Anyone else in their 40s?

[Syd43]

Thanks both.

I've had my progesterone levels checked before and they were fine. With my last miscarriage it stopped developing at 4.5 weeks but didn't miscarry til 8 weeks so I don't think I have trouble holding on to them as such. Given that the last one was a blighted ovum and this one is effectively a chemical pregnancy I think it's just old eggs

IVF is still an option for me given it's all covered by my insurance so I could possibly look at extra tests there. I was just really hoping not to have to go through all that, doubly difficult given that we'll have to fly back to the UK for it.

 

[Clementine]

Thanks both.

I've had my progesterone levels checked before and they were fine. With my last miscarriage it stopped developing at 4.5 weeks but didn't miscarry til 8 weeks so I don't think I have trouble holding on to them as such. Given that the last one was a blighted ovum and this one is effectively a chemical pregnancy I think it's just old eggs

IVF is still an option for me given it's all covered by my insurance so I could possibly look at extra tests there. I was just really hoping not to have to go through all that, doubly difficult given that we'll have to fly back to the UK for it.

Syd I don't know if this helps but my consultant said at my last MMC, that although we're older we'd still have some strong eggs. He said to imagine a sheet of paper covered with green and red dots for healthy & weaker eggs. Even at a younger age the red dots exist & as we get older there are more red dots than green dots but most importantly there are green dots. He said that a big element is down to luck of catching a healthy egg & that each pregnancy is unique. The only solace I took from my MMC's was that if my baby beans weren't healthy enough to make it Mother Nature knew what was best for me.

Will you get another natural cycle in before IVF?

 

[Syd43]

Thanks Clementine.

I'm in HK for another 2 1/2 weeks so it just depends how quickly my period now starts. There are other issues, OH has a very low sex drive and at the moment he's quite stressed (with good reason) so I think the chances of anything happening are very slim. After that I'm back in the UK for two months so we would have to look at bringing him over in Jan for IVF.

I'm just wondering if perhaps it's just not meant to be, maybe the universe is telling me something. I really thought all the stars were aligning this time with my miscarriage timing working so well (as it were) so that when I was in HK for one night only in between trips it happened to be ovulation time. To get pregnant effectively twice in a row at this age seemed a miracle but now all that's happened is I won't get another try naturally before I turn 45. Maybe I should just let it go.

 

[Eryinera]

When I was having some test of other last year there was a woman next to me she was either 47 or 49 I forget now but she was 7 months pregnant with her 1st. You don't have to give up on your dreams x

 

[Clementine]

Thanks Clementine.

I'm in HK for another 2 1/2 weeks so it just depends how quickly my period now starts. There are other issues, OH has a very low sex drive and at the moment he's quite stressed (with good reason) so I think the chances of anything happening are very slim. After that I'm back in the UK for two months so we would have to look at bringing him over in Jan for IVF.

I'm just wondering if perhaps it's just not meant to be, maybe the universe is telling me something. I really thought all the stars were aligning this time with my miscarriage timing working so well (as it were) so that when I was in HK for one night only in between trips it happened to be ovulation time. To get pregnant effectively twice in a row at this age seemed a miracle but now all that's happened is I won't get another try naturally before I turn 45. Maybe I should just let it go.

Syd, you can only do what feels right for you, back in March when we stopped TTC it was the right decision for us & in October when we took one more chance we knew we wanted to. If it doesn't work out for me this time I won't be trying again. I found the hardest part of getting the bfps's and then losing the babies is that even though I wasn't pregnant for a long time, I had pictured myself as a Mum & allowed myself to imagine life with a baby. I found this made it harder to stop TTC. You have had a rollercoaster of a week so catch your breath and then try & decide what to do next. Xxxx

 

[Syd43]

That's exactly it Clementine. It's not that I'm hugely attached to the "baby" already, its the life I'd started to imagine.

How are you doing, you must be coming up to 6 weeks now? When is your first scan?

 

[Clementine]

That's exactly it Clementine. It's not that I'm hugely attached to the "baby" already, its the life I'd started to imagine.

How are you doing, you must be coming up to 6 weeks now? When is your first scan?

I'm only 5w +1d today, & feeling like I'm in the Dangerzone, he's taking me for a scan in two weeks time 23rd Nov - I'd just love to know if this one will stick with us. We saw heartbeats at 8 weeks the last time & it still went wrong, I won't really believe it until unless I make to next July.

 

[stacesl3]

Oh Syd, I'm so sorry I was really hoping this was it for you it sucks and its unfair. Only you can decide what is best for you, I'm not gonna lie the thought of getting pregnant again does scare me as I know i will be super anxious and so worried about mc again, but then the thought of not being a mum terrifies me even more, so its this that makes me keep trying!
Big hugs to you, I really hope we ALL get our rainbows xx

 

[Syd43]

Thanks Staces.

