Hi
I have not much really in the way of family or friend support and I am just looking for advice. I feel no one will understand my situation which is hard as I know people will probably be judgemental on this situation but I feel certain things have made it this way for me so please try to avoid judging as I have had enough of it at the moment. I suffer from bipolar depression and anxiety which I feel is a big part in this, I am never honest with anyone about my feelings and all of my family think im ok but I am really not, I feel this is why I have done what I have done.
I split up with my ex boyfriend in early March and was with him for nearly 3 years, before I met him and when I was about 13-14 I slept around with older boys quite a lot, it just gave me comfort I guess, they where always really horrible to me and name called me so meeting my boyfriend took me away from that and I loved it and felt like a good person for once in my life. We split because it just wasn't working we had so many differences and just wasn't right for eachother and we both wasn't happy, I went through a stage of wanting him back but he didn't. Due to this I ended up sleeping with someone about 3 weeks after the break up. It was unprotected and he did finish and was multiple times. I then slept with my friend (boy) brother 2 days later, it was the night before my 18th and I had some drinks with my friend and he went out leaving me in the house on his own with his brother and it just happened, however it was protected. 2 days after that I slept with someone else that I had knew from mutual friends unprotected but he did not finish.
So I found out I was pregnant 4 weeks later. The dates of the pregnancy didn't fall on any of the exact dates I had sex. I worked out the first occasion was exactly 14 days after the start of my period and considering he finished i considered him most likely followed by the 2nd then the 3rd who used a condom. I told the first one and was honest and he told me to get rid of it, when I later told him I hadn't he became abusive and threatening towards me and told me he wanted nothing to do with the baby and that he had a girlfriend now. I then told the 2nd guy (my friends brother) and he just said its probably not him and I agreed and he said not to expect anything if it came down to it. I then told the 3rd person last night that I was pregnant and he asked if it could be him and i was honest and said there was a chance. He then blocked me and his sister phoned me baring in mind she is a "nurse" apparently, she was telling me the baby was too big to be his and looked more like 18 weeks (I have been told im 15 weeks thursday from 3 scans) She then proceeded to tell me to meet her and that she was going to beat my head in regardless if i was pregnant or not and if i spoke to her brother again she would kill me, she then went on to say if the baby was his then its her blood but she didnt care because id still get my head kicked in and that i should find my real babies father. I never told her it was for sure his nor did i say anything un reasonable, I just told her that I will take a dna test once the baby is born and we will find out and it seemed to make her more mad. I spent the whole night worrying they where going to turn up at my house shaking, in the end I had to take codeine to get to sleep.
I am only 18 I have just finished school, currently not working as supposidly starting uni in September depending on this and grades which i probably ruined. I am beside my self, I told friends initally but have now told them I got rid of the baby because they where so judgemental, telling me that it wasn't a good idea and i needed to hurry up and do it. I have no family I can tell, they will probably kick me out of the house, my mum expects more of me I will have no where to live at all for neither me or my baby and I don't want to get put on the streets when im pregnant. I am not showing much but I am quite slim and im getting a pop belly, I am having to wear baggy clothes and tight waist belts. Please you don't understand I CANT tell my parents, they will kick me out for 100% there will be no talking or compromising, I have no income and no where to go, Im still classed as being in fulltime education so I don't know if im entitled to any benefits.
I have been to all my appointments alone. Im currently supposed to call my midwife my wednesday to let her know if im going foward with an abortion. No one understands how I feel but i feel as though I NEED an want an abortion but when it comes down to it its like I don't want it and can't do it, it makes me upset just thinking about it but I know i need to do it. I lay in bed crying most of the day, i am prescribed dyhydrocodeine due to horrible migraines but I have found myself taking them most days because it makes you feel as though your drunk and everything just seems better. I am ashamed about what i did and everyones opinions on me being a "slut" i feel like i want to change but i don't know how and now I have trapped myself in this situation without even one of the men willing to even be civil with me. I have even considered suicide but when it comes down to it I would never do it because im just too scared.
