How are all you new mummies doing?

[Kaedin]

I went to my GPs today to get Hayleys jags, only to be told to HV is on holiday this week. The receptionish told me to come today and obviously didn't have the common sense to call me back to say infact come next wednesday! What a wasted journey.

I'm in a bit of a pickle. Looking for advise folks. I've made an appointment with a solicitor tomorrow afternoon, but my ex is asking to have Hayley over night tonight, but I said he can have her for a few hours to play ect and bring her back just before bedtime (as she's getting really unsettles staying with him then me ect). He's saying no, he wants her overnight 2 times this week. Do I just tell him he's not having her at all today (as I think he'll just refuse to bring her back at 7pm like I've said, and I won't be able to do anything about it) or do I just cave, let her stay over night tonight and then speak to the solicitor to get the ball rolling properly without me having refused his access ?

 

[T84]

Aw happy birthday michelle! Have a good day.

Yeah I'm defo not laughing now, took ages to get back to sleep so I'm shattered now and have baby group this morning.. Waaaahhh!

Cherry jags weren't too bad just don't look at her face. S was alright as soon as I gave her milk x

 

[Mummybexee]

The latter !

BUT don't arrange overnight and see if he goes against your wishes as that's ammo for solicitor x

 

[T84]

Oooh good thinking Bex! x

 

[T84]

Stick the link in your fb if you can jojo, it won't work for me in here x

 

[Jojo84]

I'll do it later - I'm put shopping at the mo to
Pick up Luke's pyjamas for his 6-9 month wardrobe. I've taken out the 3-6 clothes and put 6-9 and 6-12 on their place but kept tshirrs and they're still fine

 

[hayes]

If it was me I wud say u want her back by 7 n make it clear that if he doesn't you won't let her stay again as so t trust him, then as Bexs says u will have even more ammo to tell ur solicitor.

Having such a lush bday weather is fab here too.

Michelle.x

 

[Jojo84]

If say the same as other ladies. .. See of he can be trusted!

Someone called Luke a little girl today... A girl... Seriously?

 

[Cherrybelly]

Kaedin, I agree with the others. If you act civilly and then hopefully he'll do the same. If he refuses to bring her back then you can tell the solicitor and also you know you tried

Jabs went ok. She screamed from the second the needle went in, continued to whimper mid bottle at home and then dozed off lol. Awoke full of smiles so I put her on her playmat and she's now dozed off on it - that's never happened before. She's not quite right, bless her. Gotta do it all again in four weeks time!! X

 

[mrssmith2011]

jojo i cant believe someone called him a girl. I saw your status. Someone asked me if joseph was a boy or girl when was about 10 weeks old. Blue boys outfit on, blue pushchair. Kaedin i agree with the others. Hes being a prick xx

 

[mrssmith2011]

we have taken down josephs swinging crib today. he hasnt slept in our room for weeks but our room looks empty without it x

 

[Jojo84]

Our stand is still up from the basket - I'll be selling it soon once I get the cover washed

 

[Kaedin]

He said he's having her over night, eventually I asked what time will she be dropped off in the morning. He told me that i already knew, i told him I didn't then he said 7, 7:30, 8, maybe 9...urgh. Can't wait to meet with this solicitor tomorrow to get some legal advice so I know where I really can stand with this all.


As I'm back with my parents my room is a total disaster! I have my room which is filled with my bed, hayleys moses basket, tonnes of mine & hayleys things. Theres hardly any floor room, it's such a squeeze!

Are any of you ladies good at interior decorating? Need an idea to paint my room so that it's suitable for me and Hayley. Theres a wooden dado rail, then I have wooden drawers, inbuilt wooden wardrobed so need a colour that will go with wood, but I'm stumped!

 

[Jojo84]

You could so a baby corner - just decorate the former she sleeps

The nightly battle is on! Lol my friend told me she did a 10-5 technique with her daughter. 10 minutes out the room then 5minutes in. It's been an hour and he's still not sleeping by he's tired and fighting it- I'm going back in... It's my third try at 10-5

 

[dizzybaby]

If it was me I'd have said no have her back tonight by whatever time and so help you if you don't!
He sounds like he's just mucking you about cos he knows he can but if he's going to be like this you'll need to toughen up to him especially if this goes through courts etc. just don't want him to walk over you Hun!

Maddie's been so unhappy after her 3rd set of jabs, been up at 2,3&4 the past 2 nights just upset bless her hopefully this is the last day of it affecting her. She's so clingy I haven't been able to do anything for 2 days straight!

 

[Mummybexee]

I just can't believe you've been so amicable

No fucker would treat me or Oscar the way he's treated you both !

 

[Jojo84]

He's asleep! He's been asleep since 7:15, cries once and I popped his dummy in and off he went again... I'm
Going to try and eat and catch up on the shows I missed last night. Wish me luck

 

[Kaedin]

I have been soooo civil towards him, I don't think he realised how nice I've been yet he's been nice & vile at each step. Quite happy as my mums coming with me tomorrow to see the solicitor so it's nice it's one thing I'll not be doing alone. He again demanded I give him our Tommee Tippee Prep machine, I told him at the door no, he said that im "only hurting hayley by making her wait longer for a feed". He said that clearly just to push my buttons, but i stuck by it.

He'll realise how serious I am once he gets a letter from child maintenance. It's still despicable that in nearly 4 weeks he's not offered a penny towards Hayley, not offered to pay back money he stole from me, and is still refusing to give me her things. Last time he didn't bring back a bottle and her fav rattle toy, been asking for over a week for it back and he said he's got "better things to do with his time" than go to his mums house to get them for me to have & use with Hayley. He's an idiot.

Will let you's know what the solicitor says, I'm never thought it would come to this but hopefully if he knows im serious enough to speak to the police and a solicitor that im not letting him do as he pleases!

 

[Jojo84]

I'd be telling him that As he's not contributing to Hayley he can buy how own prep machine and bottles. Being civil is the best thing because it makes him look even more unreasonable

 

[Kaedin]

I'd be telling him that As he's not contributing to Hayley he can buy how own prep machine and bottles. Being civil is the best thing because it makes him look even more unreasonable

Exactly. He's refused to give me her highchair as he said it's "expensive" and if I want one I have to "buy one". Yet he expects me to give him everything she owns...then he doesn't return them So I told him same rules apply to him, he can buy one..he's obviously got tonnes of money as that's nearly a month of buying nothing for her as I'm giving him everything she needs.

He should count himself very lucky as I know fine well many mums wouldn't be soo nice to him. But I just really wanted things to be civil between us for Hayleys sake. But clearly he's an immature little boy