** April 2019 Testing **

[Sjf0709]

So I found out today my work colleague is having twins (she only found out yesterday) so there was constant baby chat at work. She told one of our other work colleagues (who is pregnant) that she should sit down when she tells her the news and she immediately blurted out to me ‘are you pregnant too?’ She has since apologised for being so insensitive but she’s just really hoping I get pregnant soon... I then come home and my close friend shares her scan pic with me... it’s so hard!

 

[Rainbow1234]

So I found out today my work colleague is having twins (she only found out yesterday) so there was constant baby chat at work. She told one of our other work colleagues (who is pregnant) that she should sit down when she tells her the news and she immediately blurted out to me ‘are you pregnant too?’ She has since apologised for being so insensitive but she’s just really hoping I get pregnant soon... I then come home and my close friend shares her scan pic with me... it’s so hard!

I’m sorry, it’s days like that that make it all seem so much harder. My colleague asked me twice on wed when I was going to have another and when we were alone I ended up saying can you stop asking me that and explained my situation. I’ve got my best friends baby shower in just under a fortnight and I’m dreading it, 3 of the 8 people there are pregnant so I know it’ll all be ‘who’s next?!’ Chat, none of them have been in this situation so it’s a normal thing to discuss to them. Thinking about being ‘sick’ that day x

 

[SugaryIris]

So I found out today my work colleague is having twins (she only found out yesterday) so there was constant baby chat at work. She told one of our other work colleagues (who is pregnant) that she should sit down when she tells her the news and she immediately blurted out to me ‘are you pregnant too?’ She has since apologised for being so insensitive but she’s just really hoping I get pregnant soon... I then come home and my close friend shares her scan pic with me... it’s so hard!

I’m so sorry, I’ve been dealing with a lot of baby chat too lately.

It can be so draining, keeping a fake face on when you just want to stamp your feet and cry! Xx

 

[Lollypop79]

hi wondered how you oh's sperm result come back?

Hey. Not had results yet. He gets them Monday. I was moaning that our results took so long. We had to chase them to be sent to gp’s too. Will update when have the results. Thanks for asking x

 

[LuckyLaura]

@Rainbow1234 thanks for explaining that makes sense. I'm not even sure when my AF is due anymore. I think I had an annovulatory cycle last time as it was a 40 day cycle. xx

 

[GeekMaker]

Fingers crossed for you. Xx

Thank you. Well nothing still not a drop but with these cramps, I am expecting AF to slam me soon lol

 

[Kitana]

Thank you. Well nothing still not a drop but with these cramps, I am expecting AF to slam me soon lol

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Geekmaker!x

I’m sorry, it’s days like that that make it all seem so much harder. My colleague asked me twice on wed when I was going to have another and when we were alone I ended up saying can you stop asking me that and explained my situation. I’ve got my best friends baby shower in just under a fortnight and I’m dreading it, 3 of the 8 people there are pregnant so I know it’ll all be ‘who’s next?!’ Chat, none of them have been in this situation so it’s a normal thing to discuss to them. Thinking about being ‘sick’ that day x

I have a babyshower of a friend who was pregnant at the same time as me with her first. We had a 3 day difference in our due dates!
Anywho, we were ttc again for the second one at the same time and she fell pregnant a few weeks before me. Sadly, I had a mmc at 12 weeks and she's still pregnant. I feel terrible for saying that I actually felt a bit jealous that she was able to keep the baby and I had to give it up.
Initially, I also didn't want to attend the babyshower but then, this has nothing to do with me. It's not her fault that I lost the baby. She wants me to be a part of her life and the baby's life. I couldn't think of a more beautiful present!
Your time will come Rainbow1234, don't ruin your friendship by not going to one of the most important days of her life.

 

[Rainbow1234]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Geekmaker!x



I have a babyshower of a friend who was pregnant at the same time as me with her first. We had a 3 day difference in our due dates!
Anywho, we were ttc again for the second one at the same time and she fell pregnant a few weeks before me. Sadly, I had a mmc at 12 weeks and she's still pregnant. I feel terrible for saying that I actually felt a bit jealous that she was able to keep the baby and I had to give it up.
Initially, I also didn't want to attend the babyshower but then, this has nothing to do with me. It's not her fault that I lost the baby. She wants me to be a part of her life and the baby's life. I couldn't think of a more beautiful present!
Your time will come Rainbow1234, don't ruin your friendship by not going to one of the most important days of her life.

