Long termers 6 months or more

[SugaryIris]

So day 4 of flashing smiley, first time using these and I’m wondering if I’m ever going to get a surge... it’s now cd23, is there a point where if you haven’t ovulated it’s too late and you won’t ovulate that cycle?

A girl also announced her pregnancy at work today and walked around the office showing everyone her scan, I hate how jealous and upset I get but I just hid in the toilet and waited it out as looking at her made me want to cry!

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

 

[_GG_]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

Sometimes, as awkward as it is, it is worth saying something like, "if only it were that easy" or "it's not for want of trying, we're worn out"...but ending with a smile and change of subject. Shuts people the fuck up and makes them think before they do it to the next person.

When I got to the longed for 3 months, I put a post up on my facebook about how we never know the struggles going on behind closed doors. I bared all about the losses last year and the later term loss in my 20's and basically said I wished I'd had the courage to tell people when it was happening as I just wanted the questions to stop. Quite a few people said they had never thought how hurtful it could be and quite a few had been going through much the same.

Glad you enjoyed the wedding otherwise Nikki.

Oh...and maybe I can satisfy your baby desires in a non upsetting way as this happened today

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

Sometimes, as awkward as it is, it is worth saying something like, "if only it were that easy" or "it's not for want of trying, we're worn out"...but ending with a smile and change of subject. Shuts people the fuck up and makes them think before they do it to the next person.

When I got to the longed for 3 months, I put a post up on my facebook about how we never know the struggles going on behind closed doors. I bared all about the losses last year and the later term loss in my 20's and basically said I wished I'd had the courage to tell people when it was happening as I just wanted the questions to stop. Quite a few people said they had never thought how hurtful it could be and quite a few had been going through much the same.

Glad you enjoyed the wedding otherwise Nikki.

Oh...and maybe I can satisfy your baby desires in a non upsetting way as this happened today

Just typed a long reply and phone lost it grr .


OMG GG sooooo beautiful just lush little cutie. I want a cuddle!

I had so good comebacks yesterday one person gestured at friends with kids and said that will be you next year and I said are you having a laugh I can't grow them that big in a year! Got a laugh and changed the subject nicely.

I'm getting better at diverting the questions as hurtful as they can be. And I have spoken to a few friends who are in similar situation to us just getting married or just married and put it out there that it's not nice to ask and some people have problems or miscarriages so it's not o.k. and I think that helps plant a seed that maybe things are not quite going to plan for us x

 

[_GG_]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

Sometimes, as awkward as it is, it is worth saying something like, "if only it were that easy" or "it's not for want of trying, we're worn out"...but ending with a smile and change of subject. Shuts people the fuck up and makes them think before they do it to the next person.

When I got to the longed for 3 months, I put a post up on my facebook about how we never know the struggles going on behind closed doors. I bared all about the losses last year and the later term loss in my 20's and basically said I wished I'd had the courage to tell people when it was happening as I just wanted the questions to stop. Quite a few people said they had never thought how hurtful it could be and quite a few had been going through much the same.

Glad you enjoyed the wedding otherwise Nikki.

Oh...and maybe I can satisfy your baby desires in a non upsetting way as this happened today

Just typed a long reply and phone lost it grr .


OMG GG sooooo beautiful just lush little cutie. I want a cuddle!

I had so good comebacks yesterday one person gestured at friends with kids and said that will be you next year and I said are you having a laugh I can't grow them that big in a year! Got a laugh and changed the subject nicely.

I'm getting better at diverting the questions as hurtful as they can be. And I have spoken to a few friends who are in similar situation to us just getting married or just married and put it out there that it's not nice to ask and some people have problems or miscarriages so it's not o.k. and I think that helps plant a seed that maybe things are not quite going to plan for us x

Bless you. Aabsolutely. Planting the seed is always a good idea. Great comeback by the way x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

How is everyone?

We have had a decent month DTD wise....best for last 3 months from what I have tracked on glow although not all quite in peak week but tbh just nice to be on track and spending time together.

Got my dates a bit muddled hubby sperm analysis is 29th May so 2 weeks away. Then my referral appt isn't until 4th July so will have a cycle in between. No idea how quickly will get sperm results back.

Not feeling remotely confident for this month....think I am in an ok place though just want to keep trying gently without it occupying my every thought. In the main been doing ok last few weeks.

