an email i got from my mum

[xshauna_bazx]

Sorry she is giving you a hard time, especially when your pregnant for god sake! Ignore her hun... think about this little man you will be meeting in the weeks to come xxx

 

[Sunnyb]

What an awful email. I'm so angry & upset for you that I've had a cry myself. She's the one who's been buying you stuff & has done it to purely buy your affection & now it's not worked is throwing it back in your face. She's obviously a very troubled lady & to a degree I feel sorry for her. What normal mum would behave like this? She says you are spoilt & selfish & tells you to follow I who I assume is your brothers example - what about her?
I can only try to imagine how you are feeling right now, but just can't say I know how you feel (cos that'd be lying).
What you now need to do is look forward to being a better mum to your little one & not making the same mistakes your parents have made (I'm sure your dad's made some too).
Be the best parents you can & focus on all the positives that will soon be heading your way. You know all the girls are here for you always & if you need to chat off forum you can always inbox me & swap numbers. Wish I lived closer hun as I'd love to offer you a bit more support. Friends are good at shitty times & I suffered post natal depression after moving away from friends after having my first & with hubby working shifts felt very lonely. Although I had family where we'd moved, sometimes you don't tell them everything as they're too close to confide in. So if you need a neutral friend that can't pass judgement who's ear you can chew off, then you have the forum & individuals who will be happy to help x

Sunnyb xxx

 

[wookie]

I'm absolutely livid for you hun...she gave you presents and money and now she wants it back because she doesn't have it her way ? hello that's what parents do when they love their kids,they give without counting ,it seems she gave you stuff to have some sort of control on you and now try to make you feel bad about it...I can't believe she's doing this to you when you're heavily pregnant,I'm sorry but she 's complete cow, she really doesn't deserve the attention nor the love...grrrrr Remember luv all matters now is your baby,your OH and the people who have always supported you,I'm sorry to say that but she sounds like a terrible mum and not a very nice person and a number one manipulator !

 

[cosmicgirl]

That's awful, how horrible to read this from your own mum, take care of yourself and lo x

 

[flopsybunny]

What is wrong with her?! That is poison!! What a nasty, horrible thing to do. It seems deliberately worded to hurt you! Its so easy to say not to let it get to you - but of course it does. I let far more minor things get to me. That the person who carried you for 9 months and was in our position once could turn on her own child like that is unbelieveable. She must have no maternal instincts or empathy.

As the others said, stick with the people who love and support you!

Xx

 

[nmf1987]

merfairy- yeah it was me that had the trouble with her cos of hospital. my oh's dad is married to my mum which makes it awkward but they are on the verge of splitting cos he agrees with us. i am giving the stuff to him instead of seeing her.

sunnyb- you are very very sweet. thank you so much. its so nice to know people i have never met care. the same goes for you and all the girls. if anyone wants to talk anytime i am here. i am awful though cos as far as im concerned the sun shines out of my dads bum. lol.

thank you to the rest of you. means so much to have you all here to speak to. xxxx

 

[Piglet10]

oh my god ur mum sounds like a numpty in that email, how can she not realise that love has nothing to do with material items ?! hugs hun!! hope ur ok!! and u have us 'cyber' ladies 24/7!!! xxx

 

[nmf1987]

ha ha. didnt really know what to put but someone said about us all being 'real' on here. xxx

 

[Xcitedmum]

awww nmf that is an awful email. For your mum to put all that into writing is just childish & cruel.

I would definately not reply - I would let her horrid words just hang in the air. The worst thing you can do is reply as that way you are not only rising to the bait but I am a great believer in the saying 'don't put anything in writing that you wouldn't want people to hear you saying out loud'. If you don't reply you have nothing to apologise for - she will have to eat her own words as I imagine she will be putting the hospital doors in round you when she hears the baby is born.

If she cares about you and this baby as much as she says she does she will not be able to resist the pull that a grandchild will create.

I feel really awful for you but you seem to have your head screwed on - if she wants her stuff, give it to her with no conversation happening between you - she has banished you with that email, not the other way around.

Although easier said than done, try to forget about it and move on - she seems to create drama by opening old wounds with her words - you and your baby are better off without that type of negativity around you xxxx

 

[FebMum2Be]

So sorry, hun she is so selfish behaving this way, especially with you being so close to having your LO.. I hope you are okay xx

 

[treeze]

hope ur ok... that was such unkind email. I can't believe she could say those things to her own daughter. You and the baby are better off without that sort of negativity and nastiness in your lives. glad you have other people to support you x x x

 

[Miss]

Wow......just.......WOW!

I don't know what to say hun......I really hope you are OK and deleted the email tho! xx

 

[nmf1987]

havent deleted it yet as want it for proof of how she is being. xx

 

[Xcitedmum]

Hi Nmf - has there been any progress today? I imagine your mum is wondering what is going on as you have not reacted to her email. Did you return the belongings? Thinking of you & hope you have been able to not let it annoy you today x

 

[nmf1987]

Hi Nmf - has there been any progress today? I imagine your mum is wondering what is going on as you have not reacted to her email. Did you return the belongings? Thinking of you & hope you have been able to not let it annoy you today x

haven't heard anything at all. took the money round last night and gave it to my step dad. didnt return anything else and suprise suprise haven't heard so shows she is only interested in money. im feeling abit better today though thank you. spent a lovely day with lee. xxx

 

[Xcitedmum]

Fair play to you nmf for not letting it hang over you. At least now that money is returned she has no reason to keep harrassing you. so nice that you spent the day with Lee - who I assume to be your brother x

 

[paiges_mum]

Hi sweetie, feel a bit funny wading in cos i dont know u or ur situation, but jus thought id let u know ur not alone,my mum is a vicious compulsive liar who'd do anything to get her own way,strong words i know but for example i found out at 15 that she had cheated on my dad most of my childhood, i left home to stay with my gran who she hates and she told me to come home or she would tell every1 in the family that its ME who sleeps with married men.....at 15!? ...... Its disappointing to realise ur mum isnt the amazing lady we all want our mums to be, but we can all strive 2 do better as mums ourselves...sorry im waffling,just wanted u 2 know ur not alone and ur probably hurting now but ull end up stronger xxxx

 

[nmf1987]

no lee is my oh. lol.

omg paiges mum she sounds awful. you have to worry why these people have children just to treat them like that. xxx

 

[nadine]

Hey hun first of hope ur ok

Second I'll keep it short n sweet, u can't choose ur family, fuck her in a nut shell, she prob looks at u and wants more weather that b closer to u or what ever, but what people forget is u need to put the leg work in to get this, that email just shouts self pity n it's summat u will do better with out, u will have ur beautiful family around u very soon, in situations like this I believe what will be will be n take 1 day at a time!! Stressing over the actions of others (which is summat u cant control) is soooo some thing u really dont need to do as it wont change anything
Chin up x x

 

[pinkymum]

Hey hun, sorry things haven't got any better with your mum. Think I've said to you before that I understand how hard it is not to let this bother you. I know it can take a long time to fully accept that your mum isn't and will.never be the woman you want her to be. But try to concentrate on your new family if you can hun. I know its not easy.........your mum sounds very childisha