**** july mummies 2018 *****

[PeanutButter]

Just had some blood when I wiped was only a tiny bit. But was red x

 

[KHTW]

Just had some blood when I wiped was only a tiny bit. But was red x

Try not to worry hun it's probably nothing but call your midwife and speak to them xx

 

[KHTW]

Hope nobody minds my ranting today. I'm absolutely gutted, angry and upset about something I heard last night.

My OH told his twin brother about the baby when we found out, which is fine, but his brother let it slip to another friend. Well last night we've heard from our best friends (who knew) that everyone has been talking about it!!! So basically the whole of our town knows about the pregnancy (small town). It's so unfair. My cousin lives in our town and I hadn't told her, I've had to tell her this morning quickly so she doesn't found out from hearsay.

I'm just so so so upset, I feel like it jinxes everything. I'm 8 weeks today so still 4 weeks until we wanted to announce it. Now some dickhead who we thought was a friend has gone and told everyone and it's gone round the whole town like gossip!!! It's not gossip, it's very sensitive information ffs!!! It's something that we should be able to announce when we want to, not spread round the town like someone's dirty laundry.

I can't believe it, I'm in shock and I'm so upset. I feel depressed, I don't want to go anywhere. I've got things coming up with these friends and I don't want to go to them now because they all know but they're hiding that they know because they know they're not meant to know (does that make sense?!)

Ahhhh sorry to put a downer on this morning but I'm devastated

Hope everyone else is okay xx

I am sorry somebody felt the need to share your news!!! You have the right to be upset. And if I am honest... your OH's twin needs a telling off... asshole! x

 

[KHTW]

JemRose that's great about OH. Happy days get him spoiling you now. Xx

Lara omg Zambia that's amazing. Our was planned so OH is excited. How has your OH said he's feeling? Xx

Have a good day everyone. Away to go shopping now before work this afternoon while ivy is in nursery. I'm dreading it. Raw meat makes me heave. Have to grab some Xmas food in too cause I've done NOTHING. Gonna be a looonnggg morning :/

My OH...is 36 by the way I am 27 we have been together for 3 years nearly....he said he has other things he wants to spend money on like a boat and travel the world. I could have killed him! I have PCOS and was taken off the pill by the Dr in August and he knew all the risks involved with unprotected sex!

Men can be funny like that... He probably needs some time to process but still shouldn't be saying things like this!! x

 

[JemRose]

Hope nobody minds my ranting today. I'm absolutely gutted, angry and upset about something I heard last night.

My OH told his twin brother about the baby when we found out, which is fine, but his brother let it slip to another friend. Well last night we've heard from our best friends (who knew) that everyone has been talking about it!!! So basically the whole of our town knows about the pregnancy (small town). It's so unfair. My cousin lives in our town and I hadn't told her, I've had to tell her this morning quickly so she doesn't found out from hearsay.

I'm just so so so upset, I feel like it jinxes everything. I'm 8 weeks today so still 4 weeks until we wanted to announce it. Now some dickhead who we thought was a friend has gone and told everyone and it's gone round the whole town like gossip!!! It's not gossip, it's very sensitive information ffs!!! It's something that we should be able to announce when we want to, not spread round the town like someone's dirty laundry.

I can't believe it, I'm in shock and I'm so upset. I feel depressed, I don't want to go anywhere. I've got things coming up with these friends and I don't want to go to them now because they all know but they're hiding that they know because they know they're not meant to know (does that make sense?!)

Ahhhh sorry to put a downer on this morning but I'm devastated

Hope everyone else is okay xx

I am sorry somebody felt the need to share your news!!! You have the right to be upset. And if I am honest... your OH's twin needs a telling off... asshole! x

I agree!!! I think he got one last night when OH was over there! His response was "doesn't matter it's out now" .. x

 

[JemRose]

Just had some blood when I wiped was only a tiny bit. But was red x

Mine was red when I had some, try not to panic!! It turned a peachy colour and then left. Ring your midwife xxx

 

[Shanivy]

Just had some blood when I wiped was only a tiny bit. But was red x

Ring the midwife and take yourself in for a scan hun. Don't panic it's prob nothing but if you want seen, get seen Fx! Xxx

 

[Shanivy]

Hope nobody minds my ranting today. I'm absolutely gutted, angry and upset about something I heard last night.

