How many more times

[1sttimer]

I can’t believe I’m back here again, I’m just numb. I just can’t belive this has happened for a 4th time. And this time it was going so well... this is the first time I’ve got as far as 6 weeks with no bleeding and then all in one fell swoop, one big bleed and it’s all over. I really thought I had it this time. Life is so cruel x

 

[Sunflower1]

So sorry. Can imagine how shocked you are. x

 

[xMillie]

1sttimer I’m so sorry to hear this
It’s really unfair

Xx

 

[EFAR]

I can't imagine what you're going through I'm so sorry for your loss
I hope this doesn't stop you from trying and hopefully you can get some help... hoping things get better
Xx

 

[1sttimer]

Thank you all so much for your sweet words. I actually feel ok today I just wish it would pass it’s just not doing and I still have symptoms so just hoping I don’t have to have a procedure for it to complete. I’m so sorry for you ladies who have also miscarried it’s the loneliest place in the world sometimes but made so much better by forums like this xx

 

[Sunflower1]

Thank you all so much for your sweet words. I actually feel ok today I just wish it would pass it’s just not doing and I still have symptoms so just hoping I don’t have to have a procedure for it to complete. I’m so sorry for you ladies who have also miscarried it’s the loneliest place in the world sometimes but made so much better by forums like this xx

I still had symptoms for a few weeks after the miscarriage. I hope it ends up being straightforward for you. xx

 

[1sttimer]

Thank you all so much for your sweet words. I actually feel ok today I just wish it would pass it’s just not doing and I still have symptoms so just hoping I don’t have to have a procedure for it to complete. I’m so sorry for you ladies who have also miscarried it’s the loneliest place in the world sometimes but made so much better by forums like this xx

I still had symptoms for a few weeks after the miscarriage. I hope it ends up being straightforward for you. xx

Hi Sunflower, if you don't mind me asking, how far along were you? The first time I had a MC it all happened quite quickly so this is all very unusual for me. Did you pass naturally? I desperately hope it just sorts itself out it's just feels so cruel.

 

[Elmo39]

Sorry to hear of your loss. It is a horrible thing to have to go through. I have just had my 2nd miscarriage. Was trying for 6 years then went through IVF which didn't work and then got pregnant naturally finally which ended in a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks and just found out I was pregnant 2 weeks to have another miscarriage at 6 weeks. Just wish I knew why. Part of me wants to try again to see if we can be lucky but the other part of me says just go back to the adoption process and continue with that, there is less heat break that way!! I'm getting older so will we actually have a successful pregnancy who knows the question is do I find out and avoid any more heartache or go for it and see what happens. The hardest part is my sister in law is pregnant and due in August and a colleague of mine is due in Oct and I just want to go up to them and scream!!

 

[1sttimer]

Hi Elmo39, I feel your pain in there my lovely, I feel like I'm surrounded by pregnant friends - I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time. I haven't had IVF as we stopped short of having it when I fell naturally for my last 3 losses but my sister had it 3 times and I know how hard it can be after you've waited so long. I really hope you get your little miracle some time - and if you do go down the adoption route, good luck with it, you would be doing an incredible thing!! It's what I think we'll do if this doesn't work out eventually - have you had any further investigations done? Sounds like it could definitely be worthwhile for you x

 

[miamia]

I am so sorry. Have you visited yr doc to find out more? From what I have read in situation like yours it is recommended doing additional tests to check out immunology and genetics. xx

 

[Princess81]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 1sttimer. I hope you get your sticky bfp very soon Hun xx

 

[LucyR]

Have you been sent for tests? I’m in the same situation just had my fourth miscarriage and have now got to be referred to a specialist. Sorrr for you losses

 

[1sttimer]

Hi ladies, thanks for your thoughts, very sweet of you. To answer your questions yes, I've been on this merry ride for 4 years now and have had looootts of tests for some reason my signature 'snap shot history' doesn't come up on this thread, but to fill in the gaps, all MC's have been early bar one 2nd tri loss that was PPROMS no obvious reasons still 'unexplained' and now going to see a specialist in Cov for yet more tests. I'm wondering if it could be NK cells possibly.

LucyR, if you don't mind me asking, what is the history with your MC's are they all similar timing etc? Have you had any preliminary tests? If I can offer any advice I will my love I'm sorry for you too! xx

 

[SmithyBaby]

Hi ladies. Just had the devastating news I am soon to miscarry for the second time. My heart is broken again, you are all so wonderful to cope through such sadness. I hope I can get through this again x

 

[LucyC]

So sorry to hear about your losses smithybaby, it’s just so cruel xx

 

[Dinkydizzy]

Hi ladies. Just had the devastating news I am soon to miscarry for the second time. My heart is broken again, you are all so wonderful to cope through such sadness. I hope I can get through this again x

I’m sorry for your loss x

 

[1sttimer]

Oh smithbaby, I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you have plenty of support around you. Let us know if there is anything we can offer by way of advice or support. It's so unfair to go through it once let alone more times. How far along are you? So sorry again...give yourself time to feel all the emotions that come with it, I think sometimes we are hard on ourselves to snap back and you just can't xx

 

[SmithyBaby]

Thankyou all. I have my parents and my OH but it can still feel so lonely. I should have been 10 weeks but the heartbeat had stopped around 7 weeks by the looks of things. I don't think I will ever forget the looks on the sonographer and doctors faces bit I knew something was wrong. I have finally, after a week of bleeding, started cramping this evening so I assume the loss is imminent. Last time I was 5.5 weeks and it happened so quickly. This loss feels so drawn out by comparison. I feel like I just need to say all this to people who won't say things like "oh well at least it wasn't 20 weeks or something." The loss is a loss and I feel it strongly and all the dreams and hopes that came with the pregnancy.

 

[SmithyBaby]

Sorry to hijack the post, I just wanted to say I understand to some extent and I just don't know how to feel about moving on and trying again. I have been so fearful all along and next time the fear will be worse again. You are so strong to go through this multiple times, I just think you women are amazing!

 

[LucyC]

Thankyou all. I have my parents and my OH but it can still feel so lonely. I should have been 10 weeks but the heartbeat had stopped around 7 weeks by the looks of things. I don't think I will ever forget the looks on the sonographer and doctors faces bit I knew something was wrong. I have finally, after a week of bleeding, started cramping this evening so I assume the loss is imminent. Last time I was 5.5 weeks and it happened so quickly. This loss feels so drawn out by comparison. I feel like I just need to say all this to people who won't say things like "oh well at least it wasn't 20 weeks or something." The loss is a loss and I feel it strongly and all the dreams and hopes that came with the pregnancy.

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. It doesn’t matter if you were 4 weeks or 20 weeks, it’s a loss and it’s totally understandable that you feel the way you do. I’ve had people say the same things “at least it happened early” and it drives me mad, but they really don’t mean to be so insensitive they just don’t understand. Take care of yourself xx