Long termers 6 months or more

[Alexis2017]

So Brown wipe before bed means no docs will be needed. She will no doubt be in full flow by morning.

That's me officially 12 cycles down and really questioning now how much longer I can continue on this rollercoaster. I think I may need a break So if you don't here from me for a while it's cos I've logged out to try and have some down time.

Xx

I know the feeling. Hope you can take a break and get some down time . Sorry about the witch ! AF will be arriving in the morning for me ! X

 

[xMillie]

Hey ladies, sorry we are all still here
I hope you are all as well as you can be


I’ve been trying to keep away .. because it helps a little.

I’ve given up with my ttc journal as it’s the same thing every month, I must sound like a broken record.


I was doing well this month but now I’m starting to think about it all too much!

I managed to completely skip out using opks ..just by not even noticing where I was in my cycle.. but I think we dtd almost everyday over potential fertile week (and actually wanted to dtd!).

I’m around cd19/20 now and had some pink spotting a couple of days ago but it never ends well for me so I can’t image this is it. I’m feeling crampy today as well, feels like I’m having a cruel trick played on me..

xx

 

[SugaryIris]

Cd47 and finally some brown spotting today, never been so excited to see it before! This cycle has dragged on for so long. Hopefully, I’m not in for a whole week of spotting before she arrives, she does love to taunt me for a week on my longer cycles.

Interested to read that book! Might have to get it as an ebook as I can just imagine DHs face if I started getting out books on it as well!

 

[Alexis2017]

Hey ladies, sorry we are all still here
I hope you are all as well as you can be


I’ve been trying to keep away .. because it helps a little.

I’ve given up with my ttc journal as it’s the same thing every month, I must sound like a broken record.


I was doing well this month but now I’m starting to think about it all too much!

I managed to completely skip out using opks ..just by not even noticing where I was in my cycle.. but I think we dtd almost everyday over potential fertile week (and actually wanted to dtd!).

I’m around cd19/20 now and had some pink spotting a couple of days ago but it never ends well for me so I can’t image this is it. I’m feeling crampy today as well, feels like I’m having a cruel trick played on me..

xx

Thinking of you hunni.!

I am just on cd3 then going to try dtd as much as poss but hubby is away 4 days over main fertile says so no doubt this wont be our month.. .then we have another 4 cycles before IVF starts. I'm not temping or opk or doing any charting anymore. 18 months of that is more than enough

 

[SugaryIris]

She came! After 49 days she finally turned up! How you doing Nikki?

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

She came! After 49 days she finally turned up! How you doing Nikki?

Well managed a couple of days off forum to catch my breath. Have got 2 days off work now and then only a short week next week followed by some time off to do horsey things. Looking forward to the break. Someone at work casually told me I should be having a little girl of my own. I just laughed it off as always.

I have calmed a little. Witch has taken a couple of days to get in full flow really.

I'm trying to find forward things to focus on to take my mind off it all because I can't continue letting it consume me.

Hopefully we will have OH sperm results soon. Then I'm gonna try and not obsess this month or particularly try so hard. Just relax a little and get through to my appt on 4th July and see what that brings.

Love and baby dust to you all....I'm gonna try and step back a little. But I miss you all too much to disappear x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Hope you are all ok.

Having a bad day today. Just all washing over me like waves of emotion.

Hope you are doing better than me.

Hubby going to call GP tomorrow as will be 2 weeks on Tues since tests and had no notice of results yet.

Want to just crawl into a hole and sob x

 

[MoominGirl]

Hope you are all ok.

Having a bad day today. Just all washing over me like waves of emotion.

Hope you are doing better than me.

Hubby going to call GP tomorrow as will be 2 weeks on Tues since tests and had no notice of results yet.

Want to just crawl into a hole and sob x

I hope everything goes ok tomorrow. In our experience with results, they tended to get in touch far quicker if there was an issue. Hopefully no news is good news. Sorry you're feeling rubbish today.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Hope you are all ok.

Having a bad day today. Just all washing over me like waves of emotion.

Hope you are doing better than me.

Hubby going to call GP tomorrow as will be 2 weeks on Tues since tests and had no notice of results yet.

Want to just crawl into a hole and sob x

I hope everything goes ok tomorrow. In our experience with results, they tended to get in touch far quicker if there was an issue. Hopefully no news is good news. Sorry you're feeling rubbish today.

Thanks moomin. He got them over the phone this morning and they just said everything was normal. Didn't elaborate anymore than that so guess everything is ok.

