Hi
I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with a little girl. I fell pregnant at 17 a month before my birthday but didn't find out until I had turned 18. The father is 23 and we conceived her from nothing for than I guess, a fling. We had sex twice, I really liked him but his communication with me stopped so I guess I accepted it for what it was. I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks and when I told him I was pregnant he just put "ok" I asked him what I was supposed to do and he told me not to keep it. I understood why he said this and I agreed however I just couldn't do it after I saw that heartbeat. I told him I would up until about 10 weeks gone and then I had to come clean, I told him that I was keeping her because I couldn't do it. He became very horrible towards me all of a sudden, told me to kill myself and the baby called me various names and would just laugh at me down the phone saying how "the thing I had wouldn't have anything to do with him"
So I persisted on talking to him, I guess because hes the only one out of anyone who knows about the pregnancy and I wanted someone to be there for me. He gradually got nicer and more factual rather than immature. He told me he didn't want this baby. I said I know he doesn't but its not fair on our daughter to be without her father. He said that he went without his father all of his life because he cheated on his mum when she was pregnant with him, he told me when he questioned his mum why she didn't try to make him be involved and she said "because my priority was to make sure you where ok not him" he then went on to say that my priority as a mother should be the baby and not wether she has a father or not! I just want my little girl to have 2 sides of her family, I was brought up without my mum or dad and I lived with my nan and all I ever knew was my nan grandad older sister and auntie and cosions on my nans side. I get jelous of people with a complete happy family and and I dont want my baby to feel like that. If he is not involved the only family my daughter will have is my older sister my aunt and 2 of my cosions, I don't even have much to do with them as I have to be quite independent since my nan and grandad died and have had to move in to my own shared accommodation.
He keeps reiterating how he doesn't care about me or this baby. He said he may change his mind as he don't know how he will feel when the baby is here but its MOST LIKELY he still won't care. He is so immature, all he could talk about on this conversation about something serious was how he wanted to go off the phone now because he was "horny" he never takes anything seriously then persisted to wind me up by saying he had asked girls in my area about me and they told him i was a "slut" he then later admitted he was joking to try and wind me up.
I don't know how to feel or what to do. I am debating whether to contact his sister on facebook and tell her of the situation but i don't know how she will react or if she will get angry and try and protect her brother. He has said he wants a dna test after the baby is born, the baby is for sure his but I agreed because i can understand why he would want one as we were not together. He has said if i did tell his family he wont take one so he there will be no chance of him getting involved but i know he wont anyway.
He blocked me while texting the other day just because I told him to sort his life out and he was immature and we haven't spoken since. I know if i contact his family then he will probably never talk to me again but i feel like doing it out of the hope they can persuade him or if not atleast themselves be involved. I don't know if its wise? I just feel so alone in this pregnancy, I have had to hold of uni as I can't move away anymore and the uni here won't accept me. I work part time as was still in school and when im not at work i just stay inside crying. None of my friends agree with my choice and i feel so alone but should i just leave it?
I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with a little girl. I fell pregnant at 17 a month before my birthday but didn't find out until I had turned 18. The father is 23 and we conceived her from nothing for than I guess, a fling. We had sex twice, I really liked him but his communication with me stopped so I guess I accepted it for what it was. I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks and when I told him I was pregnant he just put "ok" I asked him what I was supposed to do and he told me not to keep it. I understood why he said this and I agreed however I just couldn't do it after I saw that heartbeat. I told him I would up until about 10 weeks gone and then I had to come clean, I told him that I was keeping her because I couldn't do it. He became very horrible towards me all of a sudden, told me to kill myself and the baby called me various names and would just laugh at me down the phone saying how "the thing I had wouldn't have anything to do with him"
So I persisted on talking to him, I guess because hes the only one out of anyone who knows about the pregnancy and I wanted someone to be there for me. He gradually got nicer and more factual rather than immature. He told me he didn't want this baby. I said I know he doesn't but its not fair on our daughter to be without her father. He said that he went without his father all of his life because he cheated on his mum when she was pregnant with him, he told me when he questioned his mum why she didn't try to make him be involved and she said "because my priority was to make sure you where ok not him" he then went on to say that my priority as a mother should be the baby and not wether she has a father or not! I just want my little girl to have 2 sides of her family, I was brought up without my mum or dad and I lived with my nan and all I ever knew was my nan grandad older sister and auntie and cosions on my nans side. I get jelous of people with a complete happy family and and I dont want my baby to feel like that. If he is not involved the only family my daughter will have is my older sister my aunt and 2 of my cosions, I don't even have much to do with them as I have to be quite independent since my nan and grandad died and have had to move in to my own shared accommodation.
He keeps reiterating how he doesn't care about me or this baby. He said he may change his mind as he don't know how he will feel when the baby is here but its MOST LIKELY he still won't care. He is so immature, all he could talk about on this conversation about something serious was how he wanted to go off the phone now because he was "horny" he never takes anything seriously then persisted to wind me up by saying he had asked girls in my area about me and they told him i was a "slut" he then later admitted he was joking to try and wind me up.
I don't know how to feel or what to do. I am debating whether to contact his sister on facebook and tell her of the situation but i don't know how she will react or if she will get angry and try and protect her brother. He has said he wants a dna test after the baby is born, the baby is for sure his but I agreed because i can understand why he would want one as we were not together. He has said if i did tell his family he wont take one so he there will be no chance of him getting involved but i know he wont anyway.
He blocked me while texting the other day just because I told him to sort his life out and he was immature and we haven't spoken since. I know if i contact his family then he will probably never talk to me again but i feel like doing it out of the hope they can persuade him or if not atleast themselves be involved. I don't know if its wise? I just feel so alone in this pregnancy, I have had to hold of uni as I can't move away anymore and the uni here won't accept me. I work part time as was still in school and when im not at work i just stay inside crying. None of my friends agree with my choice and i feel so alone but should i just leave it?