Hope you are all well x

 

[SugaryIris]

Morning Nikki,

I know this month isn’t our month, I’ve had 7 flashing smiley faces in a row so no lh surge and no temperature change either and we are now cd26. Doesn’t seem like I’m pvulating this month. My cm etc has been the same as every other month with no notable changes so I’m wondering if I’m not ovulating any month. Guess I’ll just have to track and see. Feeling a little bit blue about it all but chucking myself into the gym to distract my mind!

I hope you get some answers from both of your appointments x

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

Morning Nikki,

I know this month isn’t our month, I’ve had 7 flashing smiley faces in a row so no lh surge and no temperature change either and we are now cd26. Doesn’t seem like I’m pvulating this month. My cm etc has been the same as every other month with no notable changes so I’m wondering if I’m not ovulating any month. Guess I’ll just have to track and see. Feeling a little bit blue about it all but chucking myself into the gym to distract my mind!

I hope you get some answers from both of your appointments x

How frustrating for you iris....i haven't temped the last cycle partly because I forgot a few days at the beginning but then also cos I felt I needed to switch off a little from it all.

Maybe some time out from opks and temping might help you to relax a little? It has helped me to feel less consumed by this journey.

I hope the next cycle brings you more hope. Throwing yourself into the gym sounds admirable! I only ride and should really do more exercise and lose a bit of weight but I can find that spark of motivation at the moment.

Xx

 

[MissCindy]

Hi everyone,

May I join you? I started TTC via AI (donor) two years ago this month, although only managed 16 cycles in that time, so I guess technically it's only been just over a year. Feeling a bit down as I know we haven't made it again this month. Got bfn and started spotting today. Af due tomorrow so coming right on time...

I went to my GP in March. She kindly told me that they're no longer allowed to refer people to fertility! So all she could offer me apparently was a blood test (day 21 along with thyroid and other things). All came back normal. At least I now know for sure I ovulate I suppose... But still, not quite sure what my next step is now!

I keep reading about ladies being referred or having different tests so I'm confused! While I know you can no longer get ivf on the nhs in some areas, I would have thought you could still get some tests done on the nhs?! What are your experiences?? I just booked another appointment for next month with a different GP who specialises in family planning, to see if there's anything else they could test me for... But I'd like to know what I can expect to hear... I definitely wasn't expecting to pretty much be told at my very first appointment that they could do nothing for me other than a blood test! Hoping I misunderstood her!

 

[SugaryIris]

Morning Nikki,

I know this month isn’t our month, I’ve had 7 flashing smiley faces in a row so no lh surge and no temperature change either and we are now cd26. Doesn’t seem like I’m pvulating this month. My cm etc has been the same as every other month with no notable changes so I’m wondering if I’m not ovulating any month. Guess I’ll just have to track and see. Feeling a little bit blue about it all but chucking myself into the gym to distract my mind!

I hope you get some answers from both of your appointments x

How frustrating for you iris....i haven't temped the last cycle partly because I forgot a few days at the beginning but then also cos I felt I needed to switch off a little from it all.

Maybe some time out from opks and temping might help you to relax a little? It has helped me to feel less consumed by this journey.

I hope the next cycle brings you more hope. Throwing yourself into the gym sounds admirable! I only ride and should really do more exercise and lose a bit of weight but I can find that spark of motivation at the moment.

Xx

This is my first month of temping and using opks. My cycles are different lengths so I don’t see any other way to figure out when my fertile period is!

Yeh I just need to focus on me for a while, I know I’ve only been at this for 9 months but it’s starting to take its toll!

 

[SugaryIris]

Hi everyone,

May I join you? I started TTC via AI (donor) two years ago this month, although only managed 16 cycles in that time, so I guess technically it's only been just over a year. Feeling a bit down as I know we haven't made it again this month. Got bfn and started spotting today. Af due tomorrow so coming right on time...

I went to my GP in March. She kindly told me that they're no longer allowed to refer people to fertility! So all she could offer me apparently was a blood test (day 21 along with thyroid and other things). All came back normal. At least I now know for sure I ovulate I suppose... But still, not quite sure what my next step is now!

I keep reading about ladies being referred or having different tests so I'm confused! While I know you can no longer get ivf on the nhs in some areas, I would have thought you could still get some tests done on the nhs?! What are your experiences?? I just booked another appointment for next month with a different GP who specialises in family planning, to see if there's anything else they could test me for... But I'd like to know what I can expect to hear... I definitely wasn't expecting to pretty much be told at my very first appointment that they could do nothing for me other than a blood test! Hoping I misunderstood her!

