How are all you new mummies doing?

[Pumpkin9]

8 shifts- you have an absence meeting and they can let you off but keep the shifts live, but yeah ultimately could be a warning, plus you don't get paid for them!

 

[Toria111]

I don't know how employers get away with that Kathryn. To cover themselves they should just say at hr's discretion. I whinge about my old work, but I took quite a lot of time off when my two were sick. And got full pay. I did feel guilty, but when one child has swine flu, and the other in hospital with flesh eating disease I would have flipped my lid if they said anything.

Also had to go back to NZ when my mum was ill when my son was 10 months. She died a few weeks after, but then my son was ill there so couldn't fly. Then when all was fine I decided I wasn't going to travel all the way back here with an 11 month old as I was due back in NZ 4 weeks later to get married. I fully expected them to threaten to fire me, or at least not pay me. I was off for a total of 3 months, and got full pay for the lot. Very shocking.

 

[Kaedin]

3 months wow Toria! I don't get paid for sick days in my work either, my work always do the bare minimum. Think the big bosses forget people do actually get sick within a year so do have to take time off, not by their own choice!

 

[Maud]

That's amazing Toria! If I have to take time off for a sick child it will either be holiday or unpaid and they record all absences. They claim to be family friendly, but I will have to wait and see what that means in practice. I'm hopeful that they will at least agree to me going back part-time as I can't see any reason they would turn it down.

 

[Natalilly1288]

That's one thing il miss with Barclays 6 months full pay really lucky as I had to have a bit of time off in the last few years with family problems and it's such a good benefit xxxx

 

[dizzybaby]

I work for harveys furniture head office kaedin - we've merged with bensons though and under the new contract I wouldn't get paid for child sickness either. Now I've calmed down a bit about it I'm trying to see the positives and I didn't want to go back there anyway cos I hated it since all the changes so this is giving me the push to pursue my photography for the next 7 months and see whEre that goes and I'll look into just a part time shift job in march when I resign from harveys. And it means more time at home with Maddie so that can't be a bad thing

 

[hayes]

Glad u r looking at the positives hun, I hated it wen I was made redundant didn't know wat I was guna do bit now I'm happy it happened. Wud never have left n looked into childminding n I think this will b much better for us.We never got paid sick either or looked after in any way. Hubble firm is amazing tho. Although with that sum people take the Mick so I can see why companies don't do it.

Michelle.x

 

[Jojo84]

Feel crap today! Really bloaty, pressure and bad gas think I got a tummy bug

 

[Mummybexee]

Or... :d

 

[hayes]

Haha I'm with Bexs.

Michelle.x

 

[Jojo84]

Took a test , not even a squinter

 

[Mummybexee]

hmmm you never know

if your not though- least it shows how much you really want another

i am getting itchy feet!! we really are considering living with hubbys mum for a year- clearing debt and starting again....cant make our minds up on the bloody house!! arggghh

 

[Jojo84]

We moved in with my mum for a year when hubby was out of work And we had too much debt - worked well for us.

 

[Mummybexee]

friends keep telling us we are mad... but we could save 1000 a month living at his mums with him out of work- with him in work we could save 2000

oscar has his own bedroom- we would need storage for our valuable items like sofas and nursery furtniutre etc but id flog some stuff on local selling pages - like our bed as it wouldnt fit comfortably in the room we would move into

but 12 months now-leading us to be debt free with a 40k deposit on our forvever home seems like a short term solution to get rid of something ? then we could think about having another baby when we are settled in new home as we could save at his mums to have some money away for my maternity leave to cover bills etc

if we dont do it now- we will have it hanging over our heads for years- when oscars abit older - like 2/3+ we want to be abe to go places and do things - which we couldnt with the debt payments

we would have to rehome all 3 of our cats its the one thing mainly stopping us- how bad is that

 

[hayes]

Sounds like it might b a good plan Bexs do u get on well?

Its mot over till u get it af jojo!!

Michelle.x

 

[Mummybexee]

yes michelle we get on really well- however that may change when we are under each others feet... but saying that its not a small house- 3 bed detached with 2 reception rooms, big kitchen etc-- and shes always out and about doing things ( better social life than us ) so i dont think it will be a problem

she mentioned it again yesteraday and joked saying ' at least i know the house will always be tidy ' ( having a joke about my OCD )

 

[Toria111]

Bex, if there's space there for you I would definitely consider. Even if it didn't work out, you can look for your own place later. At lest the pressure will be off you. Then in a years time you will be on your feet.

 

[Toria111]

Just dropped Emma at nursery for her first day! No tears, she just went to one of the girls and cuddled her. Now to clean the house, catch up on washing, take my dad to a rental car place, drop him at some plane museum, take the kids to see maleficent. £5.50 for all of us! Supermarket, Get a nap in, then Back to collect Emma

 

[Pumpkin9]

Thomas has got a really raw spot on his bum today, been putting barrier cream on and sudocrem all yesterday but it's got worse not better so going to get some metanium nappy rash cream today and change his nappies more regularly.

Not sure if this is from the cold/cough he's had or teething!

 

[douglasxox]

Totally off topic but my mum just phoned as she'd found my read book and oh my god what a difference in the guidelines. In my book mums are advised to start baby's on solids between 3-4 months and if they aren't satisfied before then then just give them some Farleys. How times change