Any February mummies-to-be here? :D

[Mummybexee]

I had to make a home made soup the other day

My main cravings are fruit and veg and I think that could be the fact I'm paranoid about gaining weight!

 

[SaraPlusOne]

If you read the Baby Centre website most cheese is actually ok and the ones that aren't safe you can get around it by cooking them so you're not as limited as you might think

Don't think I've really had any cravings yet. I've been struggling to digest food so need to get used to eating little and often rather than 3 big meals.

 

[Mummybexee]

I think the whole what you can and can not eat saga is so over the top! Yes there's key things to avoid but I read some stuff on the Internet and its ridiculous

Example- my mate a few weeks ago going mad because I was eating Philadelphia on a crusty roll- seriously it's pasteurised soft cheese! zzzz

 

[JoanneG79]

If you read the Baby Centre website most cheese is actually ok and the ones that aren't safe you can get around it by cooking them so you're not as limited as you might think

Don't think I've really had any cravings yet. I've been struggling to digest food so need to get used to eating little and often rather than 3 big meals.

You are my new best friend! I didn't know you could still eat camembert if it was cooked. Thank you so much for introducing that website to me - I am off to Tesco for a basket full of camembert now!!

 

[calanacau]

I discovered yesterday that stilton isn't on the banned list! I feel like I've been depriving myself!
It's the one thing I've been craving constantly for the last 6 weeks & I could have eaten it all along.
Needless to say, since finding out it was OK the thought of it repulses me lol x

 

[SaraPlusOne]

My closest friend in Oz has had a really rough time with 2 miscarriages and 2 still births and now she's been told that it's too dangerous for her to carry a baby so they're going through a surrogate. It's all very complicated and sad. Anyway, I expected her to be a bit upset when I told her I was pregnant but she assured me she was really happy for me and we were fine. We went shopping and had lunch out and she started telling me I shouldn't eat this and shouldn't do that etc. etc. and made me feel really crap like I just didn't have a clue and didn't deserve to be pregnant. She told me to look on the Baby Centre website which I did when I got home and half the things she'd told me I couldn't eat were actually fine. So I sent her a lighthearted message saying 'I'm reading up online like you said and it turns out sour cream is fine etc.' She then got really funny with me and started saying well if I wanted to take that sort of risk etc. and it turned into a big blow out which ended up with her admitting she couldn't cope with me being pregnant and we've not spoken since. Her husband has also completely ignored my OH who he was best mates with before all this happened. It was such a sad ending to our time in Oz and put a real downer on my pregnancy because I felt like no one was happy for me.

Sorry for the huge post, I just thought I'd share as it was food-related!

 

[SaraPlusOne]

I also had a similar thing happen the other day on FB when I was feeling particularly horrendous and I posted saying pregnancy isn't fun and right now I wish I'd chosen to adopt. Obviously that wasn't meant literally but I had two so-called friends start saying how awful it was that I had posted such a thing and I should pray that my baby is ok, I'm lucky to be pregnant and I should be grateful and if I feel a bit sick so what etc. Both are no longer friends now.

I can't believe how literally people take things and how upset they get over a jokey comment. I just said that anyone who knew me would know that I was over the moon to be pregnant and I didn't for a second wish otherwise. It really does make me sad though. How ridiculous.

 

[Alwaystrying]

I also had a similar thing happen the other day on FB when I was feeling particularly horrendous and I posted saying pregnancy isn't fun and right now I wish I'd chosen to adopt. Obviously that wasn't meant literally but I had two so-called friends start saying how awful it was that I had posted such a thing and I should pray that my baby is ok, I'm lucky to be pregnant and I should be grateful and if I feel a bit sick so what etc. Both are no longer friends now.

I can't believe how literally people take things and how upset they get over a jokey comment. I just said that anyone who knew me would know that I was over the moon to be pregnant and I didn't for a second wish otherwise. It really does make me sad though. How ridiculous.

We're these people actually friends, or people you have known that happen to be your friends on FB? To be completely honest if I saw that comment (from someone I did not know too well) I would maybe react the same, it took me over 4 years and IVF to fall so I may of got a bit upset with that, as you said though anyone that knows you would know you were only joking, that's all you need anyone is your actual friends that know you xx

 

[SaraPlusOne]

I just wrote a big reply and it didn't post so I'll try again...

Maybe it wasn't the most sensitive thing to write but I honestly didn't think for a second that anyone would take it seriously. You would have to be a pretty evil person to wish your baby away unless there were some pretty horrific circumstances. I was really insulted that anyone would think that of me because I'm not a horrible person. I thought those people were genuine friends (I'm quite fussy about who I accept on FB so I don't have a lot of 'FB acquaintances') but they just proved to me that they don't understand me at all and therefore weren't genuine friends.

Sorry if I offended you, it wasn't intentional xxx

 

[Alwaystrying]

Not offended me hun, just meant that if anyone reading that status was having trouble TTC and did not know you too well would of taken offence that's all.