Just got to wait until my appt now on the 4th July and see what that brings. Will try for some sexy time this month but think I'm going to take foot off the gas and worry bit less about what and when and just roll with it as best as I can x

 

[MoominGirl]

Hope you are all ok.

Having a bad day today. Just all washing over me like waves of emotion.

Hope you are doing better than me.

Hubby going to call GP tomorrow as will be 2 weeks on Tues since tests and had no notice of results yet.

Want to just crawl into a hole and sob x

I hope everything goes ok tomorrow. In our experience with results, they tended to get in touch far quicker if there was an issue. Hopefully no news is good news. Sorry you're feeling rubbish today.

Thanks moomin. He got them over the phone this morning and they just said everything was normal. Didn't elaborate anymore than that so guess everything is ok.

Just got to wait until my appt now on the 4th July and see what that brings. Will try for some sexy time this month but think I'm going to take foot off the gas and worry bit less about what and when and just roll with it as best as I can x

So glad to hear everything was ok. I always found it helpful to ask for print outs of results and things. I know it wouldn't be for everyone but with waiting so long between appointments it was good to have something to refer back to.

Good idea to dial it back a little bit. It helped so much when I was able to let go a little bit. It just stops it consuming you which is never good. Hope your appointment goes well.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

 

[Sometimesoon]

New here
Lurked for a few weeks and gained some good information.

Just over 10 months for me and my wife so far.
We have brushed up on our diets. Exercising regularly. Taking more and more vitamins daily in hope that all mentioned help us.

It’s a hard process not conceiving and seeing others around us becoming pregnant and also people who aren’t in relationships have one night stands and gain a child that they didn’t want from it.

It seems like everywhere we go we see the above and at times it is intoxicating. I’ve started blanking it out when I see news of pregnancies.

We are being strong and ultimately trying to enjoy eachother and the peace that only having eachother entails but we are ready. Been ready for a while now when if you would have asked me a year or two ago before the wedding and house purchase I’d have said there is no rush.

There is no rush now but not conceiving every month leads sometimes to sadness.
I know it’ll happen eventually and we are trying our best to by looking after our bodies.

It’s a long waiting game. The upcoming days are the fertile window and also significant dates in our relationship so it would be unbelievable if it did happen but getting hopes up is a silly thing which leads to dashed dreams.

It’ll happen when it happens

 

[SugaryIris]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

Hi lovely,

I’ve been taking a step back so not been on here much.

Maybe not getting back in the saddle would be good for you? Have a month relaxed and both recharge and remind yourselves what it is like to be a couple without ttc! What bliss!!

 

[SugaryIris]

New here
Lurked for a few weeks and gained some good information.

Just over 10 months for me and my wife so far.
We have brushed up on our diets. Exercising regularly. Taking more and more vitamins daily in hope that all mentioned help us.

It’s a hard process not conceiving and seeing others around us becoming pregnant and also people who aren’t in relationships have one night stands and gain a child that they didn’t want from it.

It seems like everywhere we go we see the above and at times it is intoxicating. I’ve started blanking it out when I see news of pregnancies.

We are being strong and ultimately trying to enjoy eachother and the peace that only having eachother entails but we are ready. Been ready for a while now when if you would have asked me a year or two ago before the wedding and house purchase I’d have said there is no rush.

There is no rush now but not conceiving every month leads sometimes to sadness.
I know it’ll happen eventually and we are trying our best to by looking after our bodies.

It’s a long waiting game. The upcoming days are the fertile window and also significant dates in our relationship so it would be unbelievable if it did happen but getting hopes up is a silly thing which leads to dashed dreams.

It’ll happen when it happens

Welcome!

Try not to worry, just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t, I was so suprised when I realised the actual chances of conceiving each month are really low.

We are in month 10 too.

Lots of people on here who can provide really good advice and some long journeys that end in natural bfps!!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

Hi lovely,

I’ve been taking a step back so not been on here much.

Maybe not getting back in the saddle would be good for you? Have a month relaxed and both recharge and remind yourselves what it is like to be a couple without ttc! What bliss!!

Thanks iris I would be more pleased if it wasn't hubby feeling so down that is s contributing factor. He has suffered from depression for a while now and altho he admitted he needed help...after one trip to the docs and one counselling session that was that he didn't think it was helping.