Clementine I can only imagine how you're feeling right now, the thought of seeing a heartbeat and then losing it is just heart-breaking. I literally have everything crossed for you.

 

[snowbee]

Syd I'm sorry to see you are bleeding. It is such a hard thing to do but if you can think positive that since your fibroid removal you have been having success then it is only a matter of time before the right egg finds the right sperm and makes the one. Big hugs x

 

[Nikkers]

Oh noooooo. Just seen the sad news Syd I'm so sorry to read this.....sending virtual hugs Xxx

 

[Papermoon]

Aawww Syd! I'm so sorry! I was really hoping this was it for you! But like others said, don't give up.

 

[Clementine]

Unfortunately I don't think our baby bean is a sticky, I did another CB Digi this morning with FMU and it said pregnant 1-2. (I already had two tests showing a 2-3 weeks)

When I opened up the the test the strips are even lighter than they were last Wednesday when I found out first. I had done 4 CB Digi's in total Wed 2nd / Sun 6th / Tues 8th and today the 10th. The first 3 showed lines getting darker but today's is much lighter.

I will do another on Saturday, I hope this time my body recognizes if I have lost it, as I don't want any another D&C.

This TTC is a total head wreck !!

 

[Syd43]

Oh no Clementine, I so hope you're wrong. I can tell you a million times not to worry and these tests aren't a good indication of hcg levels (which is true) but I know it won't make any difference.

All I will say is I've googled tests a million times with both pregnancies and I have seen so many stories of people who had this happen to them and went on to have healthy babies. A lot of them said that their midwives said to them they hate this particular brand of test for exactly this reason, it puts people into a panic when there's no need. It really isn't a reliable indicator so please try your best stay calm although I know I wouldn't either if it was me.

 

[stacesl3]

Oh Clementine, I really really hope this is just a glitch or dodgy test. I hate CB digi's, had a lot of bad experiences with them with both pregnancies, can totally understand why midwives hate them!
Like Syd I cant tell you not to worry or think the worst as I know exactly what I would be like! TTC is a complete head wreck, its honestly one of the most stressful things you can go through. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes xxx

 

[Clementine]

Oh no Clementine, I so hope you're wrong. I can tell you a million times not to worry and these tests aren't a good indication of hcg levels (which is true) but I know it won't make any difference.

All I will say is I've googled tests a million times with both pregnancies and I have seen so many stories of people who had this happen to them and went on to have healthy babies. A lot of them said that their midwives said to them they hate this particular brand of test for exactly this reason, it puts people into a panic when there's no need. It really isn't a reliable indicator so please try your best stay calm although I know I wouldn't either if it was me.

Thanks Syd, the reason I tested was because I just felt different yesterday, I woke up feeling fine today plus my boobs are no longer sore so I decided to test again. I've had no spotting but based on my previous two MMC's my body doesn't recognize a loss. It has taken the wind out of our imaginary dreams of parenthood. I don't know maybe we shouldn't have opened the "TTC box" again on holiday. For the time being I'm just going to distract myself whatever will be will be. If this bean is strong enough we'd love nothing more than to be it's Mum & Dad, if it doesn't make it myself and my DH will still have each other.

 

[Clementine]

Oh Clementine, I really really hope this is just a glitch or dodgy test. I hate CB digi's, had a lot of bad experiences with them with both pregnancies, can totally understand why midwives hate them!
Like Syd I cant tell you not to worry or think the worst as I know exactly what I would be like! TTC is a complete head wreck, its honestly one of the most stressful things you can go through. Sending you lots of love and positive vibes xxx

Thanks Staces xx With my previous bfps I didn't do lots of tests but this time I just felt I needed a heads up if something was going wrong, when the strips have dryed the lines are slightly darker than this morning. I'll try and wait until Saturday morning to test again. It is definitely stressful but I'm trying my hardest to stay logical.

 

[Clementine]

Some of the other girls recommended testing late in the day, I have retested tonight at 8pm after holding since noon time, & it's back showing 2-3weeks, & lines are darker it's a head wreck. I think I'm just going to have to wait it out and pray that all will be ok. I really do wish there was a way we could know for definite. xxxx

Syd how are you today ? Xx

 

[Nikkers]

Good to hear the test are behaving again Clementine, it must be sooooooo stressful. Everything crossed for you X

 

[Clementine]

Thanks Nikkers not feeling overly confident as I think my hcg should be in the 1000's by now as I'm 5w+2d

Whilst googling stuff today I found this PDF on CB Digital which explains in more detail how it works
http://uk.clearblue.com/sites/defau...s/Brochures/hcp_cb9_professional_brochure.pdf