blighted ovum-empty sac

[roxane 1985]

well i was diagnosed with a blighted ovum 2 weeks ago, got to go to hospital tomorrow for treatment, couldnt even complete the first trimester

 

[DW1978]

I'm really sorry to hear your news. I don't have any experience of your condition but you could try posting on the coping with miscarriage and loss board and see if anyone there can give you any advise/success stories xxx

 

[1986princess]

sorry to hear this hun xxx hope ur ok. think the same is happening to me at the moment just undergoing hvg bloods and scans but not holding out much hope x

 

[roxane 1985]

to be honest i dont even know why they are giving me a scan anyway as there was no bay and no yolk sac, it was as empty as outter space and was dated at 6 wks 3 days, and i know from previous times you can see them at that stage
oh well never mind life goes on, worst things happen to other people

 

[1986princess]

they scanned me at 5 weeks ansd only saw a sac and scanned me today at 6 weeks, going off size and still had no fetal pole or yolk. however iv spoke to 2 people that i actually know who were told that there was somethuing wroong and no yolk or fetal pole at 6 weks who went on to see it later. so theres always that. hope ur ok, its an awful feeling i know but hopefully things will work out for you next time xxxx are you going to request a scan next week just to make sure x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Im so sorry, you are going through this hunny. Massive x x

 

[roxane 1985]

no if the sac is still empty tomorrow i am going to have it terminated as i am so ill will morning sickness due to still having a sac im not eating and barely drinking and its not fair on my 3yr old daughter me being like that especially as my fiance live almost 200 miles away.

 

[1986princess]

ok hun if ur feeling bad and uv had the scan to make sure its beet to do whats best for you. i hope u dont mind me asking but as the same is happening to me at the moment, what are the next steps? i have no idea whether to just let it happen or go in? really hope this doesnt offend just got so many questions x

 

[roxane 1985]

no not offended at all,

well when i go back tomorrow i would of been just over 8 weeks. ive done my research on the internet and apparently women alot of the time dont find out till the 12 week scan and dont normally loose it naturally till the 14th wk.

me personally i dont see the point in waiting naturally for something that isnt there.

the hospital told me i can take a drug to bring on labour like symptoms- NO BLOODY WAY labour was bad enough when having my daughter never mind just passing a saclol

ive been told i can take two tablets that they would give to women who were just generally having a termination for whatever personal reason

or i can have a d&c which is a small operation under general ani. this is where they dialate you and basically suck everything out.- dont know how true this next bit is but according to net they can look into the cause when doing a d&c, but then again its generally caused be severely defected chromosomes.

too many choices

 

[Bella2]

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, I went through the exact same thing last October. Started off with Brown spotting, finally got sent for a scan at 10.5 weeks which showed the empty sac. Started bleeding naturally 2 days later but still had a D&C as a further scan showed I still hadn't passed everything and they were worried about infection. Operation wasn't too bad at all, you're only in hospital for a day and put to sleep so you don't know anything about it. I opted for that as I couldn't cope with having weeks of bleeding. Hope you're okay, I know how devestating it is to go for that scan and see nothing there, it's heartbreaking especially when you still have all the pregnancy symptoms. What prompted you to go for an early scan if you don't mind me asking? x x x

 

[roxane 1985]

well i had a really bad m/c 4 months before and i started bleeding again so some stranger called me an ambulance - was very embarrassing telling some strange man i needed help because i was bleeding lol

so i had a scan a week later and it was empty and that was two weeks ago.

cant decide what treatment to go for, its like getting told i can pick a pair of shoes but only got a choice of nasty out of date shoes lol

 

[1986princess]

thanx for that, appreciate it! think id rather just have a termination coz i wouldnt want labour or the worry of it happening at work! realy just wanted it to work out, i was thinking of not going in last week to epu and now i cant stop thinking if id left it n gone at 12 weeks how awful it wudve been x hope it all goes as well as it can do for you tomoro. x

 

[Bella2]

aww bless ya well only you know what choice it right for you, I had a few days to think about things which helped. Obviously there is always a small risk involved when you have general anesthetic but for me I thought it would be a lot less traumatic to have it all removed when I was asleep rather than having to witness the bleeding. Whichever choice you make I hope it all goes well, and don't give up hope as I am sure you will soon get pregnant again soon and go on to have a very healthy little baby x x x

 

[roxane 1985]

yeah im glad i didnt wait till my 12 week scan as well, im coping alot better because and i know this sounds mean but even if there had been a baby but with no heart beat like last time, it happens to so many people every day, i can try again at some point plus its not like i had gone full term and lost the baby so there wasnt a huge connection

 

[1986princess]

yeah true and at least u can get pregnant and like u said before its usually a sign of a problem with baby and every baby deserves to be healthy! i just had very confusing call from epu afetr they told me to expect miscarriage they have now said hcg has shot up and they dpont understand it as i dont fit ectopic or blighted ovum as they thort before so they have passed on to specialist doctor whos calling back at 5. still think its a bad sign but all the waiting and ups and downs is worse now. like tug of war! x

 

[roxane 1985]

oh lord youare having a game arent you, hope it goes well for you, even ifs its not great news i think just having answers is better then being in limbo.

dont worry my blighted ovum isnt that simple either, as when i went for that scan 2 weeks ago althought the sac was empty they saw another dark spot and wasnt sure if it was a second sac or a blood clot hence my scan tomorrow.

mepersonally i know its ablood clot because im not like these women u read about in take a break lol i dont have miracles but they said they want to make sure first

between u and me we ay half making the most of nhs services hehe

 

[1986princess]

exactly iv been there and back all week im on name terms with the staff and everything but just want answers like u said! lets hope it is a miracle but i know what u mean ..... i dont tend to be like those magazine ppl either! nightmare what a journey this has been n only found out 3 weeks ago x

 

[roxane 1985]

i found out i was preggers day after my birthday so at least i got to drink then lol,

yh im on first name terms too, they even know my daughter now and she gets ice cream on the epu ward lol.

i will be glad to get it all over with tomorrow thought thats for sure, and im def not rushing in to try again like last time.

going to enjoy quality time with my partner.

it weird when i was first told i was so upset and couldnt stop crying now i think god how selfish of me, plenty of couples cant even have children and also there are plenty of men, women and children out there who have suffered alot worse than me, so im just greatful for my family and health and what will be will be

 

[1986princess]

yeah thats true and your thinking about it in the best possible way coz it is out of our control really anyway xx how long should you leave it in between trying again x

 

[roxane 1985]

medically 1 - 3 cycles but i disagree, especially after having 2 losses so close together, i think it should be left 6-12 cycles as it gives your body a chance to completely recoverfrom the loss and any treatment needed, plus you can come to terms with it properly and so can your partner.

a girl i work with lost one at 11 wks and one at 19, she has been advised to take a yr out and for that entire time continue to take folic acid as jumping straight back into baby making isnt good on ur body.

i also think its good to wait longer because it gives a chance for the couple to connect again, enjoy their time together before trying again.