I'm sorry but I'm finding all the pg women posting on here a bit .........

[Toonlass]

Ok, I'm just going to say one last thing -

I notice that the other girls who are ttc and have commented on here agree with my post

and the ones who disagree are all pregnant or already have kids and do not appear to be ttc

Just an observation

I wont say anymore, I guess I've made my feelings as clear as I can and I wish I hadnt said anything now because it was just a personal feeling and not really meant as a debate

TBH i wish you hadn't said anything because i feel so bad now about when i have visited TTC and given advice. I'd hate to think i had offended anyone in the past by trying to help them get pregnant with my advice while i have had a pregnancy ticker!! I'll just stick to the parenting forums eh, in my little pidgeon hole xx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

i spose its horses for courses isnt it! its a public forum and im sorry if you feel offended by my offering of support in threads, but i thought i was being nice!!

 

[vixforever]

TBH it is called Pregnancy Forum for a reason and TTC is a section so the Admin obviously thought that people would benefit from getting advice from pregnant people and parents? Also a WTT section and a parenting section. PF is welcome for ALL people xx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

get bacck in your box vix

 

[Toonlass]

Box, pidgeon hole, catagory.......

 

[vixforever]

get bacck in your box vix

 

[toni64539]

I'm ttc and I can see Clems point. Sometimes it is hard to see but I wouldn't swap that feeling for the precious gems pregnant women have given us, after all we can only learn from other peoples experiences, tickers are just a thing that we have to learn to deal with seeing. There are so many threads in this section of girls asking what symptoms preg women had etc so it's very useful having these ladies on hand. It is upsetting clem, but let's utilise these women and their advice and try to see the positive side. Baby dust to you all and all the best for your quick bfp clem.

Toni

 

[karenandbump]

Hey Clem,
I ummed and ahhhed whether to reply to the thread being pregnant. I was TTC and then had a mc and am pregnant again and the same as some of the other ladies I pop in to see how people are doing and offer support. I do understand how you feel - I found it hard after my mc that others were moving on and I should be coming to the end of Tri 3 now but no-one has meant to upset anyone. I really feel for you with TTC for 23 months hon and I imagine that this thread is the summing up of you having a tough time....

I guess what I'm trying to say to you (and anyone else in any of the groups) is that people here are really supportive of each other.eople were amazing here after my mc and I know will be amazing again as I hit my should have been due date. I really feel for you with how ur feeling and we're all here if you do want any help from us whether we're pregnant or not.

I'm sorry if you;d rather I hadn't replied - just wanted to send you some hugs x x x x

 

[xXxBonnyxXx]

I would just like to say that I find all the tickers inspiring and it reminds me to believe that I will get pg - its just a matter of when.

I appreciate all the advise from pregnant women, women who have already been in my position TTC, and women that have already got children.

Thanks to everyone on here in fact that has already been in my situation and been able to listen to me winge and still be supportive.

I know I will get PG one day and I just have to be patient now and wait for that day to arrive

x x x

 

[vixforever]

I would just like to say that I find all the tickers inspiring and it reminds me to believe that I will get pg - its just a matter of when.

I appreciate all the advise from pregnant women, women who have already been in my position TTC, and women that have already got children.

Thanks to everyone on here in fact that has already been in my situation and been able to listen to me winge and still be supportive.

I know I will get PG one day and I just have to be patient now and wait for that day to arrive

x x x

xx

 

[Rebecca27]

I can completely appreicate both sides of this. I joined a couple of weeks ago having not spoken to anyone but my other half about us trying. i sometimes leave the forum feeling upset. It is totally selfish i know i just wish i would be with one announcing a pregagncy. it is so lovely speaking to people in the same situation but you cant help but feel jealous.
Clem stay positive and just know what one day you will have a ticker of your own. Dont be upset for being honest. I think alot of people would feel the same too xxxxx

 

[JJ Mum]

Clem - When I post in TTC room, I do try to remember to remove my signiture from my post, as I can see what you mean, I do forget occasinally tho.

