Book group thread for Marisa Peer's 'Trying to get Pregnant (and Succeeding)'

[millielaura]

I've bought the book on Kindle and starting it now. I totally avoid baby aisles and I look away from babies and mums as feel so jealous so think thats the first thing I need to change! Xxx

 

[KeepItCrossed]

I bought a pram suit today, it made me feel SO positive!

Does anyone think that it's strange that Marisa says not to drink dairy milk, it's supposedly full of growth hormones. My clinic encouraged me to drink it.

Anyone else get recommended to drink it? x

 

[FBTTN8079]

yes I saw that I was also told to drink lots of milk pre and during treatment x

 

[FBTTN8079]

and super fab that you bought a little baby outfit

 

[millielaura]

I did the chapter about changing thoughts today and how powerful the mind is. Find it interesting especially from a psychological point of view! I think previous m/c's may be a baby block for me. And also my first pregnancy I was 18 and it was a complete shock and I spent so long worrying about how I would cope, worrying about telling parents etc and feeling generally sorry for myself. My sickness was so bad and I just felt no one appreciated baby apart from me. By about 10-12 weeks I was finally excited about it and then I ended up having m/c at 14 weeks so it does interest me when she says about baby blocks and past miscarriages or past bad experiences/fears holding you back. I don't agree with the bit about m/c being because you don't want the baby because I did want the baby I was just scared plus I miscarried in December and there was nothing I wanted more than that baby. But I do think the idea of some of the baby blocks is interesting. It really made me think of stuff I haven't thought of for years. I saw the whole thing of pregnancy as so negative before I started TTC. My first experience of pregnancy was such a scary and lonely time. No body wanted the baby but me and I definitely felt like the only thing I had was baby. When I had the m/c I totally fell apart wondering if it was my fault because I hadn't wanted a baby at first. All the sickness to lose baby after getting through first tri felt so unfair and I was left with an opinion of how horrid and hard pregnancy was. I then ended up going to uni and didn't really think about pregnancy or anything until OH and I started TTC. So I do think past bad experience could be putting a subconscious mind block on it happening which would make sense I suppose. Even though I know it is an entirely different situation now I guess my subconscious doesn't?

I've got a onesie and some booties I bought after 8 week scan in November but think I might go out and get some little socks to keep on my bedside table.

I had heard of cows milk being both good and bad lol. I don't drink a lot anyway. Heard soy milk isn't great either because of soy interfering with hormones. So maybe almond or hazelnut or rice milk may be good? Xxx

 

[KeepItCrossed]

Thanks ladies. x

 

[Blueflower]

Is she American? I think they have different views on milk and food in general.

You are all brave buying baby stuff! I have my booties under my pillow from the 'yellow booties thread' but that was well over a year ago!

You must be right MillieLaura that your subconscious doesn't know that the situation is different this time. Hopefully you can retrain it!

What do your partners think about all the positive thinking?

 

[KeepItCrossed]

Hi Blueflower, I think she's British, not sure though.

My OH is all for the positive thinking. I think he was a bit sceptical at first (so was I), but he's reading the book!

 

[millielaura]

My OH is also all for the positive thinking. Weird as he said to me that acupuncture will be a load of rubbish. Think it's because he's told me himself that changing my thinking will help my panic attacks and physical symptoms I get from those and so he can't go back on it and say he thinks the opposite about ttc lol xxx

 

[FBTTN8079]

how are we all doing with our book progression and making a baby ���� I read the conception statement at least everyday lol I'm 8dpo and I'm saying lots of positive things, only downside to all this positive stuff is the urge to not symptom spot lol although I'm trying to embrace and say yes its all super related and there for I am upduffed x

 

[Blueflower]

Sounds good!

My DH was very anti kids when I first suggested it but when we got married he assumed it would be quick even though I was older. He gradually became more cautious when nothing was happening although sometimes comes out with very positive stuff, eg he told our neighbours 3 years ago we wanted a family too! When we had IVF last year he thought it would work but wanted to be driving distance from a hospital when we were on holiday just in case! When I told him last week I'd decided to be more positive he surprised me by giving me a big hug. I don't think I could do Marisa's exercises for 2 with him though! Has anyone else done them with your partner?

I had a day off sick last week due to the IVF drugs and my manager has recorded it as pregnancy related! I'm seeing it as a sign for an expected outcome! Unless they deduct it from my maternity leave, haha!

