Hi all,
My girlfriend of 5 years has recently had our first child, but since then all hell has broke loose. Our new build apartment was still not built when the baby was born so we moved into her parents house, all was fine for about 3 weeks and then my girlfriend and I argued, I left the house and her mother text me abusive messages saying how tight I am (because when my gf asks me what have I done I say I'm buying our house and paying everything for it) - meanwhile my gf's mother doesn't own her home, she rents.
I told my girlfriend I'd buy our home as she hasn't worked for over 2 years and that putting her on the mortgage wouldn't work as the bank wouldn't borrow me the money for the home (I now have 2 dependents so this is why along with my gf having no income). My gf then demanded she is on the mortgage and has 50% of the home as hers, in writing. I explained I can't do this due to the banks etc but she will not move in with me because the house "wouldn't be hers" although I am the one paying the deposit, monthly bills, food and everything else. She has £0 income. I want to buy this house as it's a nice area with good schools.
I will not go into my gf's parents home after what her mum said to me, she said much worst things than the "tight" term, she also said her daughter and my child don't need me and will be fine without me, along with a lot of abusive language. She won't talk to me either and won't apologise. My gf is living in her parents home with 4 other people and a baby in a 2 bed semi-detached house. It's not fair on my child.
My gf will also not bring my child over to my parents house (where I'm currently living until the mortgage is exchanged) due to her and my mother falling out 6 months ago (despite them making up since) and the fact my parents haven't visited the new baby much at her home - this is because they know what she can be like and her mother, they don't like them. My grandmother is sick and in pain with her bones and I want to take my baby round regularly to see her and cheer her up but my gf doesn't want to do so, she thinks she can make her own way to her (despite my grandmother having walking difficulties, weakness and the fact she's 87 years old).
I feel like my girlfriend (gf) isn't been reasonable at all and I can only see the relationship going one way... Ending.
When arguing my gf also mentioned not letting me see my child for more than half a day every 2 weeks and not putting my name on the birth certificate. I am looking into solicitors if this goes that way.
I want to hear people's thoughts on whether my gf deserves to be on the mortgage and if she's been very unreasonable/spiteful?
My girlfriend of 5 years has recently had our first child, but since then all hell has broke loose. Our new build apartment was still not built when the baby was born so we moved into her parents house, all was fine for about 3 weeks and then my girlfriend and I argued, I left the house and her mother text me abusive messages saying how tight I am (because when my gf asks me what have I done I say I'm buying our house and paying everything for it) - meanwhile my gf's mother doesn't own her home, she rents.
I told my girlfriend I'd buy our home as she hasn't worked for over 2 years and that putting her on the mortgage wouldn't work as the bank wouldn't borrow me the money for the home (I now have 2 dependents so this is why along with my gf having no income). My gf then demanded she is on the mortgage and has 50% of the home as hers, in writing. I explained I can't do this due to the banks etc but she will not move in with me because the house "wouldn't be hers" although I am the one paying the deposit, monthly bills, food and everything else. She has £0 income. I want to buy this house as it's a nice area with good schools.
I will not go into my gf's parents home after what her mum said to me, she said much worst things than the "tight" term, she also said her daughter and my child don't need me and will be fine without me, along with a lot of abusive language. She won't talk to me either and won't apologise. My gf is living in her parents home with 4 other people and a baby in a 2 bed semi-detached house. It's not fair on my child.
My gf will also not bring my child over to my parents house (where I'm currently living until the mortgage is exchanged) due to her and my mother falling out 6 months ago (despite them making up since) and the fact my parents haven't visited the new baby much at her home - this is because they know what she can be like and her mother, they don't like them. My grandmother is sick and in pain with her bones and I want to take my baby round regularly to see her and cheer her up but my gf doesn't want to do so, she thinks she can make her own way to her (despite my grandmother having walking difficulties, weakness and the fact she's 87 years old).
I feel like my girlfriend (gf) isn't been reasonable at all and I can only see the relationship going one way... Ending.
When arguing my gf also mentioned not letting me see my child for more than half a day every 2 weeks and not putting my name on the birth certificate. I am looking into solicitors if this goes that way.
I want to hear people's thoughts on whether my gf deserves to be on the mortgage and if she's been very unreasonable/spiteful?
xx
