cant believe im here again :(

[millielaura]

You're defo not being punished xxxxxx its just horrible cruel bad luck . Saying bad luck always makes me feel worse in a way but it defo wasn't anything you've done/haven't done xxxx
Would they do some recurrent m/c testing to put your mind at ease? I know most places say 3 in a row but here its 2 in a row but they both have to be within 2 years so i didnt meet guidelines xxx

 

[yummymummy80]

hey millie no they haven't ruled out ectopic but im thinking if I am miscarrying just now I take it, it wasn't ectopic? my 1st ivf app was may but ive asked for it april as to discuss why its not happening but don't think anything will happen as they say they will only investigate after 3 but at least seeing the consultant and things will make me feel better.

 

[millielaura]

You can bleed heavily with an ectopic I think. But I guess if they didn't see anything in tubes thats a good thing?
Seeing the consultant should make you feel loads better thats so exciting about your ivf appt! Xx

 

[yummymummy80]

well ive tried to phone epu but couldn't get through so left a message on her answer phone, theyl prob be thinking oh god her again and no bother phone me bk! im just thinking could the bleeding be anything else? what if im not m/cing now cause I remember last time I was going through a pad every hour it was like someone had put a tap on full blast, this is more like a period

 

[millielaura]

Nooo I'm sure they wont be thinking that. I'm sure theyl want to do their best to help you . Its all so confusing isnt it ,do they definitely think theres no hope of a viable pregnancy? Just if the bleeding isnt that heavy wonder whether its just preg bleeding from something else and baby just couldn't be seen and your hormones are just goig up slowly?. Gosh it must be so so confusing for you Xx

 

[yummymummy80]

the answer machine said they aim to phone bk in 4 hours hope its no an emergency then!!! also ive sent u a message

 

[millielaura]

I really hope they get back to you asap xxx

 

[platypus]

I'm so sorry that you are going through hell today. Please don't think it was anything you have done. After my last mc (my third!) I had a moment at epu where i broke down and asked the mc all those questions - is it something i did, could it have been x what about y etc? and she said that there is nothing i did that caused it - just unlucky.

What has helped me to cope is thinking about the stats. If 1 in 5 preganancies end in mc (scary stat!) then that means 1 in 125 couples trying for a baby will mc 3 times in a row (1 in 25 for 2 mcs!). Which is actually really common (sadly) so I have every chance of getting my take home baby next time (there is only a 1 in 625 chance of mc 4 times in a row) its just taking me a little longer.

 

[Dee28]

My miscarriage was more like a period, a bit heavier and it latest a bit longer than normal bit I think with low levels and no baby to be seen means there isn't much to pass really. I'm so sorry, it's all so upsetting, we all know how devastating it is, big hugs xxx

 

[yummymummy80]

Well I'm bk at hospital today had more bloods done its dropped to 900 from 975 hospital is now concerned as the pregnancy is still there the numbers would have dropped dramatically if I've already miscarried so I'm sitting waiting on the Dr am very scared

 

[jodie34]

Oh Hun you are definitly going through it , I hope the dr can give you answers and put a plan in place ... I'm sure I speak for all the ladies wen sayin we are all here for you big hugs hunni xxx

 

[cocosherbie]

oh, Im so sorry to read youre going through this again I hope they clear things up for you soon, try not to be scared (I know easier said than done when youre at the hospital)

 

[millielaura]

I'm so sorry hope they give you some answers soon. Massive hugs xxxx

 

[yummymummy80]

hi everyone,

battery died on my phone so couldn't update. so I seen the drs they said yesterday wasn't a mc and the pregnancy is still there. the dr tried every way to get me to take the injection of methatroxiate or whatever its called, but I refused again so have to go bk on sat

 

[millielaura]

Oh I really hope for a miracle on saturday for you xxxx

 

[jodie34]

Oh I soo hope for a miracle for you xx

 

[Dee28]

Me too, I really hope the bleed triggers your levels to drop xx

 

[yummymummy80]

hi everyone

well I hope my levels drop on sat or I have to take injection which I obviously don't want to do but my levels need to drop by 15%, yesterday they only dropped from 970 to 900 and the nurse says they look for a 15% drop for them to send me home again which ive worked out it needs to drop to 765 on sat but im thinking as it only dropped from 970 to 900 yesterday it prob wont drop as far as I want on sat. I really don't want this injection cause it would delay everything and no one wants that when ttc. I honestly think if I have to get this injection I know I will slip into depression again im so worried

 

[Clementine]

Hi Yummymummy, I am sorry that you are going through this again, the journey can be so tough, is there an Option of having an ERPC rather than taking the injection? I hope you get better news tomorrow xxx

 

[yummymummy80]

hi clementine,

I asked that at the hospital yesterday and they wont do either surgery or pessaries because the pregnancy is so small it cant be detected by scan so its classed as unknown location, they said they would only do this if the could see there was a sac and everything to pass but in my case thers not so only option is injection and im really freaking out