Feel like the only one trying this long

[Ann30]

Hi everyone,

Iv decided to have a break from clomid this month it's just getting too much, making me feel crappy, spotty, fat and moody. Plus after 4 months of nothing happening I just need a month of.
I came on yesterday as I knew full well I would. Ah I was so depressed, especially as its hit the 2 year mark I just feel like I'm the only one trying for this long. I know I'm not but its hard not to feel that way. I'm going to start coming on here more as felt so isolated yesterday and I need to know I'm not alone as none of my family and friends know what it's like, plus I don't want to burden them. I don't want to tell my every thought to my hubby either as I know he gets down too.
How long has everyone been trying? What's your next steps and are there any reasons why you are struggling? It would be great to get to know everyone.
Iv been trying 2 years, me and hubby have had every test going and all fine apparently, and next step is iui then ivf which we will be beginning proceedings for in April so trying to stay as chilled and positive til then. It's sooooooo hard tho!!!! I really wouldn't wish this on any one xxxx

 

[Mrs_P]

Hi hun, I'm sorry you are feeling down it sucks doesn't it!

I'm Sally *waves* myself and my husband have been trying for 5 years and 4 months. We have seen different doctors who kept fobbing us off as we are young and have conceived before. I've had blood tests which have apparently come back 'normal'. But they were never done at the correct time in my cycle as my cycles are irregular, long and either heavy or really light. My husband had a sperm test done in 2011, he had a 60 million count but a 2 % motility at the time. He has since been taking zinc, he doesn't smoke or drink. I have PCOS symptoms and i'm so sure this is our problem. U/S showed cysts at every scan ive had since I was 13. My late mother (sadly passed away when I was 13) had problems conceiving and it took them 16 years with paying for private tests but in the end they conceived me naturally and I have a brother.

We finally got referred as a GP saw we had been going round in circles since 2009 when we first visited the GP. Our first appointment is tomorrow & I am so scared to be honest. I know we will no doubt be booked in for tests and a HSG for me (which is what my letter states) hope they will discuss a plan of action with us and reasons for why we are struggling. I am hoping we will be offered clomid after the results are back.

Hope reading my story has at least taken your mind of things. You are not alone. You never know a break may be just what you need. Hope things work out for you hun. Good Luck! Xxx

 

[HoneyBees]

Hi Ann,

You're most definitely not alone! We've been trying for 2 years 2 months.
Not even had a sniff of a BFP. I've always said that I would only ever test when I get to 7 days late........and never got that far before!
Earlier in the year I was diagnosed with an underactive thyroid. My last blood test back in June confirmed that the level of thyroxine I was put on initially was correct (they started me off on a high dose). My levels are now normal. In a way I am hoping that the thyroid issue was causing the infertility and we will fall pregnant now within 3 months. Fingers crossed anyway!

Good Luck to you all!!!!

x

 

[TINKS82]

We have been trying 3 years and have had all the tests which have come back normal. We have iur 1st consultant appt for ivf next fri eek! Quite nervous about the whole thing. Good luck with your journey xx

 

[skeando]

We have been trying for over four years and have had all the tests which were fine except low amh (egg reserve). We have had three cycles of iui, two of which were cancelled as I responded too well and a unsuccessful ivf cycle. Waiting to start another ivf cycle. Its hard as all my friends have kids and some in real life and on here have even had a second baby and we're still struggling. Sometimes I just wish want to give up so we can start living again. I never thought it would be this hard.

 

[greekgirl84]

We too have been trying for a while. Over 3 yrs now. Had a mc last April - day after bfp

 

[Titch85]

2 years 8 months for me, not even a hint of a BFP. Now trying to decide where to go from here.

 

[Lovinglife1988]

It's very hard not to feel down when your trying for so long especially when u see people come and go all of the time. Whilst ttc most of my family had babies and I got to the point that my daughter was meant o be an only child and counted my blessings for her. After giving up (I'm not quite sure when we decided to give up it sort of just happened) the 1st of July I found out tha I am pregnant. I was bridesmaids sopping with my friend for her wedding and as you can imagine doing a test and it coming back positive in a public toilet was one hell of a shock. I am now just under 13 weeks and I can honestly say that I never expected to find myself in this position.

Don't give up Hun just relax and live your life and it will happen when u least expect it. It's very hard for ttc not to take over our life and not. Constantly be on your mind. My fingers are crossed for you Hun.