They have stopped ivf on the nhs in my area too although I think you can get some treatments. Unfortunately it all depends on where you live as to what you can get. It’s outrageous how your postcode can affect the level of care you can get.

I really hope you get some answers soon x

 

[Alexis2017]

So this week sucks. My friend took his own life. He suffered depression. He jumped of a bridge. Life is so cruel and I am so done right now

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

So this week sucks. My friend took his own life. He suffered depression. He jumped of a bridge. Life is so cruel and I am so done right now

Oh my god Alexis that is just awful. Can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling or his family. Terrifying to think that someone gets that low they just can't see any other way out.

No words I can say will help but if it has ended his pain and suffering take some comfort from that.

It really is a seriously cruel world x

 

[SugaryIris]

Alexis, I’m so so sorry.

 

[_GG_]

So this week sucks. My friend took his own life. He suffered depression. He jumped of a bridge. Life is so cruel and I am so done right now

Alexis, I am so sorry. I really hope this helps though as this is something I sadly know too much about.

Depression is a clinical illness as defined by medical science. It is therefore as real and tangible as heart disease or cancer but very difficult to treat.

Your friend didn't take his own life, he died of depression. His life was taken from him by a clinical illness of the chemical balance of his brain. The act is merely a symptom. He is free from his troubles now and I truly hope that one day, that can give you some comfort.

Grieving loss through suicide is extremely difficult due to the extra and often unexpected emotions of anger and guilt to name a couple. If you need a shoulder, pm me or call me 07528340179. No feelings you or any of his loved ones have are wrong. Be kind to yourself and take it all one emotion at a time. Xxx

 

[1sttimer]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

Sometimes, as awkward as it is, it is worth saying something like, "if only it were that easy" or "it's not for want of trying, we're worn out"...but ending with a smile and change of subject. Shuts people the fuck up and makes them think before they do it to the next person.

When I got to the longed for 3 months, I put a post up on my facebook about how we never know the struggles going on behind closed doors. I bared all about the losses last year and the later term loss in my 20's and basically said I wished I'd had the courage to tell people when it was happening as I just wanted the questions to stop. Quite a few people said they had never thought how hurtful it could be and quite a few had been going through much the same.

Glad you enjoyed the wedding otherwise Nikki.

Oh...and maybe I can satisfy your baby desires in a non upsetting way as this happened today

HI GG, do you mind me asking about your losses and what your experience is, did you seek treatment for them with this pregnancy or did you just keep trying? I'm not prying so please tell me to p*** off if you'd rather not go into the ins and outs - the reason I ask is that I'm forever seeing that my 'situation' of multiple MC's is so rare and only happens to such a small amount of people, which is bloody great when it seems the odds are so small and yet still you get such bad luck! I'm always really keen to see, with those people who are now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel as you are now so far along with your wee bubba how it worked out for others. I suppose I'm still hoping that it could be possible to just have had some bad luck and it all be ok if we keep trying but that might just be wishful thinking xx In short, I just love to hear a success story after people have had their struggles...it gives me some hope! x

Alexis, I am also so so sorry to hear about your friend - its such a cruel world. I really hope you are able to find some comfort in time, as GG says that he is no longer suffering. Urghhhh...I could really scream this week for the suffering people are having to go through so unnecessarily. My sister's best friend is dying of cancer at the moment, its any day now and she leaves behind a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Just a cruel cruel and unfair world, bad things happening to good people. xx

 

[_GG_]

Fabulous friends wedding today with loads of mates. Great day but sadly brought with it the string of your turn next for bairns....surely it's time....when you gonna have one. Took all my strength to laugh them off and turn away and neck my drink.

Sometimes you just wanna scream we are having problems so fuck off!!

Also friend was there who got married last June and is pregnant with their second child....came back off the pill after the wedding and wasn't going to TRY then fell within 2 months.

It's just heartbresking sometimes x

Sometimes, as awkward as it is, it is worth saying something like, "if only it were that easy" or "it's not for want of trying, we're worn out"...but ending with a smile and change of subject. Shuts people the fuck up and makes them think before they do it to the next person.

When I got to the longed for 3 months, I put a post up on my facebook about how we never know the struggles going on behind closed doors. I bared all about the losses last year and the later term loss in my 20's and basically said I wished I'd had the courage to tell people when it was happening as I just wanted the questions to stop. Quite a few people said they had never thought how hurtful it could be and quite a few had been going through much the same.

