Nhs treated me so badly ,didnt care where my baby was terminated

[rossyrozela]

HIYA EVERYONE I DONT MEAN TO SCARE ANYONE BUT LIKE I HAD SAID EARLIER ON,MY 20 WEEKS SCAN SHOWED THAT MY BABY HAD ABNORMALITIES,THE STRANGE THING IS THAT AT 12 WEEKS THE SACN SHOWED THAT BOTH HANDSS AND LEGS WERE PRESENT AND THEY WERE NORMAL THEN THE 20 WEEKS SCAN SHOWED THAT ONE HAND WAS MISSING HOW CONTRADICTING AND ALSO MY DON SYNDROME TEST CAME AS LOW RISK.

nOW AFTER SPEAKING TO MY CONSULTANT THEY TOLD ME THAT THEY ADVIVE THAT I GO FOR TERMINATION BECAUSE THERE ARE JUST SO MANY THINGS WRONG WITH THE BABAY.TH E SADEST PART WAS THAT MY CONSULTANT TOLD ME TO CONTACT MARISTOPES AND IASKED FOR THEIR NUMBER AND SHE TOLD ME TO CHECK ONLINE.SO I WENT ONLINE AND DID JUST THAT AND AN APPOINTMENT WAS MADE FOR ME TO HAVE THE TERMINATION TODAY.SO I WAS THERE AT 8.20AM AND THEY WERE STILL ASKING ME WHY MY CONSULTANT DID NOT REFER ME AND WHY THEY DID NOT SEND MY SCAN RESULT TO THEMBUT TO CUT THE LONG STORY SHORT THE TERMINATION PROCESS WAS THE WORST EXPERIANC E OF MY LIFE.AFTER INSERING THE TABLET TO DILATE MY CERVIX AND I WAS IN SO MUCH PAIN,I WAS NOT GIVEN OR OFFERED ANY PAIN RELIEF,I WAS SCREAMING WITH PAIN TO APOINT WHERE BY I TOLD THEM IAM GOING TO CALL FOR AMBULANCE AND GO IN FOR AN EMERGENCY.THE PAIN WAS SO UNBEARABLE THEN THAT IS THE TIME THEY PAID ME SOME ATTENTION AND ASKED TO GO TO THE THEATRE,I WAS IN AGONY FOR 4 HOURS WITHOUT ANY PAINKILLER,THEY KEPT ON SAYING WE ARE GOING TO GIVE ITT TO YOU BUT THEY CONTINUED ATTENDING TO OTHER PATIENS.

MY ADVICE TO GIRLS OUT THERE IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE ABBY PLEASE USE CONTACEPTIVES AND DONT GO FOR N ABORTION UNLESS IT IS DUE TO ABNORMALITIES,THERE WERE SO MANY YOUNG GIRLS THERE AND I WONDERED WHY THEY WRE PUTTING THEMSELVES THROUGH THAT PAIN.

I WAS NOT OFFERED COUNSELLING ASWELL I WAS JUST LEFT ON MY OWN.
HOPE SOMEONE LEARNS FROM MY EXPERIANCE

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

this is all highly illegal. Please read my post in your other thread and contact Sands immediately to discuss your rights in this cirumstance.

the right to a burial is paramount, as is pain relief in such circumstances.

please speak to them asap as they will be able to assist you in forming a complaint against the hospital and the center where you were treated.

 

[RachelJ]

this is absolutely disgraceful - nobody deserves to be treated like that, especially when such a traumatic experience is one that you really can't avoid. once you're rested a bit and feel a little stronger, you should definitely take this up with someone.
please know that i'm thinking of you.
xxx

 

[Sam's Mum]

I'm so sorry they've treated you so badly. I'd definitely make a complaint - their treatment of you has been horrendous, I don't really understand why NHS would refer you to a clinic either

I'm moving this thread to the loss section as it's a duplicate of the post in your other thread and threads do tend to disappear down the page in here

 

[KarolinaMoon]

Hi Rossy...

I am so sorry to hear what you went through, it sounds absolutely horrendous!!! I didn't think they could advise a termination like the way they did in your case? I hope that you have lots of support around you, and as dragonfly says, make a complaint about what you have been put through!!!
I unfortunately had a termination 10 years ago, as a result of something that happened to me, out my control. I couldn't go ahead with the pregnancy. I was only about 6 and a half weeks and had the vacuum aspiration procedure under local anaethetic. I remember being in so much pain, they played music in the background during the procedure, but it didnt help, I remember the nurse telling me to wiggle my toes to get through the pain.
The clinic looked after me ok, however it was very like a cattle market....girls wheeled in and wheeled back out again as quickly as they could. And I agree Rossy, so many young girls going through terminations, I was 21 at the time of mine, and most of the girls at that time were far far younger. Terminations are traumatic, and I don't think girls /women are fully informed about the procedure and it's effects, emotionally and physically.

Rossy, thank you for sharing your story, you really are so courageous and strong to get through such a horrific experience xxxx

 

[rosey]

please take this matter further, it really annoys me how workers in general hospitals work! they should really be given some mental health training or at least employ us mental health nurses in order to give patients both the physical and psychological care that people need in such a distressing time. If you need to talk please send me a message on here.

 

[Nurse 26]

Oh my goodness, you poor thing, your treatment was terrible. As the others said i would take this further and make a complaint.

How about going to your GP and asking about councilling there, they should be able to refer you.

So sorry for your loss xxxx

 

[netty]

i am so so sorry hunny this really upset me to hear that not only have you lost yoyur predcious child but also have had to endure all this i wish i could give you a big hug. I would definitley see about making a complaint and possibly claiming for your distress sweety xx