_>•~*X*~July 2015 Mummies-to-be!!!~*X*~•<_

[Loretta]

Hmmm, I wouldn't be keen to invite people I didn't get on with. Your party, right?
Not sure if I'll be having one as I haven't done anything and no-one's mentioned it, but I have some sneaky friends...

Have had a confusing letter today. Am technically consultant-led, but when I saw him at 12-13 weeks was told he'd see me at 35-36 weeks. I've just had an appointment letter for when I'm 24 weeks. Phoned and asked why that had changed, and will hopefully have an answer tomorrow. Hoping it's nothing they've spotted from the scan.

Starting to get quite a lot of muscle strain under the bump, particularly when walking uphill. Anyone else?

 

[Crawkay]

Actually just fallen out with OH coz he won't watch One Born Every Minute with me.
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting, he's being a dick or a bit of both.
Wouldn't kill him to show a bit of interest for an hour, ugh!

I'm tired and emotional today

 

[BonzE]

Ahh Crawkay, we are watching master chef as he wanted to watch that more and he's poorly and I can't be arsed with the fight! Men definately don't get on the same page as us nearly as quickly!

Maybe a bit hormonal but also know what you mean hun. Boys are crap sometimes! Big hug xx

 

[Laura29]

Hope all you ladies watching one born enjoy it
I'll try and get it on catch up
Was so looking forward to it but I'm full of cold and flu now feel shocking went all light headed earlier and am so weak
Night night all x

 

[Crawkay]

He's watching
I obviously guilted him in to it but he seems interested now he's actually watching.x

 

[Lola1]

Ah noooo Twinkle, so sorry to hear about what's happened Really hope you get a new mortgage sorted nice and quickly.

Happy V Day Laura Sorry to hear you're not well- hope you feel better soon.

Glad your OH ended up watching it Crawkay. We're just watching it now xxx

 

[Toni_Win]

Will watch obem on catch up. DH isn't that bothered about it. I never watched it until after I had ds and now love it. DH has watched a few episodes, mainly when they were from Leeds as we know one of the midwives. I got a groan when I said it was back on! I don't mind though, he's been through it with me once and was amazing, so I know he'll be fine on the day.

 

[Boosh]

Hi Ladies,

Not sure if any of you have thought about it or are planning on doing one but I was just looking on the NHS choices site about Birth Plans and found the template quite useful (don't get me wrong I know birth plans tend to go to rat sh*t) but it's not a bad idea to have something written down that even just your partner can refer to if you are struggling and need someone else to be your voice!
Here is the link if anyone is interested: http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/birth-plan.aspx

Hope everyone is feeling well today!
xx

 

[LaceyKeo]

Birth plans are good for noting certain things, but honestly, don't go too in depth.

Here's a scenario: (just as a point, not saying anyone is like this here, but people do have this...)

You create a birth plan. It's scary at first 'cause there's all kinds of stuff on there you don't understand, but you ask questions, learn, and end up with this beautiful idea of how birth will go.
Let's say after looking through everything, you decide you're gonna have a lovely peaceful water birth on gas and air, no pain relief, music in the background, etc.
Lovely.
Then labour starts.
There's a complication/baby is back-to-back/whatever. You battle on for hours, determined you'll have this "perfect" birth.
You're exhausted.
Midwife is suggesting an epidural and you're horrified.
It's been hours, you finally give in to the epi, disheartened that your plan has gone to pot.
Baby finally arrives, and all you can think of is how "wrong" it went.


It sounds drastic, I know, but it happens. Women end up genuinely depressed at how their baby came into the world.

Have a plan.
Be open to the idea it may not go as you hoped.

I used my birth plan to mostly say I wanted OH in with me, and to name my parents as being the only people allowed in post-delivery.
I said I'd like an epi or c-sec only as a last resort, and would prefer to try pethadine before anything else (I already know gas and air is pointless for me, but that peth worked wonderfully last time).

Say if you'd like baby skin-to-skin ASAP, or washed first, or washed, weighed, and checked first.
Say if dad would like to cut the cord or leave it for midwife. Xx

 

[Toni_Win]

Completely agree with Lacey on birth plans. I was very lucky with my first as everything went according to plan, but I was totally aware that it might not have and was open to changes.

Another thing you might want to note on the birth plan is if you want delayed cord clamping - i.e. not cutting the cord until it has stopped pulsing and the placenta has stopped passing blood onto your LO naturally. It just gives baby a little boost of blood and iron before you cut the cord.