Glad you enjoyed the wedding otherwise Nikki.

Oh...and maybe I can satisfy your baby desires in a non upsetting way as this happened today

HI GG, do you mind me asking about your losses and what your experience is, did you seek treatment for them with this pregnancy or did you just keep trying? I'm not prying so please tell me to p*** off if you'd rather not go into the ins and outs - the reason I ask is that I'm forever seeing that my 'situation' of multiple MC's is so rare and only happens to such a small amount of people, which is bloody great when it seems the odds are so small and yet still you get such bad luck! I'm always really keen to see, with those people who are now seeing the light at the end of the tunnel as you are now so far along with your wee bubba how it worked out for others. I suppose I'm still hoping that it could be possible to just have had some bad luck and it all be ok if we keep trying but that might just be wishful thinking xx In short, I just love to hear a success story after people have had their struggles...it gives me some hope! x

Alexis, I am also so so sorry to hear about your friend - its such a cruel world. I really hope you are able to find some comfort in time, as GG says that he is no longer suffering. Urghhhh...I could really scream this week for the suffering people are having to go through so unnecessarily. My sister's best friend is dying of cancer at the moment, its any day now and she leaves behind a 5 year old and a 2 year old. Just a cruel cruel and unfair world, bad things happening to good people. xx

Hi. I didn't have it nearly as hard as the ladies on this thread as conception was never an issue...just holding on to them was, so I'll pm you tomorrow about it all. Hope that's okay.
I'm so sorry about your sisters friend. Xxx

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

That little voice is back today.....the one that says you might be feeling like that cos your pregnant.

Feel broken today aching all over. Tbh think I'm coming down with a virus horrible dry throat on Monday when I went back to work.

Been off today and done nothing strenuous. Had a driving lesson (for trailer test) so that was a little stressful and had to concentrate but tonight I can barely move. My back and neck and legs all stiff as a board and achey


I think it's just me getting old and my body telling me I need to get back into better shape. But that little voice just creeps in.....

Xx

 

[SugaryIris]

That little voice is back today.....the one that says you might be feeling like that cos your pregnant.

Feel broken today aching all over. Tbh think I'm coming down with a virus horrible dry throat on Monday when I went back to work.

Been off today and done nothing strenuous. Had a driving lesson (for trailer test) so that was a little stressful and had to concentrate but tonight I can barely move. My back and neck and legs all stiff as a board and achey


I think it's just me getting old and my body telling me I need to get back into better shape. But that little voice just creeps in.....

Xx

Where are you in your cycle?

I hate symptom spotting but it’s just impossible when you are in your Tww!

Day 9 of flashing smileys today and the instructions say stop testing after 9 as you won’t see a peak. No change in temps either so no ovulation yet and on cd28. So I guess I’m not having a tww this month. I don’t know when to expect af though or whether to even bother trying to dtd every other day until she arrives just in case.

A girl at work announced she was pregnant, she’s getting married in a few weeks. I was really upset.

 

[Nikkibiscuit]

That little voice is back today.....the one that says you might be feeling like that cos your pregnant.

Feel broken today aching all over. Tbh think I'm coming down with a virus horrible dry throat on Monday when I went back to work.

Been off today and done nothing strenuous. Had a driving lesson (for trailer test) so that was a little stressful and had to concentrate but tonight I can barely move. My back and neck and legs all stiff as a board and achey


I think it's just me getting old and my body telling me I need to get back into better shape. But that little voice just creeps in.....

Xx

Where are you in your cycle?

I hate symptom spotting but it’s just impossible when you are in your Tww!

Day 9 of flashing smileys today and the instructions say stop testing after 9 as you won’t see a peak. No change in temps either so no ovulation yet and on cd28. So I guess I’m not having a tww this month. I don’t know when to expect af though or whether to even bother trying to dtd every other day until she arrives just in case.

A girl at work announced she was pregnant, she’s getting married in a few weeks. I was really upset.

Ugh it's just so hard when people fall so easily. I try to tell myself now that maybe they have had the tough journey we have and just don't tell people. I find solace in that.

I'm 8dpo today so due AF early next week. Haven't tested and tbh going to try not to this month unless AF is late. Although not sure I trust my ability to not poas.

Hubby sperm analysis booked for 29th so trying to look forwards towards that as the next benchmark x