How are all you new mummies doing?

[Mummybexee]

Kaedin,

You should check all that out wig someone. I just can't understand how he's thinks it will be good for Hayley to be passed back and forward constantly. I don't think the courts will think its right either if he's not actually going to be with her either. I wonder if he's looked up the child support rules and thinks it will cut down the maintenance he has to pay.... And yet again, by not letting you have the walker etc at your place, he's just punishing Hayley.

Has he not given your money back you collected?

Sounds harsh but I'd start being a bitch untill you get what you want

If he won't give you Hayley's things as her main carer I wouldnt allow access

Her best interests first - and that's not being deprived if her belongings or yours

 

[iWitch]

Off topic but I bought a pack of Aldi nappies last week coz I had a 50% off voucher & I found them shocking! The tabs aren't sticking down properly & keep coming loose & they don't seem to be absorbing pee as well as the kiddicare ones. I've used them previously & found them really good. The packet this time said 'new design' or something like that on them so wonder if they've swapped manufacturer again.

Spoke to my friend & she used them with her LO from birth almost a year ago & recently swapped to tescos coz she started leaking out of them regularly

 

[Kaedin]

Kaedin,

You should check all that out wig someone. I just can't understand how he's thinks it will be good for Hayley to be passed back and forward constantly. I don't think the courts will think its right either if he's not actually going to be with her either. I wonder if he's looked up the child support rules and thinks it will cut down the maintenance he has to pay.... And yet again, by not letting you have the walker etc at your place, he's just punishing Hayley.

Has he not given your money back you collected?

Sounds harsh but I'd start being a bitch untill you get what you want

If he won't give you Hayley's things as her main carer I wouldnt allow access

Her best interests first - and that's not being deprived if her belongings or yours

I really want to, but I'm worried incase he does take it to court then he'll have ammo to say well she done XYZ. I know I have A-Z of horrid things he's done against me and Hayley but I just don't want to fuck it up for myself iykwim ?? Wouldn't want him getting extra custody as I've prevented him from seeing Hayley, even though he really isn't interested in her!!

 

[Jojo84]

Kaedin you need to start playing hardball a little bit - he's not allowing you access to necessary things and he's not giving you any financial support. Keep hold of any communication withr him- texts etx and if it's a phone call then write the date and time down and record the details of the phone all for future reference. I'd get in touch with your local citizens advice and also inform you health visitor of the change (as she needs a change of address notification anyway) she may be able to Offer you advice or point you in the right direction.

I'm sure that someone on my fb had this issue with a baby a few years ago and they said that because the father wasn't allowing access to necessary things he was guilty of a form of neglect. He's using your daughter as a weapon and he's being an ass... I'd pull out he stops and I would also be telling him that he can't keep her overnight as it messes her up too much. I'd see if you can get some form of legal advice - I know there's some way to get advice for free through citizens advice. He's financially abusing you and in turn your daughter too.

Is also be applying for social housing and benefits until you can financially support yourselves again.

The courts are almost always I'm favour of the child staying with it's mother - especially young babies - I don't always agree with that, but in this case or works in your favour.

Oh a different note - Luke took 6 minutes to sleep but he's gone to sleep without his bottle so going to have to wake him to
Feed him. Bugger.

 

[iWitch]

Kaedin,



You should check all that out wig someone. I just can't understand how he's thinks it will be good for Hayley to be passed back and forward constantly. I don't think the courts will think its right either if he's not actually going to be with her either. I wonder if he's looked up the child support rules and thinks it will cut down the maintenance he has to pay.... And yet again, by not letting you have the walker etc at your place, he's just punishing Hayley.



Has he not given your money back you collected?

Sounds harsh but I'd start being a bitch untill you get what you want



If he won't give you Hayley's things as her main carer I wouldnt allow access



Her best interests first - and that's not being deprived if her belongings or yours

I really want to, but I'm worried incase he does take it to court then he'll have ammo to say well she done XYZ. I know I have A-Z of horrid things he's done against me and Hayley but I just don't want to fuck it up for myself iykwim ?? Wouldn't want him getting extra custody as I've prevented him from seeing Hayley, even though he really isn't interested in her!!

Contact CAFCASS for advice & support. In the event of a court case they'd prob refer to these anyways. They're an independent advocate for the child

 

[StaceyRainbow]

I've gone off aldi nappies cos they don't absorb very well and leave Stanley's willy and front damp

 

[Kaedin]

I've kept all texts from him, incase I do need it in the future. Even have him admitting he stole my money - which was at least £50!!

Think the CAFCASS thing is only for England? I'm phoning my Drs tomorrow as I've registered with my old GP again, so need to get sorted for Hayleys jags. My ex brought a letter today saying her jags are due on the 7th..yet he didn't bother telling me when he got it (obviously the post wasn't delivered today!!) Which is daft cos I'll be the one taking her to jags ect ect so surely common sense would tell him to let me know asap so I don't end up double booked for another appointment or something

 

[iWitch]

I've gone off aldi nappies cos they don't absorb very well and leave Stanley's willy and front damp

I've not used them consistently but I figure from the difference to the lasts pack I did have, I'm sure they've changed manufacturers or something

 

[StaceyRainbow]

Well I've been using pampers again cos I got loads given and was using aldi through the night.. Now I'm not keen on going back to them!

 

[iWitch]

We've been using kiddicare ones mainly. Just bought some pampers baby dry for through the night to try to check whether he's been getting uncomfortable

 

[Mummybexee]

Oscar has leaked through aldi 3 times in a week in size 3 at night so I got size 4 and he leaked through 2 of those this past week

I have got some size 4 pampers baby dry ( he's in size 4 aldi at night so thought I'd get 4 pampers) and seeing what happens with those over the next week or so!

I have a pack of size 3 and a box of size 4 aldi - will use them during the day but may try a few other brands you ladies use to compare when I'm out of size 3

 

[StaceyRainbow]

We've been using kiddicare ones mainly. Just bought some pampers baby dry for through the night to try to check whether he's been getting uncomfortable

Yeh they're the pampers I'm using.. They're decent

 

[Natalilly1288]

I've never had a problem with pampers yet the aldi ones I had leaked twice and I didn't like how bulky they were as soon as she had done one wee it looked like the nappy needed changing x

 

[Kaedin]

I had a big box of the Pampers simply dry size 4 but my ex has decided to keep them. I've asked for them (or at least half the box or something) but he refused. So Hayleys still on size 3 Mamia nappies, which are digging into her legs but I need to just use the last of them as I'm too skint to buy size 4 and waste the remaining 3s!

I used to love Pampers, but then they started leaking from size 2 so switched to a few diff branks, but she seemed great in a size 4 pampers yesterday

 

[Mummybexee]

Kaedin you need to really put your foot down

Nothing bad will happen in court - it will go your way even if you play your face abit - he will have to go through a lengthy process to get to court aswell

Start being abit of a **** like he has been to see how he likes it - maybe it will make him realise he's being a complete arse

 

[Jojo84]

I can't cope tonight I really can't! It's back to Luke being a week old!

 

[Mummybexee]

You can cope jojo

Put luke down.... Go outside and have 5 mins - cup of tea or whatever and then go back in

 

[Jojo84]

He cris when I put him down - screams and screams! He screams louder for hubby until he just can't breathe!

 

[Mummybexee]

Yeah - he will pick up on your frustration and you need to be focused so just let him cry and take 5 min out -

 

[Jojo84]

Husband just snapped at me because he's "fucking hot!" And so it goes down to me! He's pissing me off big time tonight! Feel like yelling him to sleep in the ducking garden!