Most Horrible Weekend EVER!!!!!

[KellyHook]

No I understand that you don't want him to be unhappy Hun cos u care but do u think he cares if you are unhappy?
I am really sorry to say this and I hope I don't upset you and tell me if I'm out of line for saying so, but, it sounds like he's looking for a way out, just too much of a coward to get the words out. I really hope I'm wrong, and that it's just a glitch but those excuses for his unhappiness were utter balls!! Xxx

no hun i think your exactly right... he is still very young for his age and he is bloody hard work sometimes so its probably easier to act the way he is.. and your right he is a coward!! of course you wont upset me... it only something that i know really deep down anyway!! and yes they were totally utter balls as you said..lol x

 

[KellyHook]

If those are his only reasons it sounds like he's got no reason to be unhappy! There are sooo many things like that that I could list about my OH that drive me insane but I still love him to bits - maybe he does need to go to realise exactly what he's risking losing and just how perfect a little family he has?!

this is what i told him.. i told him everything that drives me insane and im still here and love him... but obviously he doesnt work like that!..

yes i think that he does need to go to... and hopefully realise what he through away, because im GREAT...lol

 

[KellyHook]

They aint even proper excuses! If only you could read their minds eh. I don't know what to advise you hun hope it gets sorted out xxx

If only..

well he will be leaving so nothing to sort out unless he has a change of heart tomorrow.. then he will need to do some serious groverling!!

 

[Princess81]

Course you are xx

 

[Kezzamunster]

Great?? You are FANTABULOUS :flower
xxx

 

[midnight]

aww i hoped this would of been all sorted for you xx

his dads anniversary can hit him hard could be playing on his mind loads

is brooke his?? if not he might be feeling scared about the baby ect doesnt mean its not what he wants

and he might just be thinking the grass is greener on the other side (but we know it isnt dont we hee hee)

like cantstop said some just do have a wobble and come back

 

[Sunnyb]

Omg I have only just read this thread hun. Hope a decision is made today so that you can either get on with your lives together & work things out or start to move on. Men are hopeless at opening up & speaking their true feelings, I'm sure there'll be more reasons that he's not telling you about (& I don't necessarily mean another woman). My hubby just after Joseph had turned one said he was leaving me as I wasn't the same person he'd married. That was the only reason he gave! I had been suffering post natal depression & so I hadn't realised how bad things were. Luckily our Best Man from our wedding came over & took him away for a couple of nights & spoke to him. I'm not sure what was said, but became back saying he'd work at things & give it 6 months & if things weren't right would leave after Christmas. This was worse cos I was wondering are you going to stay or go?? Luckily our turning point came in the October when I said I couldn't pretend all was ok over Christmas & have all the family over & play happy families & that he needed to stay or leave (I'd given him 3 months already). At this point he finally broke down, we had a massive heart to heart & he decided to stay. 4 & a half years on we're still together, stronger than ever & expecting baby number two.
Got my fingers crossed for you hun x

Sunnyb xxx

 

[KellyHook]

aww i hoped this would of been all sorted for you xx

his dads anniversary can hit him hard could be playing on his mind loads

is brooke his?? if not he might be feeling scared about the baby ect doesnt mean its not what he wants

and he might just be thinking the grass is greener on the other side (but we know it isnt dont we hee hee)

like cantstop said some just do have a wobble and come back

yer Brooke is his.... they are joint at the hip, she is such a daddys girl!! thats prob the only reason he is hanging around still.

i think that he does need a break... and even though i hate them i think that this is the best option for us! i feel alot more relaxed because ive told him now so its up to him to find somewhere to stay now!

im a little freaked out at the fact i will have a newborn and brooke to look after on my own (thats is he decides to stay away) but il manage.. plus brooke will be going to school in septermber so the most hectic bit would be the morning school runs as brooke will be at school most of the day so will give me chance to get use to things!!

xx

 

[Princess81]

Hun you'll do a fab job if u have to do it alone. Plus even if he ends the relationship with you the kiddies will still be a joint responsibility so he can help out x

 

[Lou_1]

hey only just noticed this hope u doing ok after reading through it all u sound a lot more relaxed about it.. Just want to wish u luck whatever way ur life turns out in a relationship or out u will manage ur kids fine as thats what us women/Mums do stay strong xx

 

[KellyHook]

Thank You. . to all you lovely ladies... xx

 

[emz1980]

Hope you get this sorted soon, U dont need all this with a 4 year old and being pregnant too, thats tiring enough, without emotional issues too , xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Hows things gone today hun...good i hope xxx

 

[KellyHook]

Hows things gone today hun...good i hope xxx

Well he is still here at the moment!
he has been out with brooke most of the day he took her swimming and then went for something to eat... and when he came home he went over to our neighbours (we are all really good friends) he came back and said that our neighbours said to pop round for a cuppa!!

so i went, and as soon as we sat down we started nattering as always (mostly about our OH's) but she knew something was up and asked if i was ok.. and i just started crying , i have been fine up to now, i think its because she was the 1st person i have told about whats going on (apart from you lovely ladies)! she said that she couldnt believe it as OH hadnt mentioned anything to her and was making plans with her for the summer to have bbq's etc at our house, she said he didnt once mention that he wouldnt be there, or having any problems at all between us! infact they were talking about me saying that he needs to start buying me maternity clothes etc as im getting fed up of wearing the same things all the time....

so as you can imagine im a bit confused? i dont know if he does want to stay but hasnt got the nerve to appoligise as he is very stuborn... or he just didnt tell her as he knows she would tell him that he was being a complete knobhead!!!

xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Hmmm... Confusing! I think he'll stay, after you saying he was making plans and everything. I mean you wouldn't say much on that subject if you knew you were gonna go? Maybe he has said it and not actually meant it, and you know men they don't like admitting when they are in the wrong or when something is there fault. I remember you saying something about feeling like you have a seatbelt on...i get like this with OH all the time and i get so frustrated with him for no reason. When he comes round and everything is back to normal, try and put up with the occasional "seatbelt moment" lol! Show him you care, that is if he goes back to himself. Easier said than done for me as my OH is driving me round the bend lately. Hope that has kinda made sense lol. xxx

 

[KellyHook]

it does make sense .... and yes i will put up with it if he decides to stay as before it really annoyed me... but now all i want is for him to give me a cuddle and knowing that he doesnt want to makes me realise how he must feel when i wont cuddle him...

i have heard him say sorry a handful of times while we have been together, most of the time he will be all moody and the all of a sudden act normal and carry on with things... i know that is his kinda way of saying sorry..and he hates admitting he is in the wrong!

he says that he has no where to go but before he always goes running to his mum.. so if he really didnt want to be here then he could of gone there..

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Ah well there you go, he won't be going anywhere or he would of gone by now! Typical man...frustrating lol xxx

 

[KellyHook]

Well we will see.. he is always full of suprises!

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Lol let us know how it goes...most likely all fine xxx

 

[21gwen]

How has things been? hope you are keeping well