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[Lola1]

Aww Claire I'm really sorry to hear you had that experience and it's made you feel worried. I honestly think it's normal to have times when you don't really enjoy pregnancy and it's definitely normal to worry sometimes! I mean just look at how many people come to chat on here about not feeling great. I sometimes think there's this big myth that it's all meant to be this amazing, perfect time and it's a shame coz it's no wonder we sometimes feel guilty if it's not quite working out that way. It doesn't in any way mean that you don't want the baby or that you're not coping though. It's a shame if the midwife made you feel that way. I guess they see so many people and have so many guidelines to follow etc that they might jump to conclusions or suggest things without really talking it through. Do you think you could call her and talk to her about how it's made you feel? I bet it's likely that she isn't worried about you not coping- just that like you say you've got a lot going on and pregnancy is a time when it's much easier and quicker to get access to counselling so she might just think it would be helpful to have someone to talk to in a bit more depth? Hope you're feeling a bit better today hun Xxx

 

[Boosh]

Aww Claire I'm so sorry you are feeling like this and MW has made you worry more. I totally agree with everything Lola has said, it's not the perfect smooth ride that is portrayed it's hard flipping work and a hell of a lot of changes going on in what is a reletivley short space of time hormones are a bi*ch!
I would do as Lola suggets and try speaking to the MW again and explaining how it's made you feel.
Chin up hun xxx

 

[KWarbee]

Oh Claire, I'm sorry to hear that. I would just echo everything the other ladies have said. Pregnancy is not a smooth and joyful ride all the time like it's portrayed to be, it's tough and a really anxious time for a lot of women. I've suffered myself with anxiety, others suffer with ms so badly, it's just a very difficult and vulnerable time for us.

I would also perhaps talk to your midwife again about how she made you feel. I'm sure it was not her intention but I find that health care professionals can sometimes be very flippant and forget themselves when they say things.

I think because you've also had such a long journey to get to this point that it's natural to put a lot of expectation and pressure on yourself. Try and see the referral as an opportunity to gain some extra support if that is what you need and want. It in no ways means that you won't cope, I'm sure you're going to be a wonderful mother. The fact that you're asking these questions of yourself proves that already.

We're always here to support you too. Never feel like you can't tell us how you're feeling, I'm sure we can all relate

Lacey, I love your nursery tidy (is that what it's called?), it looks great. You must be very proud of that, I would be

Angela, my OH and I are finding the exact opposite We're expecting a little girl and we really struggle to buy clothes for her as I hate too much pink, dislike too many dresses and anything too flowery. The boys clothes are just adorable, I would end up spending loads if I was having a boy!

Hope the rest of you are well xx

 

[Angela2612]

So sorry Claire the midwife shouldn't of made you feel that way I echo what the ladies have said and pregnancy isn't always plain sailing, I would give her a ring and try and talk to her as she obviously has the wrong end of the stick in my eyes !

 

[BonzE]

Claire sorry to hear you are feeling like this, I happen to be feeling pretty low at the moment too! Not nice of midwife to put it so bluntly and I think she used the wrong wording! Big hug!

Lacey is there anything you can't do?! I am feeling useless!

Have had a hormonal melt down for four days, crying at everything and anything and im knackered!

Hubby away this weekend (not the same as living on the other side of the world I know) but with the fainting i feel a bit vulnerable!

Hoping to pack in a weekend of fun with my mumma! xx

 

[Crawkay]

There's nothing I can add that the others haven't already said Claire.
It's a tough time but I'm sure you'll come through the other side just fine.

Love the cot tidy Lacey, I'm awwwful with anything like that, least creative person in the world.

Roll on Monday Bonze, it's horrible when they're away when you're feeling vulnerable. Sure your mum will look after you.x

 

[claire2602]

Thanks girls! Your all amazing and so glad i have you all to vent at as you all understand xxxx

 

[BonzE]

I simply love July mummies! Feels like a big group of friends that know exactly how you are feeling! X

 

[Laura29]

Hi ladies hope your all ok
Claire hope your feeling much better hun keep smiling
Lacey how's the cold now?