 

[millielaura]

Ooh blueflower I'm seeing it as a sign for the outcome for you too! fingers crossed!
I might do the second section of her book later lol. So far only done the excersize where you write down negative thoughts and turn them into positive ones . Is there particular ones you both do together?? Xx

 

[millielaura]

Got to say I totally didn't realise how negative I was being until I started reading the book! I've been so jealous of people I know getting preg and had taken a totally pessimistic view on it all and not wanting to get hopes up in case of dissapointing myself.
But now I've decided I will get hopes up and I will even symptom spot as like she said it doesnt make it any less dissapointing if you got your hopes up, just means you have a miserable tww also lol! So I am defo in excited mode again and excited for having a baby rather than doubting that we will. Need to buy some socks lol xxx

 

[Blueflower]

Yes there's one on page 84 & 85 where someone has to try to push you over then prize your fingers apart! Apparently its easier to do if you are having negative thoughts! I also did the one where you visualise stretching your arms further and then you can! Also the one where you think about swallowing or scratching your nose but try not to do it, then even if you manage it, as soon as your subconscious takes over from your conscious, you end up doing it! I tried it on the bus!

I've been the same about jealousy and not getting hopes up. DH always told me to try to be happy for others but it made me feel worse! He didn't seem to understand! But maybe he was onto something? You are so right about the 2WW! A positive attitude might even make it fun instead of stressful!

Your avatar has always been positive!

 

[millielaura]

Read Chapter 2 of the book. Going to write down beliefs and change them into positive beliefs either later or tomorrow. I am so glad you all mentioned this book, I feel it's actually helping me loads already! I thought at first yeah it'll be worth a try it may be okay, but now I love it haha!
I think the reason I love it is that it's not only helpful about fertility but also the same could easily apply to my anxiety and panic attacks. Also, when my health anxietys bad I believe I have symptoms, and then they get worse, then I panic and because I'm panicking I feel like I'm having a heart attack/stroke or whatever and actually truly believe it. I have spells of being so dizzy and out of breath and yet if im distracted I'm fine. So I think it's made me realise how much my panic attacks can be controlled by my mind. Which then makes me think... Well if I am making myself have physical symptoms from my panic and anxiety disorder then I can easily change my fertility through my mind too! I also studies psychology so it interests me from that point of view too.

Just did that stretching excersize, and the scratching nose one you said about Blueflower. I had noticed when doing yoga if I really put my mind too it I can make my legs stretch way more than I ever thought they could. Really interesting. So now I've been getting twinges and instead of my usual "Oh no AF is coming etc" I am going to tell myself "baby is implanting and getting comfy". and if I do get AF at least I had a nice time imagining it lol!

xxxx

 

[stacesl3]

Hi Ladies,

Loving all the positivity! I do think this book helped me get my bfp (although like you ladies I didn't agree with everything she says) I have read other 'positive thinking' type books - namely The Secret which is a well known book but in all honesty it didn't really do it for me. With this one it just made sense, I think she explained things well and didn't just say 'you have to change your negative thoughts' and leave it at that.... she goes on to say how to do this etc. I must admit using phrases like 'I have an abundance of grade A super eggs' made me feel a little silly lol (and made me want an omlette!) but hey I would have tried anything!


So I went on her website today and decided to write a message just saying I liked the book and think it helped me and was now pregnant just after reading it etc etc and got a response back straight away!! I guess I'll have to give the book 5 stars now lol

Hi Louise
I am delighted to hear your news and delighted that my book was able to help you.
All you need now is to go on visualising a perfect pregnancy so that your body works with you in growing your perfect baby to full term. I have an audio called perfect pregnancy that will help you to achieve this and it does all the work for you.
I would be more than happy to send you a free copy if you would be kind enough to review my book at www.amazon.co.uk , you don't have to leave your real name if you prefer not too.
Thank you so much and my warmest congratulations to you.
very best
marisa

 

[FBTTN8079]

wow what a great response, now we are all off to write a review he he

hope your feeling ok we are all going to be following you super soon xxxx

 

[Dee28]

That is lovely of her! I'm so just assuming I'm pregnant this month, can't hurt right?! Xx

 

[FBTTN8079]

exactly cant help indeed x

 

[Blueflower]

That's lovely! I'll write a review for a free audio!

Here's a link to her website for anyone who wants a summary of what its about / taster of the book:
http://www.tryingtogetpregnant.co.uk/get-pregnant-programme