How are all you new mummies doing?

[Mummybexee]

I'm watching orange is the new black... There's a lot of boobs in first episode lol and dn me that's captain janeway from startrek

Watched both series! Love it!!!

 

[Jojo84]

I didn't think I would like it but it's great - on season 1 episode 7

 

[Kaedin]

Orange is the new black is great, theres alot of boobs all the way through haha!

My ex has been an arse again (surprise surprise) He demanded I drop Hayley at his work - I refused. He told me he finished at 12, text at 12:18 to say he's working til 2. Then at 23 he text saying "3 even" meaning another hour until he gets Hayley. Thank fuck I didn't drop her off or I'd be stuck in town for 3 hours and wouldn't have had supplied to make her bottles ect!!! Told him to just leave it then (as he would probs text at 3 saying he's still "busy") and all I got was verbal abuse by text.

Really thinking of just going to a lawyer, but worried incase he gets more visitation than I want so don't want to do it and end up seeing less of Hayley myself. So stressful.

 

[mrssmith2011]

I think you need some professional advice Kaedin he is acting like a knob (sorry for the language). It's ridiculous to do that when she needs feeding and changing. I hope things get better for you xxx

 

[Jojo84]

You can't go on like this! You have to get advice and remember to write down all the details concerning his Dickishness

 

[Mummybexee]

Oscar likes apple, pear separate or mixed

Make sure you use a sweet apple not something like a Granny Smith! I use pink ladies

 

[Jojo84]

Oh I've used apples before but mixed with raspberry they're small and sweet - I get them from green grocer do not sure what type but I remember they're sweet

 

[Kaedin]

I was talking about it yesterday and my mum said I might qualify for legal aid so it wouldn't cost me if I do go down that route. I'm just nervous about doing it, as it's nothing I've ever done before, and I'm worried incase he gets more access than he does already. So just don't want to shoot myself in the foot.

Well done babies! Seem to be really enjoying their grub

Starting to get nervous Hayley has her jags on Wednesday, the thought makes me feel sick! Thankfully my mums coming with me, so I don't need to go alone again!

 

[douglasxox]

Kaiden you definitely need to do something, I'm sure once a solicitor sees/hears all about the way your ex is treating you the first port of call won't be more access! Good luck!

I'm off to Aberdeen today to do some shopping with my best friend who's going through a rough time so hopefully this will cheer her up!

 

[Toria111]

Kaedin, it won't hurt getting legal advice. They will look at whats best for Hayley, and I'm pretty sure they won't give him joint custody if he's just going to leave her with someone else while he goes to work. You should also be getting support from him. You just had a baby do not working. He has to pay to support you too.

 

[iWitch]

Don't forget you can argue that he never watched Hayley for you when you were with him & this was mainly the reason your relationship ended.

SIL's baby shower today. I'm on cake duty. Should really get up & begin whilst LO is asleep & hubby still here but I'm too comfy

 

[T84]

I agree with everyone else kaedin, it seems scary but it's all for Hayley.

Aw I'm the same as you I witch, S is back down for her morning nap and I've came back to bed which I never do.

That's my best friend of 16 away now. I'm totally gutted, she's been my rock throughout the years and has been an amazing help since S has been born. She also has 3 kids and I'll miss them like crazy. Sad day today plenty S hugs tho!

 

[Maud]

Am feeling rather glum. OH is off work this week and the weather forecast for the week is for rain every day Really limits what we can do with the little one.

 

[Kaedin]

Thanks ladies, think I'll have to. He has become even more ridiculous this morning when dropping Hayley back home.

She has 2 very red scratched on her leg, so I text him asking him to just let me know what happened. He text back saying "ultimate baby fighting championship. First place so proud of her"....really hard to remind myself that this boy is nearly 27 years of age...not 12!!

Her changing mat still had poop on it, she had some poop on her foot. He gave me back poopy socks in a nappy sack, her clothes where covered in formula. He said the lid came off. So this means he had her out somewhere (I recon his dad & step mums) so once again he's STILL not even the one looking after her. He's such a dead beat dad, no idea why he actually wanted a baby if he really has no intention of spending time with her alone.

 

[Jojo84]

I hope you kept that text about ultimate baby championship - that shows a ewalavk of responsibility and maturity! God I don't know how you haven't punched him in the face by now!

All drama our end- was planning in
Lunch atums but there's a huge emergency at work so she had to drop me off as her car is true one with the baby seat - I've left everything but Luke there because it was such a rush... I told her to come
For a cuppa when she's done to calm down and empty her head of the hell that's going on there.

On he upside the sin is shining so we might go and play on the garden today.

He's 5 months and today he's in his 6-9month clothes. He's growing up so fast!!

 

[Kaedin]

Oh dear! Least it's sunning. It's pretty miserable here in Glasgow!! Blehh!

I know Jojo! I text him again asking what really happened, he text back saying "Jedi training, close call with an ewok". If he keeps this up I think I will refuse that he has her overnight and he can jsut go to court. I need to know she's save, and with people who are taking care of her. If she has 2 big scratches then clearly someone has failed to take responsibility for her health & well being!!

 

[Kaedin]

I said before If I didn't have a child with him I would make sure my family went round and beat him up. People keep offering to batter him for me when I tell them what he's done, but I just can't as it's still Hayleys dad. I want her to know I've never done anything wrong when she's old enough to understand. At least I can hold my head up high...he certainly can't.

 

[Jojo84]

Two scratches doesn't mean something bad has happened but his response is fucking annoying. I would definitely be texting to say that as he can't take her safety seriously and can't give answers about things in a grown up responsible manor you think it's best she doesn't sleepover for a while. Make sure you point out that you're not stopping him from seing her (he could use this against you) but that contact will have to be arranged during the day.

What you really nee to do (and probably would be if he was capable of behaving like an adult) is sit down together and sort out a schedule of visitation.

Oh and not to be awkward but is take poxtueeS of the scratches and send them
And tell him you want an answer as to why these scratches are on her legs.

 

[Toria111]

When my oh split up from his ex, she with held visitation because he wouldn't agree to her demands. He sought advice and they just sent her a letter saying she can't do that. So nothing too bad. My point being, if you do stop him seeing her. nothing bad will happen to you other than a telling off. But may pee him off more though.

 

[StaceyRainbow]

Kaedin
Me and Chris have been through courts to see his son cos his ex would just stop access whenever she pleased we went to court and now we have ALOT more than the once a week she allowed when she felt like it, she actually stopped him seeing him for months at a time so court was the only solution (for the second time)
They saw right through her and in the end they did the right thing..
If the courts see the way he is acting towards you they will be on your side, we kept all text messages etc which went in our favour, we weren't entitled to any legal aid as they've stopped it unless there's aspects of domestic abuse not sure if it was all kinds or just physical.. Chris represented himself and she paid for a solicitor, your entitles to 30 mins free legal advice here not sure if the same applies in Scotland, they won't give him joint custody and they won't allow him to have her when he's at work when she could be with you.