It is tied to financial worries but unfortunately I can't seem to get him to see that finances are improving but his mood is not so may be there is more to it than just money. Feel pretty helpless. A BFP would really give him something to focus forward on but frightens me in case he spirals into more worry if it happens.

Other than that just trying to chug along until my next appointment. I feel like I need to know all is ok cos right now I feel like I'm the reason now that we know his sample was all fine x

 

[Sometimesoon]

New here
Lurked for a few weeks and gained some good information.

Just over 10 months for me and my wife so far.
We have brushed up on our diets. Exercising regularly. Taking more and more vitamins daily in hope that all mentioned help us.

It’s a hard process not conceiving and seeing others around us becoming pregnant and also people who aren’t in relationships have one night stands and gain a child that they didn’t want from it.

It seems like everywhere we go we see the above and at times it is intoxicating. I’ve started blanking it out when I see news of pregnancies.

We are being strong and ultimately trying to enjoy eachother and the peace that only having eachother entails but we are ready. Been ready for a while now when if you would have asked me a year or two ago before the wedding and house purchase I’d have said there is no rush.

There is no rush now but not conceiving every month leads sometimes to sadness.
I know it’ll happen eventually and we are trying our best to by looking after our bodies.

It’s a long waiting game. The upcoming days are the fertile window and also significant dates in our relationship so it would be unbelievable if it did happen but getting hopes up is a silly thing which leads to dashed dreams.

It’ll happen when it happens

Welcome!

Try not to worry, just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t, I was so suprised when I realised the actual chances of conceiving each month are really low.

We are in month 10 too.

Lots of people on here who can provide really good advice and some long journeys that end in natural bfps!!

Thank you SugaryIris.
In school all them years it was made to seem like you’d only have to do the deed once and you would have a baby within months.
It’s been crazy but the time it is taking us we are cherishing actually being together and having our own space

 

[MoominGirl]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

Hi lovely,

I’ve been taking a step back so not been on here much.

Maybe not getting back in the saddle would be good for you? Have a month relaxed and both recharge and remind yourselves what it is like to be a couple without ttc! What bliss!!

Thanks iris I would be more pleased if it wasn't hubby feeling so down that is s contributing factor. He has suffered from depression for a while now and altho he admitted he needed help...after one trip to the docs and one counselling session that was that he didn't think it was helping.

It is tied to financial worries but unfortunately I can't seem to get him to see that finances are improving but his mood is not so may be there is more to it than just money. Feel pretty helpless. A BFP would really give him something to focus forward on but frightens me in case he spirals into more worry if it happens.

Other than that just trying to chug along until my next appointment. I feel like I need to know all is ok cos right now I feel like I'm the reason now that we know his sample was all fine x

Please try not to put pressure on yourself Nikki though I know it's hard. We had problems on both sides as you may remember but one thing to remember is that if there are problems with you then it's far more likely it will be fixable whereas with men they are far quicker to just write you off. That was our experience anyway. All the issues I had they were able to fix to a point where they said my chances were no less likely compared to someone else, everything else being equal. The more likely scenario is that there will be nothing wrong with you which of course is reassuring in some ways but actually isn't all that helpful when you're still not pregnant. We found that far more frustrating than we expected after we ticked everything else off the list.

Take each appointment as it comes and try not to overwhelm yourself. It really helped me once I did this. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

Hi lovely,

I’ve been taking a step back so not been on here much.

Maybe not getting back in the saddle would be good for you? Have a month relaxed and both recharge and remind yourselves what it is like to be a couple without ttc! What bliss!!

Thanks iris I would be more pleased if it wasn't hubby feeling so down that is s contributing factor. He has suffered from depression for a while now and altho he admitted he needed help...after one trip to the docs and one counselling session that was that he didn't think it was helping.

It is tied to financial worries but unfortunately I can't seem to get him to see that finances are improving but his mood is not so may be there is more to it than just money. Feel pretty helpless. A BFP would really give him something to focus forward on but frightens me in case he spirals into more worry if it happens.

Other than that just trying to chug along until my next appointment. I feel like I need to know all is ok cos right now I feel like I'm the reason now that we know his sample was all fine x

Please try not to put pressure on yourself Nikki though I know it's hard. We had problems on both sides as you may remember but one thing to remember is that if there are problems with you then it's far more likely it will be fixable whereas with men they are far quicker to just write you off. That was our experience anyway. All the issues I had they were able to fix to a point where they said my chances were no less likely compared to someone else, everything else being equal. The more likely scenario is that there will be nothing wrong with you which of course is reassuring in some ways but actually isn't all that helpful when you're still not pregnant. We found that far more frustrating than we expected after we ticked everything else off the list.

