Ive been thinking about doing this post for a while. It hasnt been triggered by anything that anyone has said or done. I have not been offended by anyone. The reason I do it, is because before Aaron, I didnt know anything about Down Syndrome. I had never come into contact with anyone with Down Syndrome. So, that made me think, that maybe others are the same, maybe they dont know. There are a few things that shouldnt be said mostly people never intend on being rude, but are unintentionally. Thats ok, if you dont know any better J The first, and most common mistake made, is that people will often refer to Down Syndrome Baby/Child, we (the parents and the children) prefer Baby/Child with Down Syndrome its not a label, they are not defined by the fact that they have Down Syndrome. Likewise a baby, child or Adult is not Downs i.e. to say Aaron is Downs would be offensive. Another thing that is often asked, Im guessing without malicious intent is Did you not have the tests? While probably an innocent question there is an implication here that the person asking this assumes that had the test picked up DS, then the parent would have had an abortion. This one really gets to me. Babies/Children/Adults with Down Syndrome are all individuals like the rest of us, not a group of people. My most loathed phrase is They are so loving/happy etc etc. They nothing! , arent all kids loving (mostly)? Aaron is loving but he can have a meltdown like the best of them! When you hear that a baby has DS, some things not to say are You cant tell by looking at them Why would it matter if you cant tell Oh, thats a shame no it isnt! Im sorry Why? "They don't look Downsie, they must not have it bad" WTF - there are no "degrees" of Down Syndrome, you have it or you don't There are 3 gorgeous babies with Down Syndrome on the forum (that I know of), so I thought it would be good to share this with all you lovely ladies, I really dont mean to upset or offend anyone, and I hope that I havent.