Gender scan Monday - just thrown up!!!

[cosmicgirl]

There's no way I could have waited til the birth, that would be too much, you know how tearful you are at birth, I'd be in bits x

 

[gooseberry]

also cosmic i have to tell you when i was a very small child my dad sat me down and explained his utter dissapointment that id been born a girl as he had been very much wishing for another boy, my parents actually divorced shortly after i was born and my whole life iv known i was a dissapointment to him and as such we have never had a normal relationship, i know you wouldnt share your thoughts with your sons but in the nicest possible way cosmic i really hope you can put your sadness behind you as it can be quite damaging x x

 

[Simoneh00]

This may be way out of line and honestly I apologise if it is! Have you considered gender selective ivf? I know for lots of women it's the only answer to having the little girl they dream of xx

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[Violet]

Ah hon I'm sorry u haven't got your pink princess . I've never heard of GD and 3 weeks ago when I was talking to a specialist Midwife about my boy I suddenly burst into tears cos he wasn't the girl I wanted. I hated saying it cos i felt i would be judged. It's taken me ages to find any boys clothes I like and I'm having to put on a happy face cos my OH is absolutely thrilled it's a boy. I'm also having to face up to the fact I might never have a girl if only because of my age.

Don't get me wrong, he's my first and I'm really happy he's healthy. Before the scan I said I didn't mind which gender baby was and that's what I really thought, but when the sonographer said its a boy I felt something drop inside me.

I really feel for u hon. Big (((hugs))). Thank you for being able to talk about it.

 

[babyem]

Even with IVF etc, it isn't a guarantee you'll get what you want..

I know that this baby is my first, but when I found out it was a girl I was so dissappointed. Everything I had ever imagined our lives would be like, I thought of a boy. I felt guilty for feeling disappointed, especially when so many people would give anything to have a baby. I know that its not the same thing as this is my first, but experiencing what I felt then I cant imagine how you feel. I was happy that my baby was healthy and in no way dissapointed that I am having a LO, it was just a complete shock to me and OH.

I'm very sorry you feel this way, and hope in time that you feel more at peace with it all Regardless of the sex, I'm sure you will be a fantastic mummy to this little boy xxxx

 

[babyem]

Is it not possible that may be you shouldn't have set a amount to stop at , if a girl IS so important carry on may be that is all that has stopped your wish from coming true . Having said that I have never had twins myself and you were blessed with them. I do hope you can put all this behind you before your son is born all the best xx

Chances are that even if you did keep going and not limit how many children you have, they would be boys. Its one of those things I suppose..


Thankyou Cosmic for highlighting Gender Dissapointment and having the courage to do so Xx

 

[Simoneh00]

Even with IVF etc, it isn't a guarantee you'll get what you want..

Don't they just implant the female embryos? Sorry I don't know much about it other than what I saw on a tv programme where a woman had it

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[cosmicgirl]

Gender selection is not available in this country but is available in Spain and USA. Yes they do just implant female embryos but I already looked into this before we tried again this time and it would cost £1000's that we just don't have x

Thanks for the kind messages ladies xx

 

[pinkclara]

so sorry sweetie xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks hun x

 

[Amyrose]

Eh cos I wanna see pics of that little trouble maker x

 

[cosmicgirl]

I can't bring myself to look at the pics AR, I haven't even seen them. Oh picked them x

 

[pinkyprincess]

I just caught up on all this. I'm so sorry it wasn't a girl but I know whatever you'll always be a fantastic mum to that little boy

 

[Amyrose]

Well when you do I wanna be the first to see them you know how much I love a good oggle xxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks pinky.
I'm working up to looking at them in the next few days, I just can't right now. Dread to think what oh has chosen. They're 4D ones x

 

[EmmaN27]

I look forward to seeing your 4D pics when you're up to sharing them. x

 

[cosmicgirl]

No doubt he'll have picked the worst ones! x

 

[EmmaN27]

He might have surprised you and picked some good ones! x

 

[jules84]

The 4d pics won't change the little wonderful being inside you! Im sure hell be just lovely, dont look at the pics before your ready. you have plenty of time to get your head around it and you know youll love him as much as the rest! hope you feel a little better in a few days hun xxx

 

[kittyrooroo]

So sorry you didnt get your wish
Some ladies are just meant to have soldiers.
Imagine when they're all grown up, you'll be the most protected mummy in the world xxx