Most Horrible Weekend EVER!!!!!

[pinkymum]

Hey hun, only just read this. Hope things are ok. X

 

[KellyHook]

Well he is going to stay at his mums tomorrow, while he sorts his head out..

But for how long i dont know.... i said to him that he needs to let me know how long as i need to sort money situations out, but he said dont worry he will let me know so hopefully it will only take the weekend, but if not im going to have to go to council on monday...

he said that i dont need to worry about money ect.. (easier said than done)

but he is a very good dad to brooke and i know that he will be there for her 100% whatever happens..


Plus landlord came round today, as our lease is up... but we renewed it and he didnt suggest just putting it in my name.. but landlord also put the rent up to £600 per month

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Maybe it will do him good, give him space and just leave him to it. £600 i thought mine was alot! How much did he put it up by? my landlord want £15 extra a month starting April but i have sent him a letter asking him to reconsider about not putting it up as i can't afford it. Why don't you try sending him a letter even if he won't reconsider like my landlord probably won't its worth a try xxx

 

[KellyHook]

Maybe it will do him good, give him space and just leave him to it. £600 i thought mine was alot! How much did he put it up by? my landlord want £15 extra a month starting April but i have sent him a letter asking him to reconsider about not putting it up as i can't afford it. Why don't you try sending him a letter even if he won't reconsider like my landlord probably won't its worth a try xxx

Hopefully!

he put it up by an extra £50 per month starting from april! Well OH was here at the time and he told the landlord it was 'No Problem'..Even though he might not be here to pay it ,so dont think a letter will work. and if he doesnt come back, i will only be entitled to housing benefit worth a 2 bedroom property untill baby comes along, well so i think, thats how it stands at the minute, but rules might be different for single parents! but i will worry about that when the time comes.

 

[Princess81]

Hope he has some answers soon for u hun and he gets his head sorted out xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

£50...what a wanker!!! As for OH he is confusing lol! I still don't think he is going anywhere though now for what he said to the landlord too. Hope its very soon he gives you some answers! xxx

 

[KellyHook]

yes i feel confident that he will come back (i maybe wrong ).. but when i dont know... he is a very stuburn man and will prob just go and clear his head and then come back!! well hopefully anyway.. but if not then least i can just get on with my life!

yer i know £50..i nearly choked when he said it... but Oh said that it wasnt a problem, so he can deal with it!

 

[mumofmany]

only just read this hun, was going to suggest thinking time for both of you, you dont need to tell brooke anything weither yet, you can say he is working away, or gone fishing or something along those lines. My husband went through a phase like this a few years ago and he was about 26 at the time so around the same age. He only left for 2 days and stayed at his mums, i wasn;t pregnant but had miscarried 2 weeks earlier so was in a bit of a state myself. He came back saying he saw his life without me and hated it, i still think the fact that i went out for a night out with the girls on teh sat night had something to do with it and he must have thought she carrying on with her life, i came home that night to find him waiting for me in our bed, I was so happy to have him back that i never made him talk till few weeks later, he said he was stuck in a rut i was always miserable which i was, he only saw me as a mum and not as me any more. We agreed to have a date night every sat, where we would make sure all kids were in bed and we would take chinese or indian and have a drink in together and once a month we would get a baby sitter and go out. It made such a difference to just be us once in a while with no pressure from elsewhere. this was 4 years ago ad we are happy now, there was no cheating involved so that is not always the case I think sometimes we can all get stuck in a rut and as much as i like you hate breaks especially once you have kids it can be more confusing for the kids, the odd one I'm sure does no harm. I really hope that this has a hppy ending just wanted you to know that it doesn;t always end up bad.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Aint all men stubborn Try and forget about it for now, i know you probably won't but try and push it to the back of your mind and before you know it he will be back and if not then you know he aint worth it.
I would of choked! I'd hate to give my landlord more because i can't stand the man! xxx

 

[KellyHook]

its easier now i know that he is going to his mums, better than staying in the same house not really knowing what was going on and him sleeping on sofa!! i havent even been upset today!!

I have suggested that we need to do more thing together so if he does come back then i will make it as a rule that we have to spend more time as BF and GF and not just mummy and daddy...

i have also been told before that he knows absolutely everything about my life, he could tell you what i do day after day, and sometime men need to think.. 'Where is she' 'What she doing' instead he could go out without his housekeys and know what time to come home as he would know when i was at home!

i think i need to start spending a little more time for myself aswell.. the last time i went into town with the girls was july 2010... seriously im 22!! my life should be a bit more exciting than this.. obviously i wouldnt change brooke or baby for the world.. but sometimes i just need to be me!! so think that will have to change aswell!! just need to find some reliable friends first..

 

[jld123]

you should do even little things like go and get your nails or hair done or something and leave brooke with him. I always trot off to these things and leave my Bf at home twiddling his thumbs. I go out for lunch with my friends often too. Im only 21 and its hard to gather my friends all together due to boyfriends etc so we try to do it atleast once a week! Even take yourself off shopping or pop round to your mums or something

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I know what you mean about the reliable friends...i am the same my OH always knows where i am too. Definitely go out and start doing things. Good on you for not getting upset too xxx

 

[KellyHook]

Well its my first night alone.... its quite nice actually being able to watch what i want to watch.. You never know this could be the start of something great whatever the outcome!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Awww glad your feeling good! xxx

 

[Princess81]

It's good u feel comfortable with it sweetie, whatever happens you'll be ok xxxx

 

[KellyHook]

Just thought i would update you all.. OH went and stayed at his mums last friday and stayed there till tuesday and moved back!! he has now been back just under a week and everything is going great at the moment.. just seems he just needed a little break.. thank you girls for all your support you are all great! xx

 

[21gwen]

Thanks for letting us know, pleased to hear everything is better. Take care of youself.

 

[karenandbump]

Glad things r good hon - big hugs x x x

 

[amandapanda]

Awww that's great hun - sounds like he just had a bit of a wobble - silly man, hope you slapped him for all the stress he put you through, lol xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Good news xxx