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[Lovinglife1988]

Sorry I forgot to mention that no. 2 is due on my 5th anniversary of ttc x


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[greekgirl84]

Not sure if anyone else can see the test of my msg but It seems to have lost the rest of it after my mc.
I have had cycle if ivf and stupidly I thought it would work as I was told it was the perfect embryo. Made the pressure more as now feel my body failed to provide the best environment.
That failed and we did frozen cycle with the one left . Again really good embryo took it to day 5 blastocyst and that failed too. So where do we go next... Unsure really.

 

[Blueflower]

We've been trying for over 2 years now and have unexplained infertility. I'm hoping it means that its just taking longer, but if it goes on too long I'll be too old! We're hoping to start private treatment soon.

Same as Honeybees I only test if I'm late now which I NEVER am! Or I test if I want to go out and drink loads or take cold medication! Never had a sniff of a BFP. Although I did get a nice dark line on my OPK this morning!

It is SO horrible seeing other people get pregnant and you feel as if you keep being sent to the back of the queue. There have been a lot of tears in our house over the last couple of years.

This forum is really the only place where everyone understands, its been a life-saver!
Feel free to vent, we're all here for you!

 

[Browneyed Girl]

I have been trying since October 2011, had one mmc in Feb/March 2012 and nothing since. Have been referred for assisted conception so just waiting for the letter to come through. My notes show I have secondary infertility which I feel really sad about as I don't already have a child. Anyway ho hum, have just got to hope that we get there one way or another. It is stressful though and upsetting to see others have babies and move forward with their lives while I'm just stuck here going round in circles and never getting anywhere.

There are a few of us on here in the same boat so you're definitely not alone! xx

 

[cornishfairy]

Hi! You're certainly not alone on here, we've been ttc for 3 and a half years, had a bfp last may which was doomed from the start I think - it came a week after what i assumed was a normal period and lasted until I was a week late the second month then I mc'd (so I call it mc at 5 weeks but seeing as it must have been from the previous cycle I guess it's actually 9 weeks). Had tests at docs and our problem seems to be hubby's sperm. We're currently waiting for our referral appointment letter and hoping further tests at the fertility clinic don't throw up any more problems.
I have days where I totally despair and feel like giving up; and others where I feel quite positive. It's so hard. I totally feel for you, none of us deserve this! Xx

 

[Ann30]

Hey everyone, thank u so much for all of your responses- I can't tell u how much they mean to me and have made me feel loads better I agree, none of us deserve this but one thing iv learnt over the last couple of years is that just because u want something really badly it doesn't mean it will automatically happen unfortunately in other words it's just totally shit!!! I feel much better today, comin on is so horrendously depressing but I do think hormones make it worse. Plus just knowing that I'm not alone means so much cos sometimes u really do feel like the only one on earth going through it.
Iv decided to have a month off clomid, me and hubby r going away to Spain so going to totally relax and enjoy life. Iv also handed my notice in on my really stressful job as I no that don't help and it's been gettin me down. I Want a nice little job in a shop as I love fashion plus think it won't be very stressful. Money won't be great but that's so not my priority right now. I want to be in the best possible place if it does get to the ivf stage.
I'm definately comin on here regularly now as it helps so much, I wish u all the best of luck with everything and if anyone wants to talk or any thing message me I'd love to talk to others in the same boat.
Lots of love xxxx

 

[xxcharliexx]

Hiya! We have been ttc for 2 years 3 months now and I'm on my 4th round of clomid. I was diagnosed with unicornuate uterus (half a womb) in march I have an appointment with my dr tomorrow to get the ball rolling for ivf! Feeling nervous about it!

We all have good months and bad months but one day we will get our miracle babies! xx

 

[gemmainthesun]

We have been trying for 3 years with male factor, see signature. Your not alone although I know it seems like that x

 

[nikki_isme]

It will happen! It took us 2 1/2 years to conceive so you are not alone! xx

 

[Clairabella]

You are certainly not alone. We have been TTC for 2 years next month had all the tests which show male factor mobility issues. I have low AMH levels. We had IVF in June 8 mature eggs and 100% fertilisation rate 1 blastocyst transferred and unfortunately BFN.
We will have FET next yr. It's a tough long road x

 

[cress]

Definitely not alone. Been trying nearly 12 years, unexplained infertility. I agree it's hard but maybe the holiday will relax you. It sounds foolish but remember to take time for you, a stressed body is harder to conceive. Hope it happens for you soon.