I know breast is best but...

[pringle88]

I am so pissed off!!! Im not stupid I obviously know that breast feeding is best for baby!

I stopped in a cafe yesterday to feed Ella and I started making the bottle up and this stupid woman came over and said.... "oh what a shame such a lovely little girl isn't getting the best start in life!!! Thats the problem with kids having kids!!!!" She looked me up and down like I was something she had trod in!

She made me feel about 1cm tall

I don't think I could feel like much more of a worse mum

Where do women get off being so bloody opinionated? I have never seen this woman in my life!! I'm not some young mum that doesn't care I do my best for Ella!!!

 

[LoopyLouize]

OMG! I am fuming reading this! I can't even say what I think because its making me angry!

 

[LoopyLouize]

Phew, right calm now!

What an absolute dick! What did you say to her? Who the f**k do people think they are these days! Gosh I thought the women in Boots was bad enough with me by saying that Boots supports breastfeeding so I cannot buy any formula using the points I had already built up, but what she has said to you is a step to far! Grrr angry again now!

 

[Maybe_mummy]

That proper bugs me, keep you opinions to yourself lady!! People do tend to look down on you for not breast feeding and its not fair especially if they dont know why your not cos some ladies just arent able to do so and shouldnt be made to feel bad for their choice! X

 

[pringle88]

I couldn't even say anything to her I could feel myself building up so I just took her to baby changing and cried like a big girl then left and fed her on a bench outside.

I don't think people realise how much of a failure they can make u feel!

I'm 23 btw hardly a kid having a kid!!!

As if the lady in boots said that and as if that's a policy!! Ffs it's mental!!!

 

[Maybe_mummy]

I got that at boots too! I also went to the pharmasist to ask about formulas to help colic etc a while back and told him she was 6 weeks old always been formula fed etc and hes like well have you tried breast feeding? I just said well I was told by the dr that breast fed babies get colic too so that wont help! I was so mad he made me feel bad as well but just thought bollocks to you. XX

 

[traci]

I get dirty looks for giving Alice a bottle. I wish I could have a sign saying "I breast fed my baby for 3 months and I'm proud of that!"

What the hell does that woman think she has the right to question you as a mother! You are doing your best! How dare she say that. Grrrr!!!!!

 

[x_larlybelle_x]

People have somethin to say whether babies r ff or bf. if they r ff its "why aren't u bf?" and if ur bf "u shouldn't be doin that in public". U can't win with some people either way!

Maybe - Henry is bf and he had colic so it doesn't make a difference!

 

[Maybe_mummy]

Your right there Traci I think as a ff mummy i get frowned upon but then it sounds like breast feeding mums get it as well (what do they expect you to do stay in or rush home with your baby when they need to feed?) To me its one of those things that needs to be kept to yourself and people should respect your decision not frown upon it or give anyone else a hard time.

Ive found parenting hard work much more than I thought, and so many people seems to have an opinon on the 'right' way to do things but in the end its what you decide to do for your baby is the thing that matters stuff anyone else!! I used to tie myself up in nots thinking well midwife and HV have told me one way my mum says do it this way and my mate says try this now im much more like Im doing it my own way!

 

[willowwisp]

I think some jealous cowbags and smug & superior know-it-alls will always find something to tell you off for. Ignore it, your reasons are your reasons and no body else's business! xx

 

[Lilelephant]

I would have gone crazy! Tbh o wasn't interested in boob and was so hungry so in my case breast wasn't best!

I tried didn't work and if any one wants to judge me on that they r stuck up twats!!

Argh this makes me mad

 

[LaurenMM]

You should see the looks I get when I tell people I breastfed exclusively for the first week and then I stopped because I was just exhausted. When I say exhausted I mean, I was getting 3-4 hours sleep a night during tri3 (preg insomnia), 1 hours sleep night before induction, no sleep the day induction (I was labouring all through the night) and no sleep the following 2 nights as I was trying to establish breastfeeding with shit support from hospital staff. I had to stop and give her formula or make myself even more ill by not sleeping and not being able to take care of her properly.

Ignore the silly bitch hun, Ella is a gorgeous, happy healthy baby by the looks of it and just because you're 23 doesn't mean you're incapable of looking after a baby. You're a fab mum anyone can see that! I'm 22 btw xx

 

[LaurenMM]

Also, who the fuck does this stranger think she is? Who has the right to judge anybody on their parenting decisions? There are some things I do not agree with sometimes but I keep my opinions to myself because I am in no place to judge people and I'd never do it. Rant over lol xx

 

[Hunnie]

The breast is best campaign really gets on my nerves to be honest! yes there is no denying that there is going to be better protection against disease and illness from breast milk but I think what is often forgotten is, is breast really best for both mum and babies mental health and wellbeing?

Breast is best was drilled in to me by pretty much everyone including the midwives that I saw, yet once LO was here there was no support given at all to help me and LO to get our technique right and of all the times I rang the buzzer in the hospital I was only once visited by a midwife who was actually the cause of LO then struggling to latch!!!

I think the breastfeeding support groups are probably helpful but lets be honest, day 3 baby blues, screaming child, sleep deprivation and generally looking like crap isnt going to make anyone want to venture out for help, especially if the mother doesnt drive!

I personally think the government has got the campaign wrong and that really what they should focus on is that mums and their newborns get the right help to make sure both are happy regardless of whether they are breast feeding or formula feeding.

Ive also found from talking to soon to be young mums that the only reason they are actually going to try breastfeeding is for the weightloss benefits and not actually for the best of the baby.

I dont know if Ill ever bother breastfeeding again as this time it just didnt work for me and LO and in all honesty I think the only reason I will ever bother to try it again is for the weight loss.

Sophie is formula fed and is perfectly healthy and gaining weight well. I think these scientists that come up with stupid conclusions like breast fed babies are more intelligent etc. should stop wasting their time and do studies on more useful topics!

 

[ISH]

What a complete idiot. It sounds like you kept your calm too, which is more than I could ever do! I would have ripped her a new one.

 

[Lilelephant]

Ppl look down there nose at me for ff but also at my fiend for bf its ridiculous we all do what's best for baby at then end of the day!

I get it about having had an epidural aswell! But as I couldn't open my legs without it I had no choice

 

[Maria1977]

OMG can't believe someone woould actually go up to a stranger and be so rude, and what an assumption to make. How a mum feeds their baby is a very personal choice, and there are many reasons for making a choice.

What a mega bitch!

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[Rachaellius]

OMG! I would have gone absolutely ape! I don't think I'd have been able to bite my tongue I'd have belittled her and stood up so everyone else could hear and say 'What kind of woman goes up to a complete stranger and judges them for how they feed their child!? Lots of women would love to breast feed their child but simply CAN'T for various reasons. Reasons I should not have to justify to a complete stranger! To be honest I think it's an awful shame my child has to grow up in a world with such narrow minded, judgemental twats such as yourself!'

I'm so angry for you! I agree though the same goes for people breast feeding in public, we get judged either way. Also for all this woman knew you could have been feeding her expressed milk, she just decided to assume! She deserves a slap!

 

[BevG]

id have said it was breast milk just to shut up the nosy cow, she dosent know any different and it might have made her think twice about assuming things. your baby is happy and healthy and thats all that matters.

 

[littlemuffin]

Well she could say that to me and bring it on I would tell her where to go.

How dare she say anything like that, not being rude but she doesn't know why you are FF.
I couldn't BF, and I am more than happy to tell people all about it when they ask.

As my OH tells me all the time when I get worried that I didn't BF, how do you think babies that have been adopted, and fostered are fed, by the milk fairy.