Hello everyone,
I'm new here, pregnant with baby number 1 and looking for some advice.
Me and hubby are due to have our first baby on July 26th.
His twin brother is getting married on August 4th and wants him to be his best man. Only snag is the wedding is in the USA. This would mean a 16 hour flight, followed by a four hour drive to get there and a cost of around £2,000.
My main worry is the baby being late and him missing the birth (my sister has three, all of which were 7- 10 days late so it seems possible). But even if it were born when due, he'd be due to go when it was only a few days old.
I know it's a little selfish, but I'm so disappointed if he has to do that.
And it's quite an expense coming at a time when we have a reduced income and a new addition to the family to think about. I mean, that's many times more money for him to go over there for a couple of days and be best man, than we spent on our own honeymoon.
Nothing has been booked yet as we've been waiting for them to confirm the exact details and venue, but his brother's wedding is obviously an important event. I feel bad enough that I'm going to miss it, I really don't want him to have to miss it too and yet I can't help feeling like this is an important time for us too. If it's that important for them to have the wedding right when they're having it and where they're having it, then why shouldn't it be as important to us to be together for and after the birth of our child.
I don't want to say too much as I know he is already feeling the pressure of wanting to be in two places at once and feels torn about it and I don't want to make it any harder.
Does anyone have any advice or can share how they might feel in a similar situation?
Thanks a lot,
Rosie xX
I'm new here, pregnant with baby number 1 and looking for some advice.
Me and hubby are due to have our first baby on July 26th.
His twin brother is getting married on August 4th and wants him to be his best man. Only snag is the wedding is in the USA. This would mean a 16 hour flight, followed by a four hour drive to get there and a cost of around £2,000.
My main worry is the baby being late and him missing the birth (my sister has three, all of which were 7- 10 days late so it seems possible). But even if it were born when due, he'd be due to go when it was only a few days old.
I know it's a little selfish, but I'm so disappointed if he has to do that.
And it's quite an expense coming at a time when we have a reduced income and a new addition to the family to think about. I mean, that's many times more money for him to go over there for a couple of days and be best man, than we spent on our own honeymoon.
Nothing has been booked yet as we've been waiting for them to confirm the exact details and venue, but his brother's wedding is obviously an important event. I feel bad enough that I'm going to miss it, I really don't want him to have to miss it too and yet I can't help feeling like this is an important time for us too. If it's that important for them to have the wedding right when they're having it and where they're having it, then why shouldn't it be as important to us to be together for and after the birth of our child.
I don't want to say too much as I know he is already feeling the pressure of wanting to be in two places at once and feels torn about it and I don't want to make it any harder.
Does anyone have any advice or can share how they might feel in a similar situation?
Thanks a lot,
Rosie xX