My OH told his twin brother about the baby when we found out, which is fine, but his brother let it slip to another friend. Well last night we've heard from our best friends (who knew) that everyone has been talking about it!!! So basically the whole of our town knows about the pregnancy (small town). It's so unfair. My cousin lives in our town and I hadn't told her, I've had to tell her this morning quickly so she doesn't found out from hearsay.

I'm just so so so upset, I feel like it jinxes everything. I'm 8 weeks today so still 4 weeks until we wanted to announce it. Now some dickhead who we thought was a friend has gone and told everyone and it's gone round the whole town like gossip!!! It's not gossip, it's very sensitive information ffs!!! It's something that we should be able to announce when we want to, not spread round the town like someone's dirty laundry.

I can't believe it, I'm in shock and I'm so upset. I feel depressed, I don't want to go anywhere. I've got things coming up with these friends and I don't want to go to them now because they all know but they're hiding that they know because they know they're not meant to know (does that make sense?!)

Ahhhh sorry to put a downer on this morning but I'm devastated

Hope everyone else is okay xx

There's no such thing as jinxing hun. That's a really shit thing he did telling people if you agreed not to. And his brother is a dick for spreading news that's nothing to do with him, twin or not. Certainly speak to him about it, don't let it fester. That's the reason oh hasn't told his mum yet. Last time she was told straight away and not to tell and five minutes later the whole family knew. OH has a massive family so I know how you feel you've every right to be fuming.

But try not to let it spoil things. People knowing might not be what you want but it doesn't affect your baby in any way xx

 

[JemRose]

Thank you, it's just so frustrating!!! I want to punch them all!! My OH was innocent in telling his brother they're very close and I've told my sister .. but my sister would never dream of telling anyone!! It's so stupid, but they can all piss off now! They've turned it into gossip rather than coming to us and saying congrats they're just spreading it even more. Definitely not friends in my eyes x

 

[Shanivy]

JemRose that's great about OH. Happy days get him spoiling you now. Xx

Lara omg Zambia that's amazing. Our was planned so OH is excited. How has your OH said he's feeling? Xx

Have a good day everyone. Away to go shopping now before work this afternoon while ivy is in nursery. I'm dreading it. Raw meat makes me heave. Have to grab some Xmas food in too cause I've done NOTHING. Gonna be a looonnggg morning :/

My OH...is 36 by the way I am 27 we have been together for 3 years nearly....he said he has other things he wants to spend money on like a boat and travel the world. I could have killed him! I have PCOS and was taken off the pill by the Dr in August and he knew all the risks involved with unprotected sex!

Oh dear I wouldn't be happy about that at all. Men sometimes can get weird about pregnancy. They don't feel like a dad until later on. Like it doesn't feel really to then yet. Oh didn't step up until he held our daughter when she was born. Then it was like a light switched on for him. Hopefully he wises up soon once you have scans, but baby things etc. Definitely don't take any shit! Good luck hun xx

 

[Shanivy]

Thank you, it's just so frustrating!!! I want to punch them all!! My OH was innocent in telling his brother they're very close and I've told my sister .. but my sister would never dream of telling anyone!! It's so stupid, but they can all piss off now! They've turned it into gossip rather than coming to us and saying congrats they're just spreading it even more. Definitely not friends in my eyes x

Don't mess with a hormonal pregnant woman. Its not stupid, it's your body, your baby, your decision when to tell who and what. I don't know why people don't realise the important reason for not wanting to tell people about pregnancy too early.

I hope you aren't too upset for too long hun and I'm sorry they did that. If you know the person spreading gossip then speak to them if you think it will help you feel less angry. There's not much you can do about it now but move on and don't let it stop you from enjoying your pregnancy. It really does start to fly in and it gets so much better soon Xx

 

[_GG_]

Thank you, it's just so frustrating!!! I want to punch them all!! My OH was innocent in telling his brother they're very close and I've told my sister .. but my sister would never dream of telling anyone!! It's so stupid, but they can all piss off now! They've turned it into gossip rather than coming to us and saying congrats they're just spreading it even more. Definitely not friends in my eyes x

Oh Jem. Take a breath a minute. The ONLY person at fault here is your brother-in-law. He's where your anger should be directed.
The other friends are still friends. News spreads and there's no controlling that. It is very rarely done with malice so I doubt anyone has turned it into gossip. Your b-i-l is just a dick. The rest of the people are no doubt just happy and excited for you but respecting the fact that you haven't made it public yet. That's a good thing. They don't want to put any pressure on you and are just waiting for you to tell them when you're ready.

