Gender scan Monday - just thrown up!!!

[Samsgirl]

maybe it might help you to bond a little better and feel better to see baby at 20 weeks....but saying that i could not believe the baby on the scan was in me and so it didnt help me bond...but i know others have felt differently..

just see how you feel in 4 weeks time obviously....xx

 

[Nurse 26]

so glad you got to speak to someone hun hope your doing ok today! xxx

 

[netty]

glad you spoke to someone lovely, and no you shouldnt feel ashamed at all xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

She was very understanding, she understands why I put all the baby stuff away, why I dont want to go to anything pregnancy related. She said that for lots of people, pretending things arent happening helps them to function on a daily basis until you can feel better about it. I'm hoping that happens for me too x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls, your support means everything to me, I realise to many, this is very difficult to understand x

 

[kra0]

To be honest yes I do understand what it includes but I think as this is my first child I wouldn't entirely understand it until it happened to me! But I do understand how other ladies could feel so upset and disappointed, especially you who has lots of boys already and this was your last attempt. I think most ladies wouldnt fully understand until theyd been there themselves. But im here to support you anyway! Does that make sense what I said :s lol xxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks kra, that does make sense, thankyou x

 

[Karate Kid]

Hey Cos,

I am not going to pretend that I understand what you are going through because I don't but then this is my first pregnancy. All I can do is reiterate what your counsellor said.... NONE of yur feelings are wrong, unjustified or unimportant, they are your feelings so if you need to cry, scream, shout, be happy, pamper yourself then do it hun. Just work through your emotions and remember it is not wrong to 'feel your feelings'..... sounds strange but as a recovered eating disorder suferer I know how easy it is to not work through things because they are too painful.....They always come back up at some point.

Anyway sorry for waffling, I am glad you have a supportive husband and I really hope you can get through this before LO arrives.

xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks karate kid, that means a lot x

 

[EmmaN27]

Glad you got to speak to someone Cosmic and hopefully the advice they have given you will help you. You have your kids to worry about and look after which should help keep you busy and take your mind off things. I'm sure they don't like seeing their Mummy upset and are worried about you. x

 

[EssJayPea]

Thinking of you hun. Keep talking things through and remember that everything you're feeling is valid and real. Your counsellor will help you to tackle your feelings and we'll all be here if you ever need anything xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls, it's been a hard couple of days x

 

[MissJuly10]

Glad you spoke to someone and that she's seeing you again. I hope she can help you work through your feelings.

x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks missJ, I hope she will be really helpful. It's certainly a weight off to let it all out with someone impartial x

 

[Princess81]

Sounds like your counsellor is a good 'un cos. take each day at a time sweetie xxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks princess, she's great. She talks a lot of sense x

 

[tinytoes]

So pleased she helped the others are right , whatever you are feeling is ok the main thing is getting yourself into a good place mentally and taking care of yourself xx

 

[Gayle30]

I keep reading this thread and really don't know what to say other than I am so sorry that you feel this way and hope that by talking things over with the counsellor you will get to the place of being excited and happy to meet your wee boy. Which I am so sure you will. it's hard for people to understand what other people are going though And I say they should never judge until they are in them shoes. I've come under so much critisism from people who haven't a clue about my life really as I have requested an elective c section. my choice, my feelings.

I would say take everything at your own pace and don't feel like you have to explain your feelings or behaviour to anyone. The people who love you will understand and be there for you.
Lots of love-be kind to yourself. Xx

 

[Sunbeam638]

Ah cos, just caught up a bit more today with how you are getting on xx

I'm no counsellor but what she said is right, you have to ride the wave of emotions and you did the right thing finding out now than at the birth. Sorry your feeling so crappy.

Sending you lots of hugs, pm if you need anything.

Xxx

 

[PeaPod]

BIG HUG cos! Although I haven't been where you are I have an old work friend who has been in your position and I know how devastating it was for her not to get her girl. I'm glad you found a great person to talk to and she is right - you feel however you need to feel about it all and ignore anyone who says otherwise!XX