not as such but a definite bloat that is here to stay hubby wants to wait to tell everyone at 16 weeks after a gender scan, I'm 5ft9 and size 8-10, there's gona be no way of hiding a bump until 16 weeks!! x

 

[sarahlou7]

Does anyone know if they do an actual scan at an 8 week NHS appointment? Its the first appointment my local NHS will make with you and they said it would last an hour and a half. I should have asked them on the phone what to expect!

 

[netty]

Sarahlou no they dont they do bloods and test pee and ask questions if I remember right
Then youre booked for a scan no more than 12 weeks into your pregnancy

 

[netty]

when she MC i was the first to go over and offer her some consolation and advice having gone through the same, we are quite close we are actually family via my partners side

however i dont want to make a big deal of going over to see her specifically to tell her, i think i will wait until i am more sure of things just yet!

Welcome Netty. It is a difficult situation, I have only ever been on the receiving end of it and it is bloody hard, however, no-one decided to tell me privately making it more difficult. And it was always easier if I knew the person had their own troubles, that sounds so bad but it was a natural feeling of being more happy for them.

Looking at it a different way, you may actually give her some hope in this time she is finding it difficult, she knows you have been through what she is going through and you have conceived again.. hopefully that gives her the hope of it happening again too x

Thanks lovely I think I will have my scan and see how it goes and then speak to her
Her time will come as will mine hopefully this is it for me but I just dare not dream that far ahead right now

 

[sarahlou7]

Sarahlou no they dont they do bloods and test pee and ask questions if I remember right
Then youre booked for a scan no more than 12 weeks into your pregnancy

Thanks netty