Long termers 6 months or more

[IVW]

Wife should have been due on the 4th or 5th but has had stomach problems the past few day so it hasn’t arrived yet.
Has done a test but no positive.
Guessing the stomach problems has knocked the usual 32 day cycle out of sync.

Just an update to this but we got our ‘BFP’ a few days ago!
Wife is over the moon.
For people interested I took Welman conception fertility and reproduction tablets, iron tablets and vitamin C+D tablets. Wife took iron and folic acid tablets.

Good luck to everyone in here. I know how hard it is month on month. Haven’t seen much of you SugaryIris who replied to me but I hope you are well.

ahhhh amazing, congratulations

 

[Sometimesoon]

Wife should have been due on the 4th or 5th but has had stomach problems the past few day so it hasn’t arrived yet.
Has done a test but no positive.
Guessing the stomach problems has knocked the usual 32 day cycle out of sync.

Just an update to this but we got our ‘BFP’ a few days ago!
Wife is over the moon.
For people interested I took Welman conception fertility and reproduction tablets, iron tablets and vitamin C+D tablets. Wife took iron and folic acid tablets.

Good luck to everyone in here. I know how hard it is month on month. Haven’t seen much of you SugaryIris who replied to me but I hope you are well.

ahhhh amazing, congratulations

Thank you IVW

 

[KatD]

Wife should have been due on the 4th or 5th but has had stomach problems the past few day so it hasn’t arrived yet.
Has done a test but no positive.
Guessing the stomach problems has knocked the usual 32 day cycle out of sync.

Just an update to this but we got our ‘BFP’ a few days ago!
Wife is over the moon.
For people interested I took Welman conception fertility and reproduction tablets, iron tablets and vitamin C+D tablets. Wife took iron and folic acid tablets. In the past month we used pre seed lubricant too

Good luck to everyone in here. I know how hard it is month on month. Haven’t seen much of you SugaryIris who replied to me but I hope you are well.

OH YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This truly is the best news ever! So happy for you two!

 

[KatD]

I've got my graduation from college in November so I said to my dh I would love to be 2/3 months gone by my graduation and he said he was thinking the exact same thing and he called me at his work to tell me that was so spooky so hopefully this month then waiting for a delivery to come with syringes and sample pots as hubby has problems when dtd and I have opks coming too really going for it this month

aaahhh Jem! Glad to see you are back!

Really keeping FX that you'll have your bfp before the year is out. May it be your month this month!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Hope everyone has had a good weekend in the sunshine.

I feel like I've had a good week this week. Conquered nerves jumping my horse XC on Thursday for the first time in over a year and was just beaming. These little achievements I treasure so much as if i ever get my sticky bean my horsey adventures will be restricted for a while.

DTD yesterday and today which was nice to be back on track after 2 weeks since we last DTD. I don't know how time runs away with us sometimes. But we are really going to try hard again this month. We both feel mentally up to it. So Tues marks the start of fertile period and we will go for every other day or a little more if we can manage. Shifts are a bit difficult how they have fallen but we will do our best.

I am not pinning my hopes on this month but I am trying to think forwards and hope that maybe we might get lucky before 2018 is out. We live on hope! Xx

 

[katie88]

Hey Nikki

sounds like you had a lovely weekend! I used to have a horse. He was too lazy to show, but I used to love hacking out on him over the summer! I know how you feel about the little achievement. I'm on a total break from my sport as per my consultant (long distance ultra running) and its driving me bonkers! but Im making up for it by taking nice long walks with the hubs while the weather is so nice. not quite the same but feel so much better being out doing something and being out in the fresh air!

FX for you this month! we have our next ivf appointment on the 24/7 and then after that its just a case of waiting for the witch to turn up so we can ring them to see if they can fit us in! hoping she arrives the first week of august! so im excited yet nervous!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Hey Nikki

sounds like you had a lovely weekend! I used to have a horse. He was too lazy to show, but I used to love hacking out on him over the summer! I know how you feel about the little achievement. I'm on a total break from my sport as per my consultant (long distance ultra running) and its driving me bonkers! but Im making up for it by taking nice long walks with the hubs while the weather is so nice. not quite the same but feel so much better being out doing something and being out in the fresh air!