 

[KWarbee]

Hi ladies,

Hope you're all well.

23 weeks for me today

I'm just planning to 'go with the flow' in terms of my birth plan. There'll be a few things I'd prefer to happen, as you've suggested Lacey, like OH cutting the cord, etc, but nothing in too much detail. I just have no idea how I'll cope so I won't rule out any forms of pain relief, but I'd like to be a bit more educated about the different types.

I work with a few midwives and I've heard a few times how they really dread seeing an overly complicated birth plan as it almost never goes according to that plan. I won't be planning my birthing positions, or anything like that!

My OH and I both seem to have a fear regarding forceps, but I know if it came to that then a) I would have no choice b) I will just want baby out by that point and c) I will have done everything I could've and it doesn't mean I've 'failed'.

xx

 

[LaceyKeo]

Sounds good K.

And a good example there... "No forceps unless absolutely needed".

As far as position goes, I had nothing other than "remain mobile as long as possible".
I ended up switching from my back to all fours and back again.

I hear squatting is supposed to be easiest but how the heck people manage that with a bowling ball between their legs just baffles me. Xx

 

[LaceyKeo]

Spent spare time last night and today making a baby sleeping bag. Aside from stupid mistakes (like sewing the zip in backwards, lol), it's actually been really easy, and I'm hoping to have it done tonight.

Getting all caught up in this sewing stuff xx

 

[BonzE]

Lacey you are Wonder Woman!!

My birth plan is as follows...

Hubby and mum as birthing partners
Stay mobile
Spend someone in te water
Stay at home lo as poss
Delayed cord cutting
Hubby cut cord
Immediate skin on skin
Oral vit k
Hubby to get skin on skin
No visitors apart from my immediate family until I have had a shower!
No forceps or auction unless absolutely required
Not too much intervention
Has and air but play it by pain!

Hmm...what else would I say?

X

 

[BonzE]

Lacey you are Wonder Woman!!

My birth plan is as follows...

Hubby and mum as birthing partners
Stay mobile
Spend someone in te water
Stay at home lo as poss
Delayed cord cutting
Hubby cut cord
Immediate skin on skin
Oral vit k
Hubby to get skin on skin
No visitors apart from my immediate family until I have had a shower!
No forceps or auction unless absolutely required
Not too much intervention
Has and air but play it by pain!

Hmm...what else would I say?

X

 

[Lola1]

I'm right there with you KWarbee! Feel like I have no idea what I'll be like and I can't predict what will happen so I'm going to do some reading and find out a bit more about things that could happen/ things I could be offered etc. but otherwise I'll just go with the flow when it happens. Still feel like I don't have a clue about a lot of stuff and that link looks like a really good place to start for me to learn a bit more, thanks Boosh What is oral vitamin K for BonzE?

Hope you have all had a good day xxx

 

[BonzE]

Instead of the baby having an injection as soon as it's born the vitamin k can be given orally in two doses, less nasties (in my opinion) and less ouchy for tiny bub! X

 

[Angela2612]

I had no birth plan with DD and I'm not going to make one this time either. Plan was for OH to cut DD cord he didn't want to at the time but I did so we're just gonna wing it more relaxing I just want baby to arrive safely and that's all that matters to me

Had a few poop days of late OH in for his op next Friday, a family member passed away last week and the funeral is on the same day as his op
OH doesn't really want to cancel it as he had to have it re scheduled already due to tonsillitis but feels like he's being a dick if he doesn't go to the funeral, Also we bought outfits as we had nothing to wear so looks like i may have to return them if we don't go.
Things just seem crap at the moment ;(

 

[LaceyKeo]

Vit K is to help the baby's blood to clot, as they're only just born with enough, sometimes the levels are too low.
Worst case scenario they bleed internally.

The vit K is given through an injection shortly after birth, or given a couple times via drops.

DS had the injection, didn't seem to bother him and it gets it out the way.
Some people prefer to have the drops cause baby's already been through enough as it is.
There's no right or wrong, it's just your preference.

Angela, how awful I'm sorry hon.
Is there no way to make it to both?

Xx

 

[Lola1]

Thanks BonzE and Lacey, that's really helpful

Aww sorry to hear that Angela. I think people would definitely understand if the reason your OH missed it was because he was having an operation. I know it must be a difficult decision though, especially as its already been postponed once. Hope you feel a bit better today xxx

I have so much work to do today but am feeling so unmotivated! Xxx