I understand your point of view but thankfully my friend is very understanding and thinks my sadness and mental health is just as important as her happiness so she wouldn’t want me to force myself if I wasn’t up to it. It’s a surprise though so she doesn’t know about it and I can’t discuss it with her in advance. Definitely wouldn’t affect our friendship though - and I strongly think it shouldn’t x

 

[Rainbow1234]

Just to say as well I’m not jealous of her. I’m happy for her and would never wish anything bad on her or her baby. But I don’t know if mentally I’m in a position to sit and listen to baby chat or if it’ll be detrimental to where I am emotionally. I think that’s more important than a couple of hours when I’m there for her at every other important time in her life x

 

[soffphie]

Just to say as well I’m not jealous of her. I’m happy for her and would never wish anything bad on her or her baby. But I don’t know if mentally I’m in a position to sit and listen to baby chat or if it’ll be detrimental to where I am emotionally. I think that’s more important than a couple of hours when I’m there for her at every other important time in her life x

I cant find it anywhere now but there was a section i found once on IVF where it suggested you dont attend baby showers or Christenings or Birthday parties if it is going to elevate your stress/anxiety.

 

[Kitana]

I understand your point of view but thankfully my friend is very understanding and thinks my sadness and mental health is just as important as her happiness so she wouldn’t want me to force myself if I wasn’t up to it. It’s a surprise though so she doesn’t know about it and I can’t discuss it with her in advance. Definitely wouldn’t affect our friendship though - and I strongly think it shouldn’t x

Aww that's sweet of her, you have a good friend. I didn't want to sound patronizing in any way Rainbow1234. Just my two cents. I wouldn't want you to feel bad about missing out on a such a special event! So sorry if I have made you feel bad...

 

[Rainbow1234]

Aww that's sweet of her, you have a good friend. I didn't want to sound patronizing in any way Rainbow1234. Just my two cents. I wouldn't want you to feel bad about missing out on a such a special event! So sorry if I have made you feel bad...

No you haven’t at all! But she has a good friend too. I see her all the time and I talk about her pregnancy with her but we talk about my situation too. Both matter equally and her feelings aren’t more important than mine just because my pregnancy ended x

 

[Kitana]

No you haven’t at all! But she has a good friend too. I see her all the time and I talk about her pregnancy with her but we talk about my situation too. Both matter equally and her feelings aren’t more important than mine just because my pregnancy ended x

Oh ok good, felt bad about that. I really didn't mean to offend you.
I was the jealous one when I lost the baby, I never suggested you were.

You have good friends, hope you all get to be mummies together soon!

This friend of mine invited me over my boyfriend's ex even though they are real good friends. I think this has given me the push to be there for her... It gets even more complicated since we are colleagues as well and the ex doesn't know about the mmc and I don't want her to know otherwise she will most probably start spreading the rumours at work. I really do want ro be there for her as she is a good friend but I guess I have an extra motive.

 

[Rainbow1234]

Oh ok good, felt bad about that. I really didn't mean to offend you.
I was the jealous one when I lost the baby, I never suggested you were.

You have good friends, hope you all get to be mummies together soon!

This friend of mine invited me over my boyfriend's ex even though they are real good friends. I think this has given me the push to be there for her... It gets even more complicated since we are colleagues as well and the ex doesn't know about the mmc and I don't want her to know otherwise she will most probably start spreading the rumours at work. I really do want ro be there for her as she is a good friend but I guess I have an extra motive.

Yeah you need to do what feels right for you and if you feel up to it then absolutely do it. Honestly when it comes down to it I probably will end up going, but if on the day I just can’t do it I won’t force myself either.

I’ve had 3 mc (2 mmc) and the first 2 haven’t affected me anywhere near how the latest one has. This has honestly been the worst year of my life and I’ve learned that at times like this you need to make yourself the priority x

 

[Rainbow1234]

Just to complicate it we actually had our first babies 15 days apart and had a joint baby shower. My due date was only a few weeks ago so we probably would have had a joint one this time too but it wasn’t to be x

 

[Kitana]

Yeah you need to do what feels right for you and if you feel up to it then absolutely do it. Honestly when it comes down to it I probably will end up going, but if on the day I just can’t do it I won’t force myself either.

I’ve had 3 mc (2 mmc) and the first 2 haven’t affected me anywhere near how the latest one has. This has honestly been the worst year of my life and I’ve learned that at times like this you need to make yourself the priority x

You are right about making yourself the priority, I might do the opposite a bit too often. I tend to put other people before me, but I think that's just my nature.
I truly am sorry about the comment Rainbow1234

 

[Zoe_helen25]

Crossing everything for you lovely ladies xxxx hope to see some of you in 1st tri December group

 

[chattychar1990]

15DPO - No AF and a BFN
Only thing giving me a little hope is sore boobs. X

 

[Mandy119]

15DPO - No AF and a BFN xx

Oh no Char, I was hoping youd get your BFP today! Hopefully its just a shy little bean and AF stays away. Keeping my fingers crossed

 

[Hendy1]

Hope it's just a late shower for you Char xx