Anyone starting IVF this year?

[1sttimer]

Leah, I TOTALLY see where you are coming from. I have to remind myself all too regularly that each persons situation is 'relative' and that I shouldn't judge but you just cant help feel the resentment sometimes when people are all that insensitive...To be fair I've even had that with friends - one of my friends who tried for 5 months for her baby (who is now nearly 2!) and said, oh I know how you feel I remember thinking that it just seems to take so long... wtf!! LONG! And another who had pcos and was told she'd likely need ivf and less than a year into trying she fell pregnant and then when I told her all the hoops you go through with the IVF (tests etc we had to do) she said 'blimey we never had to do any of that'... yes my lovely, because you never actually started! As much you think you did, someone telling you 'you will start IVF soon' just means you haven't yet had to learn the new definition of the word 'soon' I felt like it again when we'd found out about the funding. My hubby told his dad that in the space of 24 hours we had gone from funded to needing upwards of £10k to do it (which would have been fine if we hadn't wasted a year and a half thinking we didn't need to) and he just went, 'oh well it'll be worth it in the end'. Yeh thanks. (I feel it necessary at this point to emphasise that it isn't the 'freebie' I'm pissed about, I would pay anything to get this done, it is the fact that had we known this from the beginning we could have planned better - I'm not just being a brat haha)

SO, on that note Leah, totally understand if you want a breather from it all but if you stay (which we would love you too!) just stay away from those particular forums and stick with the ones where you can have a good moan... like on here!! None of the lovely ladies on here are insensitive and you said the other day you were feeling really supported. It might just be a good place to sound off when the IVF really kicks in... totes up to you though of course and if you do go GOOD LUCK with it all! Wishing you all the very best of luck with your process xxxx

 

[1sttimer]

Oh no! How frustrating! I know a lot of CCGs have changed/stopped their funding, it's such a shame

You're right MrsLaw - and the ironic thing is that I knew this one had cut all their funding years ago because my sister lives in the same district but the nightmare scenario was that last February they said we were 'lucky' as our surgery falls out of the area where there is no funding so we will be fine and get 2 fresh and 2 frozen free! Then last week - oh sorry, we don't know how it happened but that's wrong, your surgery has always fallen within that area we're not sure how that's happened.' Brilliant thanks! But its ok - the world hasn't ended, we just need to keep playing the lottery and hope that by the time this finally gets done we can still afford to eat!

 

[MrsLaw]

lol 1sttimer! i'm sure anyone would starve just to know there's a baby on the way. It must still feel like Kick in the teeth,but just stay positive

 

[phonixgirl]

Totally understand Leah, I don't come on here now much either x

 

[Oneday x]

Leah, I couldn't have put it better myself! I am feeling increasingly frustrated, everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant so easily - my friend told me she is pregnant with her second last night and I broke down and spent all night crying (luckily I wasn't with her when I received the message!) it just seems to be that everyone is happy except me and I don't understand why we can't have our happily ever after too.
I start IVF in August and have mixed feelings about it. I have never been so scared about anything in my life but at the same time i wish August would hurry up!!

I know you have taken a break from here but wishing you lots and lots of luck xx