This is the biggest news to you, but I promise you...to other people, it is just something happy that they've heard and nobody will be running around town gossiping about you. If it's mentioned, it will be fleeting and no doubt nice words, not bitchy gossip as they're all being respectful enough not to be open about it. You can't control people talking about things they've been told and every one of us will have had information we shouldn't probably loads of times...and talked about it quietly. It's life, it's human nature. It's not them in the wrong here, it's your b-i-l and he does need to be told how awful his actions were.

It is precious news and yours to tell, not his. He needs to be reminded of that. It'll be his turn as dad to be one day and he wouldn't like the shoe to be on the other foot. He needs talking to!

As for going out with your friends now, go for it. Don't let one dickhead ruin that. Turn a shitty situation into a positive and talk to them about it. Of course tell them how upset you are that telling them was taken from you and why you wanted to wait...but as they know already, you just have more people to celebrate with and go ahead and celebrate it.

Nothing is jinxed, nothing said by anyone can have any effect on what does or doesn't happen with a pregnancy so please don't let yourself get stressed by this. Stress can be bad and if nothing more than out of spite, don't allow your b-i-l to dictate how you feel. You're in control of that, not him.

Talk to your oh about it all and make sure he understands as well.

But, deep breath and don't let yourself get stressed over things that can't be changed. Xxx

 

[_GG_]

PB, please try not to worry. Red is good, it's fresh so far more likely to be from an irritation in the cervix. Any uterine blood at this stage would be darker.

Call your mw and take it from there but honestly, I'm sure it's absolutely fine xx

 

[JemRose]

Thank you, it's just so frustrating!!! I want to punch them all!! My OH was innocent in telling his brother they're very close and I've told my sister .. but my sister would never dream of telling anyone!! It's so stupid, but they can all piss off now! They've turned it into gossip rather than coming to us and saying congrats they're just spreading it even more. Definitely not friends in my eyes x

Oh Jem. Take a breath a minute. The ONLY person at fault here is your brother-in-law. He's where your anger should be directed.
The other friends are still friends. News spreads and there's no controlling that. It is very rarely done with malice so I doubt anyone has turned it into gossip. Your b-i-l is just a dick. The rest of the people are no doubt just happy and excited for you but respecting the fact that you haven't made it public yet. That's a good thing. They don't want to put any pressure on you and are just waiting for you to tell them when you're ready.

This is the biggest news to you, but I promise you...to other people, it is just something happy that they've heard and nobody will be running around town gossiping about you. If it's mentioned, it will be fleeting and no doubt nice words, not bitchy gossip as they're all being respectful enough not to be open about it. You can't control people talking about things they've been told and every one of us will have had information we shouldn't probably loads of times...and talked about it quietly. It's life, it's human nature. It's not them in the wrong here, it's your b-i-l and he does need to be told how awful his actions were.

It is precious news and yours to tell, not his. He needs to be reminded of that. It'll be his turn as dad to be one day and he wouldn't like the shoe to be on the other foot. He needs talking to!

As for going out with your friends now, go for it. Don't let one dickhead ruin that. Turn a shitty situation into a positive and talk to them about it. Of course tell them how upset you are that telling them was taken from you and why you wanted to wait...but as they know already, you just have more people to celebrate with and go ahead and celebrate it.

Nothing is jinxed, nothing said by anyone can have any effect on what does or doesn't happen with a pregnancy so please don't let yourself get stressed by this. Stress can be bad and if nothing more than out of spite, don't allow your b-i-l to dictate how you feel. You're in control of that, not him.

Talk to your oh about it all and make sure he understands as well.

But, deep breath and don't let yourself get stressed over things that can't be changed. Xxx

GG have you ever thought about being a therapist? You've calmed me down in an instant!! Thank you for taking the time to write that xx

 

[_GG_]

Thank you, it's just so frustrating!!! I want to punch them all!! My OH was innocent in telling his brother they're very close and I've told my sister .. but my sister would never dream of telling anyone!! It's so stupid, but they can all piss off now! They've turned it into gossip rather than coming to us and saying congrats they're just spreading it even more. Definitely not friends in my eyes x

Oh Jem. Take a breath a minute. The ONLY person at fault here is your brother-in-law. He's where your anger should be directed.
The other friends are still friends. News spreads and there's no controlling that. It is very rarely done with malice so I doubt anyone has turned it into gossip. Your b-i-l is just a dick. The rest of the people are no doubt just happy and excited for you but respecting the fact that you haven't made it public yet. That's a good thing. They don't want to put any pressure on you and are just waiting for you to tell them when you're ready.