Take each appointment as it comes and try not to overwhelm yourself. It really helped me once I did this. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

Thanks moomin. I'm not so much putting pressure on as just wanting answers I suppose. Half me wants the all clear and half wants there to be something that's fixable so we not in limbo.

On a more positive note we are away in York for a wedding in August and have just booked a hot tub lodge for one night the night before the wedding to tag onto the trip down. So will mean we get 2 night away so hopefully a bit of relax time away from home and giving us both something to look forward to. Fingers crossed AF doesn't time for then lol the last time we did something similar for my birthday I was on.

Feels like 2 week wait again but for appt this time. Just trying to get through until then. Few days of work then off from next weekend for a week and going down to see my parents so that will be a nice change of scenery to distract x

 

[MoominGirl]

How is everyone?

We seem to be struggling to get back in the saddle. It's been 3 weeks since we last DTD at end of last fertile period. The long wait for AF then period when she finally came knocked us back. We both just seem so tired from work at the minute. Had evening together last night but was nephews birthday dinner so by the time we had stuffed an Italian down neither if us were particularly in the mood.

I feel ok about it from a ttc point of view actually as I am feeling more relaxed but from a couple point of view I am missing being close and horny as hell lol. But then u always had the higher sex drive.

How is everyone? Any news on anything? Xx

Hi lovely,

I’ve been taking a step back so not been on here much.

Maybe not getting back in the saddle would be good for you? Have a month relaxed and both recharge and remind yourselves what it is like to be a couple without ttc! What bliss!!

Thanks iris I would be more pleased if it wasn't hubby feeling so down that is s contributing factor. He has suffered from depression for a while now and altho he admitted he needed help...after one trip to the docs and one counselling session that was that he didn't think it was helping.

It is tied to financial worries but unfortunately I can't seem to get him to see that finances are improving but his mood is not so may be there is more to it than just money. Feel pretty helpless. A BFP would really give him something to focus forward on but frightens me in case he spirals into more worry if it happens.

Other than that just trying to chug along until my next appointment. I feel like I need to know all is ok cos right now I feel like I'm the reason now that we know his sample was all fine x

Please try not to put pressure on yourself Nikki though I know it's hard. We had problems on both sides as you may remember but one thing to remember is that if there are problems with you then it's far more likely it will be fixable whereas with men they are far quicker to just write you off. That was our experience anyway. All the issues I had they were able to fix to a point where they said my chances were no less likely compared to someone else, everything else being equal. The more likely scenario is that there will be nothing wrong with you which of course is reassuring in some ways but actually isn't all that helpful when you're still not pregnant. We found that far more frustrating than we expected after we ticked everything else off the list.

Take each appointment as it comes and try not to overwhelm yourself. It really helped me once I did this. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

Thanks moomin. I'm not so much putting pressure on as just wanting answers I suppose. Half me wants the all clear and half wants there to be something that's fixable so we not in limbo.

On a more positive note we are away in York for a wedding in August and have just booked a hot tub lodge for one night the night before the wedding to tag onto the trip down. So will mean we get 2 night away so hopefully a bit of relax time away from home and giving us both something to look forward to. Fingers crossed AF doesn't time for then lol the last time we did something similar for my birthday I was on.

Feels like 2 week wait again but for appt this time. Just trying to get through until then. Few days of work then off from next weekend for a week and going down to see my parents so that will be a nice change of scenery to distract x

I was always about wanting answers but sadly there aren't always any. We found ourselves in both the problem category and the unexplained category. I can't honestly say one was easier to deal with than the other in an emotional sense but having a problems meant there were more appointments so it sort of felt like there was something to do if you know what I mean.

Glad you're keeping busy until the appointment. Everywhere is different but they will likely talk through your history and results then probably arrange scans for you as the next step.

 

[KatD]

So I just couldn't stay away from this forum lol go figure. Glad to see some have had good news and good to still see some familiar faces around here. Been keeping busy the last couple of months with various things not TTC related. Hubby is in hospital today for his Vericele Procedure so hopefully his sperm count will improve in the next few months. We'll be seeing the GP next week for his follow up nd my gynie will call to confirm my tests.

In the meantime it's back to to charting and all that jazz. Nothing else to do but to try and stay positive, I guess.

FX to all the ladies who are still in the boat with me.