FX for you this month! we have our next ivf appointment on the 24/7 and then after that its just a case of waiting for the witch to turn up so we can ring them to see if they can fit us in! hoping she arrives the first week of august! so im excited yet nervous!

It's so hard not knowing whether to make changes. I geared myself up for motherhood last year and out my boy up for sale but now am so glad that fate intervened and he didn't sell as he is my baby right now and my escape when all the TTC madness gets too much.

Good luck with the IVF must be such a stressful but exciting time I really hope it goes well and you get your little buba. I'm struggling at 1 year in so have so much respect for those who are further along the journey than me x

 

[Alexis2017]

Just popping in to say hello. I'm on cd14 today only.dtd twice so far. Taking a very relaxed approach now. No charting at all...nada.
I 100% have given up now. I think 19 months of ttc breaks you in a way you will never be the same person again. I never thought I'd accept it wasn't happening and be in a place I habe moved to convince myself that not having a baby is normal and that's life but here I am just making the most of what I've got.

I still have bad days/low days and wish so badly I could be a mum but I am becoming an expert as removing those feelings and shaking myself down and telling myself this is only the calm before IVF starts. Then I am inn for a bumpy ride.

Sending my love to my fellow long termers. So many new ppl.onnthe testing page I've not joined in really as I don't know many on here anymore.

 

[katie88]

Hi Alexis, yup, I know how you feel, so huge huge hugs. once we hit the two year mark I felt utterly hopeless and at three years now I feel numb but im just keeping my fingers and toes crossed that my time (and every other longer termer) will come.

have you had any news on when your ivf will start? im hoping mine will be august.

 

[KatD]

Just popping in to say hello. I'm on cd14 today only.dtd twice so far. Taking a very relaxed approach now. No charting at all...nada.
I 100% have given up now. I think 19 months of ttc breaks you in a way you will never be the same person again. I never thought I'd accept it wasn't happening and be in a place I habe moved to convince myself that not having a baby is normal and that's life but here I am just making the most of what I've got.

I still have bad days/low days and wish so badly I could be a mum but I am becoming an expert as removing those feelings and shaking myself down and telling myself this is only the calm before IVF starts. Then I am inn for a bumpy ride.

Sending my love to my fellow long termers. So many new ppl.onnthe testing page I've not joined in really as I don't know many on here anymore.

it's a really horrible place to be. Especially with no answers as to why you guys are in this position medically.

I'm hoping that IVF will be a raging success at least because of that (unknown infertility)

I hope you don't leave the forum completely - it's hard seeing so many people come and go, not knowing where you're suppose to fit in on the forum anymore...I get it, but your new journey will start when you go for IVF and I am confident that you will get your bfp. I can't wait for you to post your announcement on here!

 

[KatD]

Hi Alexis, yup, I know how you feel, so huge huge hugs. once we hit the two year mark I felt utterly hopeless and at three years now I feel numb but im just keeping my fingers and toes crossed that my time (and every other longer termer) will come.

have you had any news on when your ivf will start? im hoping mine will be august.

Oooo FX that you will soon get confirmation on your procedure dates!

 

[katie88]

Hi Alexis, yup, I know how you feel, so huge huge hugs. once we hit the two year mark I felt utterly hopeless and at three years now I feel numb but im just keeping my fingers and toes crossed that my time (and every other longer termer) will come.

have you had any news on when your ivf will start? im hoping mine will be august.