This is the biggest news to you, but I promise you...to other people, it is just something happy that they've heard and nobody will be running around town gossiping about you. If it's mentioned, it will be fleeting and no doubt nice words, not bitchy gossip as they're all being respectful enough not to be open about it. You can't control people talking about things they've been told and every one of us will have had information we shouldn't probably loads of times...and talked about it quietly. It's life, it's human nature. It's not them in the wrong here, it's your b-i-l and he does need to be told how awful his actions were.

It is precious news and yours to tell, not his. He needs to be reminded of that. It'll be his turn as dad to be one day and he wouldn't like the shoe to be on the other foot. He needs talking to!

As for going out with your friends now, go for it. Don't let one dickhead ruin that. Turn a shitty situation into a positive and talk to them about it. Of course tell them how upset you are that telling them was taken from you and why you wanted to wait...but as they know already, you just have more people to celebrate with and go ahead and celebrate it.

Nothing is jinxed, nothing said by anyone can have any effect on what does or doesn't happen with a pregnancy so please don't let yourself get stressed by this. Stress can be bad and if nothing more than out of spite, don't allow your b-i-l to dictate how you feel. You're in control of that, not him.

Talk to your oh about it all and make sure he understands as well.

But, deep breath and don't let yourself get stressed over things that can't be changed. Xxx

GG have you ever thought about being a therapist? You've calmed me down in an instant!! Thank you for taking the time to write that xx

My pleasure, glad it helped but I could never be a therapist, lol. I'd alienate 90% of my clients by saying things like, "suck it up buttercup, it's called life" lol

 

[JenKat]

JemRose I'm so sorry someone has taken your important and sensitive news and treated it so carelessly. I can imagine how incredibly frustrating that must be and you have every right to be angry. I feel sharing other people's pregnancy news is just an absolute no-no. Everyone with a half a sensitive bone in their body should know that.

But I hope it doesn't ruin your joy of sharing this news with people who matter. The people who love you will just be excited for you and will share in the news with you. I know it's not how you wanted them to find out but it really doesn't make the news any less special.
And definitely don't worry about jinxing things, that's just not a thing, so put your mind at ease.

I agree with GG's great advice. Talk to your brother in law when you've had a chance to calm down, but make it clear how hurt you feel about him violating your trust and privacy. If he cares about you and his brother he should understand this.

But try not to let it get you down, it shouldn't detract from your excitement about the whole thing. xxx

 

[JenKat]

PB hope all is well with you. I'm sure it's nothing but no harm in getting it checked out. Keeping my fingers crossed for you. x

 

[JemRose]

My pleasure, glad it helped but I could never be a therapist, lol. I'd alienate 90% of my clients by saying things like, "suck it up buttercup, it's called life" lol

GG that's hilarious!! I agree with you on that one! x

 

[JemRose]

JemRose I'm so sorry someone has taken your important and sensitive news and treated it so carelessly. I can imagine how incredibly frustrating that must be and you have every right to be angry. I feel sharing other people's pregnancy news is just an absolute no-no. Everyone with a half a sensitive bone in their body should know that.

But I hope it doesn't ruin your joy of sharing this news with people who matter. The people who love you will just be excited for you and will share in the news with you. I know it's not how you wanted them to find out but it really doesn't make the news any less special.
And definitely don't worry about jinxing things, that's just not a thing, so put your mind at ease.

I agree with GG's great advice. Talk to your brother in law when you've had a chance to calm down, but make it clear how hurt you feel about him violating your trust and privacy. If he cares about you and his brother he should understand this.

But try not to let it get you down, it shouldn't detract from your excitement about the whole thing. xxx

Thank you JenKat. I do feel better about things now thanks to this forum xx

 

[JenKat]

Glad to hear it at JemRose. This is a great place for picking you up when you're feeling emotional about any aspect of pregnancy. I have found that several times in the short time I've been here.