Oh Natz , what a horrible time your having, can't believe that they would muck you about like this.
I don't know why they leave ladies in limbo once they have the scan and decide on D&C, you should be kept in and done there and then once tummy empty of food, not sent home to wait. I then started mc at home a week later and ended up being driven to A&E to get dealt with , only to find my hosp didn't have an A&E and there night maternity dept would not take me at 4am, when I was due to arrive there at 7am for D&C!!!, so my mum had to drive me to another hosp 30 mins away, while I was sitting on 3 towels, soaking my mums car seat, head in a sick bucket and doubled over in cramps crying my eyes out. I ended up having all my veins collapsing and needed 2 blood transfusions to sort me out before getting a D&C at 8am!
At my original hosp- I had agreed in advance to my "products of conception" as they call it! going to a certain cemetary, with all the other babies together, (which was one of two options I had at that hosp) giving me the choice, and having a D&C. Then ended up at a different hospital and the products just got thrown away, I was in a bit of a mess at the time so when I asked after the D&C they told me just like that and thought me mad to think there was another nicer option!!
I feel your really brave and fantastic to have written a letter to the hospital, well done you, and it's really well written, and should make them really think, I'm sure with a letter like that, you will get a reply, let us know how you get on.
Really sorry to hear about having to speak to them again on monday for options, hope more options are not needed - sending you a big hug- hang in there Natz XX