Oooo FX that you will soon get confirmation on your procedure dates!

hey Kat, next apt is next Tuesday (which is when we'll pick up the drugs and find out which protocol we'll be on - its been up in the air so far between short/long, so by next Tuesday at least my consultant will have that figured out hah) cant wait to just get that bit done and wait for the witch to arrive so we can get this show on the road

 

[KatD]

I am SO excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

@Alexis good to see you popping in and pleased you are able to be relaxed about things. Like the others say in your case because your unexplained I really hope IVF is a good shot for you. You have absolutely every chance and you deserve it so much.

I have strayed from the testing thread too. I pop over now and again to give myself that little glimmer of hope when people get BFP but it's not the same with newbies. That's sounds awful but if one of you guys gets good news I am almost in tears....when it's someone new the first thing I look at is how long have they been trying. I try not to be bitter but it is still always bittersweet when people fall really quickly.

Had a great night at a 30th birthday last night. Got that good level of dancing drunk and had a little rave to some cheesy tunes. But a friend was there who has 7 weeks to go and as much as I had a great time the little voice in my head wished I was the one sat down drinking elderflower cordial.

Well we are trying hard this month although feels quite relaxed which is nice. I'm due to ov CD17....tomorrow. We have covered 9/10/13/15/16 and my darling hubby has just gone to the shops for bacon sarnie ingredients. He is a gem. I'm working today but hoping we get another shot at it this evening and tomorrow then that will about be us for this cycle.

Have had letter for hospital confirming HSG and just to call when AF comes so if she shows her face in 2 weeks just hope she is on time x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

@katie88 will be watching with baited breath such an exciting time. Everything crossed for you! Xx

 

[Peony1]

Woke up this morning feeling really positive - I was due on either yesterday or today and I’d had no spotting whatsoever which rarely happens for me these days. I was picturing having a baby in my life. I tried to stop myself dreaming as I knew it would hurt more if af arrived but I couldn’t stop myself. Then just went to the loo, and of course, af has arrived. Normally I’ll know before I go as I’ll have stomach cramps but not this time. It was a complete shock. I’m beyond devastated now. I don’t know how to cope with this anymore. It’s been nearly two years of trying and for the past year, each month of af arriving has been so hard to deal with. I just can’t imagine it ever happening for us now. Even my optimistic husband is struggling to imagine it happening now. I don’t want to have to go to work on Monday. I don’t want to have to deal with ‘have you and your husband thought about having children?’ questions. I don’t want to have to pick myself up again and move on to another month...I wanted this to be my month. It’s just so unfair. I can’t stop crying and I just don’t know how to cope with this disappointment month after month anymore.
I don’t understand how there is supposedly nothing wrong with either of us, why this is not happening. It just makes no sense.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Woke up this morning feeling really positive - I was due on either yesterday or today and I’d had no spotting whatsoever which rarely happens for me these days. I was picturing having a baby in my life. I tried to stop myself dreaming as I knew it would hurt more if af arrived but I couldn’t stop myself. Then just went to the loo, and of course, af has arrived. Normally I’ll know before I go as I’ll have stomach cramps but not this time. It was a complete shock. I’m beyond devastated now. I don’t know how to cope with this anymore. It’s been nearly two years of trying and for the past year, each month of af arriving has been so hard to deal with. I just can’t imagine it ever happening for us now. Even my optimistic husband is struggling to imagine it happening now. I don’t want to have to go to work on Monday. I don’t want to have to deal with ‘have you and your husband thought about having children?’ questions. I don’t want to have to pick myself up again and move on to another month...I wanted this to be my month. It’s just so unfair. I can’t stop crying and I just don’t know how to cope with this disappointment month after month anymore.
I don’t understand how there is supposedly nothing wrong with either of us, why this is not happening. It just makes no sense.

Aw peony I know words won't offer any comfort because when you feel like this nothing anyone says will make you feel better.

We have to believe that it is not impossible and that somehow anyhow eventually we will find a way.

I don't know how people can just stop trying or how long I would need before I felt like that decision was looming.

