I'm sorry but I'm finding all the pg women posting on here a bit .........

[clem]

I can't think of the right word. I don't want to say unfeeling, as they are all lovely, but maybe a bit thoughtless? I came here for a forum of others like me and although it is really useful at times having people who are pregnant giving some practical advice, it is hard to see all these signature banners of "I'm 4 weeks pregnant" and so on. Am I generally hated for saying it? I've been thinking it a while and didnt want to say anything, but I cant be the only one feeling a bit upset by it, or am I?

 

[Toonlass]

What about people with kids already does that offend you?

 

[munchkin1982]

No hunni (and it's not going to help you seeing my ticker either i'm sorry). We do all understand where you are coming from. Many of us that are pregnant no doubt tried for various amounts of time to get pregnant. You will never be hated for saying anything like that here. I'm fairly new to this forum but I believe it to be a forum for everyone. Those who are trying to conceive, for those of us who are pregnant and for those who alreay have their babies and need or want general advice etc.

You certainly won't be alone in your thoughts and this comment. I wish you all the best in trying to conceive xxx

(plus, if there is anything that others disagree with in what I have written here, then I must have the wrong feeling/vibes about this forum)

 

[hayley25]

no, i get what you mean...i scroll past very quickly!! This sounds bad, but i am really struggling with people getting preggars but me that i have actually had to stop seeing a few friends who are preggars or have had babies as it is too upsetting for me...i will be okay eventually but just need time!!! its like they have a peremant ticker and i cant scroll past it!

-dont worry im sure you wont be hated!-

have u been ttc for long?
x

 

[Lilelephant]

Clem, I know what u mean! Big hugs

 

[Toonlass]

Thing is tho MrsMc, wou and wilma have become good friends while TTC and if you were to do a thread in TTC she is more than likely going to comment on it and suport you.

Alot of people become close while TTC and often one will get pregnant before the other one. The pregnant lady might pop into TTC to see how her friends are getting on and to wish them luck, i don't see how this can be seen as thoughtless xx

 

[clem]

Toonlass - no if there are people on here trying to conceive a second/third what ever then I think it's as hard for them as those of us trying to concieve our first. In fact those who already have kids might have lots of advice. But this is a part of the forum just dedicated to ttc and there are other parts of the forum especially for pg women that I hope to use myself one day.

munchkin - sorry but I disagree, it's not a general forum on pregnancy - Oh dear, I feel tearful and guilty now, I wish I hadnt said anything

Hi hayley, yes, I scroll fast past them too, especially the cutsie ones. I was v relieved when the moderator said no BFP's to be posted except in the monthly thread, though I dont know why considering I check it every day! And I really am genuinely thrilled when someone I have got to know a bit on here gets a bfp, funny how it actually gives me hope (except when they are really new and get their bfp in a month or so, then I wish them to jerico )

We've been trying for 23 months - so maybe I'm a bit jaded........ sigh .......

 

[clem]

Hi again toonlass, sorry but it is different when it is someone you have been ttc with for ages, I also cared about wilma and would be delighted to see her, she was trying for a really long time plus the MC, so it's not what I meant! Oh dear.....

 

[Toonlass]

but i dont see how its acceptable for some with tickers to comment but not others. I'm not TTC but i come into this section because i have three kids and i feel i can offer advice and support, because i dont have a pregnancy ticker that is fine but if i was pregnant with my 4th and had a ticker it would be thoughtles for me to pop in and offer useful advice?

I'm honestly confused, i'm not having a go but i just wish i knew what you meant xx

 

[munchkin1982]

munchkin - sorry but I disagree, it's not a general forum on pregnancy - Oh dear, I feel tearful and guilty now, I wish I hadnt said anything

the forum as a whole is a general one. it has it's different sections for TTC, PG and those with kids already etc - that's what i really sort of mean with my "general" comment...

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

im confused, dont you sign up to forums for advice and support? there are plenty of women around that have tried a long, long time to get pregnant and surely them popping in to support you and say that there is light at the tunnel etc etc is a good thing? plus as toon said, people are in TTC then move to the other areas, what are they supposed to do, just stop talking to the friends theyve made? wouldnt that make you feel worse that people are stopping talking to you? i cant imagine what you're going thru, but i know noone would come in here deliberately to flaunt the fact that they're pregnant, they just want to support! we're a reet friendly bunch on here!!

 

[FebMum2Be]

I agree Understandable why you feel the way you do but others have also been in your position, I hope you get your BFP soon

 

[munchkin1982]

im confused, dont you sign up to forums for advice and support? there are plenty of women around that have tried a long, long time to get pregnant and surely them popping in to support you and say that there is light at the tunnel etc etc is a good thing? plus as toon said, people are in TTC then move to the other areas, what are they supposed to do, just stop talking to the friends theyve made? wouldnt that make you feel worse that people are stopping talking to you? i cant imagine what you're going thru, but i know noone would come in here deliberately to flaunt the fact that they're pregnant, they just want to support! we're a reet friendly bunch on here!!

couldn't have put it better myself xx

 

[vixforever]

im confused, dont you sign up to forums for advice and support? there are plenty of women around that have tried a long, long time to get pregnant and surely them popping in to support you and say that there is light at the tunnel etc etc is a good thing? plus as toon said, people are in TTC then move to the other areas, what are they supposed to do, just stop talking to the friends theyve made? wouldnt that make you feel worse that people are stopping talking to you? i cant imagine what you're going thru, but i know noone would come in here deliberately to flaunt the fact that they're pregnant, they just want to support! we're a reet friendly bunch on here!!

Agreed x

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

oh and also, if you dont like seeing sigs, user cp>edit options> untick the show signatures option! problem solved!

 

[clem]

Ok, I'm just going to say one last thing -

I notice that the other girls who are ttc and have commented on here agree with my post

and the ones who disagree are all pregnant or already have kids and do not appear to be ttc

Just an observation

I wont say anymore, I guess I've made my feelings as clear as I can and I wish I hadnt said anything now because it was just a personal feeling and not really meant as a debate

 

[Toonlass]

oh and also, if you dont like seeing sigs, user cp>edit options> untick the show signatures option! problem solved!

ignorance is bliss as they say xx

 

[vixforever]

oh and also, if you dont like seeing sigs, user cp>edit options> untick the show signatures option! problem solved!

 

[kellylou]

I understand the way you are feeling I have been in this forum before and people are still in this forum from when I was TTC and I like to come back and try to give some positive comments when people are feeling down, nothing is ever meant to offend anyone.

Some tickers I have to scroll past as they are quite upsetting but I would never ask someone to refrain from posting in that forum just so I don't have to see their ticker.

 

[FebMum2Be]

I'm not disagreeing, I understand what you mean.. What we're saying is that it isn't done deliberately thats all..