I need a cull on FB as got people on there I have not spoken to you for years, hardly friends lol

 

[JoanneG79]

My closest friend in Oz has had a really rough time with 2 miscarriages and 2 still births and now she's been told that it's too dangerous for her to carry a baby so they're going through a surrogate. It's all very complicated and sad. Anyway, I expected her to be a bit upset when I told her I was pregnant but she assured me she was really happy for me and we were fine. We went shopping and had lunch out and she started telling me I shouldn't eat this and shouldn't do that etc. etc. and made me feel really crap like I just didn't have a clue and didn't deserve to be pregnant. She told me to look on the Baby Centre website which I did when I got home and half the things she'd told me I couldn't eat were actually fine. So I sent her a lighthearted message saying 'I'm reading up online like you said and it turns out sour cream is fine etc.' She then got really funny with me and started saying well if I wanted to take that sort of risk etc. and it turned into a big blow out which ended up with her admitting she couldn't cope with me being pregnant and we've not spoken since. Her husband has also completely ignored my OH who he was best mates with before all this happened. It was such a sad ending to our time in Oz and put a real downer on my pregnancy because I felt like no one was happy for me.

Sorry for the huge post, I just thought I'd share as it was food-related!

This is awful, hope you are glad to be back over here now. We were really worried about telling my OH's cousins, they had IVF for years and have never been successful. We were really lucky and only tried for a month and got pregnant. My Dad says that my side of the family are super fertile (we have a BIG family on my Dad's side!). Luckily the cousins took it really well and were genuinely happy for us.

Friends of my parents had to go through IVF for their 2 kids, but the friendship soured somewhat when my Dad was told that he didn't love us as much as his friend loved his kids, as he didn't have to go through turmoil to have me and my siblings!

 

[SaraPlusOne]

I am really glad to be back Joanne. I had a pretty rough time over in Oz for various reasons but things like this just made me even more keen to leave. I'm looking forward to a fresh start here with my gorgeous partner who I love very much and our first child

Alwaystrying both the people who got really upset about it have 3 kids of their own and as far as I'm aware didn't struggle too much in having them. They're both in a position where they don't want any more (again, that's as far as I know). If I had been aware that any of my friends on FB were going through IVF or adoption or anything like that then I would like to think I might have been a bit more sensitive about what I posted. I really don't set out to upset people but I seem to have managed it quite a bit since falling pregnant! My Sister said to me the other day that she can't work out why people are being so horrible to me because pregnancy is supposed to be an exciting, happy time.

 

[JoanneG79]

Some people just can't be happy for other people, which is really sad. Beginning to think my MIL is a bit like that! Best thing to do it just rise above it all!

This is my 1st child too - although if my OH has anything to do with it, not the last. He told my parents at the weekend he wanted 3!

 

[SaraPlusOne]

I've always wanted 2 and my OH agrees but after how ill I've been this pregnancy I was seriously doubting I could go through this again. I reckon I'll soon forget though and I would hope that the second time round I might be able to keep the sickness and nausea under control better because at least I'll know what's going on and what I can do about it.

What's the MIL been saying? I'm so lucky with mine, she's lovely.

 

[CountryGirl]

Don't worry Sara - you can't walk on eggshells because of other people. Sometimes we say things without thinking "oh that might offend someone" but we don't mean it like that.

Try not to think about next children, because yeah at the moment you might be feeling like crud and not want to go through it again, but once you've got your gorgeous little baby in your arms and see them growing up, you'll forget all that and remember how amazing it is to be a mum!

Keep your chin up. You're a great person.

Sophie x

 

[Shell99]

Hello ladies- just wanted to pop my head in to our demonising feb thread!

Made it to 11 weeks yesterday n saw my ticker change again (love that) n have my 12 week scan and first consultant appt wed morning- getting nervous n excited!!!!

My sickness has calmed down n I've stopped taking sickness pills so far- the nausea is still there n the off vomiting episode lol

How are you ladies doing symptom wise sickness etc?? Much going on?

 

[SaraPlusOne]

Congrats on making it to 11 weeks Shell! I'm 12 weeks today so I share your excitement! Can't believe I'm a third of the way through already! Glad your symptoms are easing. Think mine may be starting to improvealthough I don't want yo speak too soon! Some of the other girls were talking about cravings but I've not really had any yet, I just fancy certain things (or not) but no desperate 4am trips to Tesco to get pickled onions or anything as yet!!

 

[Toria111]

Hi ladies, I've started feeling so much better in the last few days, hopefully it's not a temporary thing! Still can't eat a lot. Can't cook as the smells get to me. No cravings yet either, just living on fruit.

 

[Rednursie]

I keep posting in my diary and forgetting all about here! Im so exited, only 4 more days until im 12 weeks and only 7 more days until my private early scan xxx

 

[Toria111]

How come you are going private for scan? Don't you get the NHS one now anyway? I've got my scan on tues. think they've made a mistake with dates as I'll only be 11 weeks. Really nervous though, morning sickness getting better and my brain is computing that as something being wrong.