But on the other side of the coin, I don't like to forget the girls still in TTC by not posting, we are all supportive as we have all been there , and back there again when things go wrong.

Every group needs the same support for different reasons, wether it's getting of the start in TTC and fertility issues, for MC in the loss section, for making it through Trimester 1 in one peice, for surviving amnio /cvs invasive tests , abnomolly scans, in trimster 2 , and Trimester 3 brings it's own roller coaster worrys and dramas.

Tickers are not our way of gloating, but our way of getting through the weeks. Forums bring everyone together Hun X

 

[Misstinkerbell]

I think maybe the people who have conceived should just try to go back and think about how it was for them when they were ttc, the emotions, the upset, the anticipation every month waiting to see if this was going to be the month you were going to see those 2 little lines only to have another disappointment. How heartbreaking it was to be told that another of your friends or family had fallen pregnant and thinking "its never going to happen for me"! I really dont think that any of you are being "thoughtless" and any advice you can offer is much appreciated but just try and remember how difficult it is for those of us who are ttc, it gets harder and harder every month and just seeing pictures of babies sends our emotions all over the place! I hope you understand where im coming from and i hope i havent offended anyone as its only my first day on here!
Congrats to anyone who has conceived and lots and lots of baby dust to those like me who are trying!!
xxx

 

[clairebear22]

I'm going to have my say I think..... which is very rare for me I can assure you.....

I'm TTC, I'm not a Mummy yet and I LOVE seeing the pregnancy tickers!

It makes me think 'yeah that'll be me one day, however I get there' whether it be naturally or with help!

I think any of you pregnant ladies or Mummy's should be able to post in the TTC section should you feel you can offer us TTC'ers some advice/help.

I always have a nosey around the 1st, 2nd, 3rd trimester bits whenever I log on here just to see whats going on with you all! (I especially love the bumpy pics!)

The only reason I never write in those sections is simply because i've never been pregnant before so I don't have any advice to give.

When I finally get my BFP I will defo be coming back into the TTC section incase I can offer advice/help to ladies who are in the same position I am now and i'll also be showing my ticker off proudly to show them that they CAN get their (sometimes) long awaited BFP.

I'm very very sorry to all of those who are struggling to conceive or who have suffered a misscarraige but like someone said you can deactivate the tickers from your computer.

I'm of the mind set that if it affects me that much then I won't come on here - simple as that!

Sorry if i've caused upset or offense but when I feel strongly about something I will have my say!

Please don't stop posting in here pregnant ladies & Mummy's ....

Vixforever we've chatted lots about buggy's in the past and Toonlass you were very supportive last cycle when I had my dodgy HPT! We need people like you to help us along!

Claire x

 

[Toonlass]

I would just like to say that I find all the tickers inspiring and it reminds me to believe that I will get pg - its just a matter of when.

I appreciate all the advise from pregnant women, women who have already been in my position TTC, and women that have already got children.

Thanks to everyone on here in fact that has already been in my situation and been able to listen to me winge and still be supportive.

I know I will get PG one day and I just have to be patient now and wait for that day to arrive

x x x

Aww bonny you have been on that 'shelf' for ages and i think it is so inspiring that you feel that way. it will happen, some way, some time, some how xx

 

[toni64539]

Well said clairebear, perfectly put

 

[vixforever]

Thanks clairebear xx

 

[Rósa]

I agree with Clairbear, I haven't been trying to concieve long, in fact my first pregnancy was a total shock, I used to love seeing all the tickers, staing the stages of babies growth, when I had my MC, yes they upset me, cos i was thinking that should be me BUT it also gave me hope, being newly pregnant again, I like looking at the tickers BUT I still think of what could have been when I see tickers of where I should have been now. ATM I won't have a ticker myself cos Im too superstious lol :S , But I will still come in the TTC forums cos for example will support MrsMC as we MC'd the same day, but Im sorry you feel this way, maybe it be better if you turn signatures off?
Another point is the fertilty tickers, you could say they make it hard on women who don't have a regular cycle and they could be thinking I wish i was like them

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

thanks clairebear and bonny xxx

 

[Me, My Girls & I]

and rosa too