I was where you are the month before last and taking a break last month helped me refocus and just feel more relaxed. I think for me now though I am using hospital appts as markers to signpost the road and whilst travelling between them just trying to keep trying as best we can but not build my hopes up or test unless I'm late.

All I can say really is we are all here for you and send support your way you are not alone x

 

[Peony1]

Thank you, it really does help to write it down and know that the people reading it understand how I feel. I don’t feel as distraught as I did this morning... the shock of it suprises me every time as I really should be used to this disappointment by now. I still feel low and generally ‘on edge’. Been looking at holidays and possibly a weekend away in a couple of weeks (seems to be my coping strategy) but I’m so fussy I haven’t found anything I like thought it would be good to have a weekend away in two weeks time when I’ll hopefully be in my fertile days!

Yeah I can’t imagine I’ll ever be at a point where I don’t want to try. I’m quite lucky in that the actual ‘trying’ doesn’t stress me out, even if we are dtd when we don’t want to sometimes. It’s the week before I’m due on, the build up to af/praying that I’ll get my bfp week that I find the most difficult. That’s the bit I wish I could give up! And I wouldn’t want to get to that week knowing I hadn’t tried. Also I was forced to stop trying for two months at Xmas due to mmr jabs and I hated every moment of not trying!!

We followed advice I’d read on the internet throughout ttc, where we dtd every other day. Now we’re just dtd every day that we can/feel up to it running up to and just after ovulation. And the last 3 months, we’ve basically been dtd for about 10 days in a row over the fertile period. I watched a fertility expert who was on this morning the other week and he basically said that most couples just need to have more sex, rather than treatment! So I’m hoping he’s right, especially as I have to wait 3 years ttc before ivf.

Decided today that the next time my sister in laws ask about me having babies, I’m gonna tell them the truth. I know they’ll be supportive and at least that will stop them asking. Though, they only recently asked me so I don’t think I’ll be asked by them again soon.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Well I was due to ov today according to glow CD17 and we have had our best month ever I think for covering the days. I always think that we have been going enough but when i looked back we were only managing 3 or 4 times around fertile period and that was only a couple of months in the last 4 or 5.

So took your advice @peony and just gunned it this cycle and done the best we can. We have covered 6 out of 9 days since CD9 and on 2 of those days we have DTD twice so surely 8 (or 9 as tonight might happen too) times around ov has to give us just about the best odds that we can.

To be honest it is the first month in a long time where it hasn't felt stressful or a chore but actually just like we are in it together.

Chances are it won't be our month but I'm pleased we have had a good crack at it for our last month before HSG.

Hope everyone has had a good weekend. Love and baby dust to you all x

 

[1sttimer]

hello everybody! I've been a little quiet on here recently but I have been dipping in to keep an eye on how you are all doing - I'm sorry peony and Alexis that you are feeling the way you are. It's a soul destroying journey and I feel your pain but hopefully each and everyone of us will see our light at the end of the tunnel soon enough, Nikki I have everything crossed for you, sounds like you've had a good month.

So, I went to see Dr Quenby on Friday who is the RMC specialist in Coventry - I had high hopes and not quite sure what I feel now. The general outcome was that she wants me to attend her implantation clinic which takes a biopsy for NK cells, she basically said that the biopsy itself can often be a good thing for helping your uterus regenerate but if it's nk cells as well then I'd need steroids. Other than that and a bit of progesterone she said there wasn't much more they could do, other than she kept reiterating that we mustn't give up. I'm feeling positive because I want to think this is a step forward and not a step back as it has always felt before, but because I have to do two biopsys over two months, and there can be no chance that you're pregnant at all when you have them we wont be able to try again now until at least October - having already not tried for 2 months, 4 months is gonna kill me...but I have to think of the long term gain. Anyway, keeping positive that this is the route we need to go down and it will work out in the end - I really have no alternative at this point. By the time we start trying again we'll be getting into year 5... god that sounds depressing!

Thinking of you all! It's Monday - another fresh week, another fresh mindset xx