I am livid today
Took my little one to preschool this morning he was fine no issues at all
He is there for 4 hours twice a week
I went to pick him up and as he saw me he ran straight over and said mummy sore eyes
I bent down best I could with bump and looked at his face
His key worker was stood next to me and she said yes his eye was leaky today and red
I said RED look at his face!!! I could see right away he had conjunctivitis in both eyes they were red sore puffy and manky with yellow gunk
I grabbed his stuff and got him straight home called the doctors and taking him to see the nurse in the morning
I have spent 3 hours this afternoon bathing his eyes and trying to keep him calm with not rubbing them
I can't believe they didn't call me as soon as they suspected it was conjunctivitis!!!! It's a bloody preschool for Christ sake he shouldn't be there with that its highly contagious!!
So tomorrow after nurse I'll be ringing them voicing my anger!
Sorry ladies rant Over from me x

 

[BonzE]

Laura that's terrible! Poor bub, conjunctivitis is so painfull especially in kids when they are told not to rub and that's all they want to do. Hope it clears up soon! I'm not surprised you're annoyed, I'd be fuming! X

 

[Loretta]

Yowzer, the hormones really took over this morning. Massive anger meltdown at work. Spent the rest of the day apologising. Must get a handle on myself.

Laura, I hope your little one is feeling better soon. Terrible that the preschool didn't do more to help.

Exhausted. Off to bed

 

[roxyroo]

Laura that's awful! I'd be the same absolutely livid! Poor thing I hope he's ok x

 

[Angela2612]

Oh no laura they should of phoned you!
My DD has had it a few times when she was a baby and it's horrible cooled boiled water seemed to help clean it but getting the drops in was a nightmare. I hope he's better soon

 

[AnotherYou]

Oh no Laura, I can't believe they'd noticed his eyes were leaky and red but didn't bother doing anything about it!! Hope he's better soon.

Claire I'm glad you're feeling better about things - it sounds to me like your midwife jumped to a load of conclusions rather than actually listening to you!! *hugs*

My exciting news today is that hubby felt baby kick for the first time!!! I'd been reading a few sites on bonding with baby and some suggested responding to wriggles/kicks by rubbing or poking back, so I gave a little prod (even though it felt mean but I guess it won't hurt her at all!!) and she gave quite a few really strong kicks back that hubby felt - awwwww!! love it xx

 

[twinkletoes220]

I have been feeling baby move more and more this week. Usually at around this time in the morning twinkle wakes me up!! With either heartburn or kicks! Over the last few days my boss has essentially called me fat...twice!! It's a good job I don't have a complex about my weight!! She's such a bitch!! Has anyone else started to get really tired again? I don't know if it's because I've been waking up or not! I've got a lot on my mind,but by Tuesday I'm shattered and need an afternoon nap!!x

 

[roxyroo]

I had an episode last week or the week before where I was soo tired like first trimester tiredness literally falling asleep snywhere! Either a growth spurt or because im not sleeping well at night x

 

[Laura29]

Thanks ladies
Hope your all well today
I had a bad night LO was whimpering and crying through the night : (
He got up this morning and both his eyes were stuck closed he was so upset
Off to see this nurse this morning
Hope she can do something for him x

 

[Crawkay]

Aw, what a shame for your little fella Laura, hope they can help him.

I was quietly hoping my pains were slowly getting better. Nope!
Worse than ever last night. Was up at 3am then 6am feeling like I'd been stabbed then repeatedly kicked in the side. Bloody awful. I've moved the kettle to the bedroom so I don't have to go downstairs to fill my hot water bottle.
Not a happy bunny today.

Hope the rest of you enjoy your day.x

 

[claire2602]

Crawkay that dose t sound good i had agonising pains last night in the crease of my leg area (whatever its called) couldnt lie down to sleep was horrible
Woke this morning feeling a little low and then had alot of reassuring kicks from bubs almost as if to say "its all okay mummy" &#55357;&#56475;
Hope thw nurse goes okay for your little one laura!

hope we all have good fridays and weekends xxxx

 

[Crawkay]

In your groin? I'd never realised pain could be much of an issue at this stage, bit naive :/
The kicks are lovely though, even when they're at 6 in the morning.