I really just don't know what to do anymore its horrible
I have not much really in the way of family or friend support and I am just looking for advice. I feel no one will understand my situation which is hard as I know people will probably be judgemental on this situation but I feel certain things have made it this way for me so please try to avoid judging as I have had enough of it at the moment. I suffer from bipolar depression and anxiety which I feel is a big part in this, I am never honest with anyone about my feelings and all of my family think im ok but I am really not, I feel this is why I have done what I have done.
I split up with my ex boyfriend in early March and was with him for nearly 3 years, before I met him and when I was about 13-14 I slept around with older boys quite a lot, it just gave me comfort I guess, they where always really horrible to me and name called me so meeting my boyfriend took me away from that and I loved it and felt like a good person for once in my life. We split because it just wasn't working we had so many differences and just wasn't right for eachother and we both wasn't happy, I went through a stage of wanting him back but he didn't. Due to this I ended up sleeping with someone about 3 weeks after the break up. It was unprotected and he did finish and was multiple times. I then slept with my friend (boy) brother 2 days later, it was the night before my 18th and I had some drinks with my friend and he went out leaving me in the house on his own with his brother and it just happened, however it was protected. 2 days after that I slept with someone else that I had knew from mutual friends unprotected but he did not finish.
So I found out I was pregnant 4 weeks later. The dates of the pregnancy didn't fall on any of the exact dates I had sex. I worked out the first occasion was exactly 14 days after the start of my period and considering he finished i considered him most likely followed by the 2nd then the 3rd who used a condom. I told the first one and was honest and he told me to get rid of it, when I later told him I hadn't he became abusive and threatening towards me and told me he wanted nothing to do with the baby and that he had a girlfriend now. I then told the 2nd guy (my friends brother) and he just said its probably not him and I agreed and he said not to expect anything if it came down to it. I then told the 3rd person last night that I was pregnant and he asked if it could be him and i was honest and said there was a chance. He then blocked me and his sister phoned me baring in mind she is a "nurse" apparently, she was telling me the baby was too big to be his and looked more like 18 weeks (I have been told im 15 weeks thursday from 3 scans) She then proceeded to tell me to meet her and that she was going to beat my head in regardless if i was pregnant or not and if i spoke to her brother again she would kill me, she then went on to say if the baby was his then its her blood but she didnt care because id still get my head kicked in and that i should find my real babies father. I never told her it was for sure his nor did i say anything un reasonable, I just told her that I will take a dna test once the baby is born and we will find out and it seemed to make her more mad. I spent the whole night worrying they where going to turn up at my house shaking, in the end I had to take codeine to get to sleep.
I am only 18 I have just finished school, currently not working as supposidly starting uni in September depending on this and grades which i probably ruined. I am beside my self, I told friends initally but have now told them I got rid of the baby because they where so judgemental, telling me that it wasn't a good idea and i needed to hurry up and do it. I have no family I can tell, they will probably kick me out of the house, my mum expects more of me I will have no where to live at all for neither me or my baby and I don't want to get put on the streets when im pregnant. I am not showing much but I am quite slim and im getting a pop belly, I am having to wear baggy clothes and tight waist belts. Please you don't understand I CANT tell my parents, they will kick me out for 100% there will be no talking or compromising, I have no income and no where to go, Im still classed as being in fulltime education so I don't know if im entitled to any benefits.
I have been to all my appointments alone. Im currently supposed to call my midwife my wednesday to let her know if im going foward with an abortion. No one understands how I feel but i feel as though I NEED an want an abortion but when it comes down to it its like I don't want it and can't do it, it makes me upset just thinking about it but I know i need to do it. I lay in bed crying most of the day, i am prescribed dyhydrocodeine due to horrible migraines but I have found myself taking them most days because it makes you feel as though your drunk and everything just seems better. I am ashamed about what i did and everyones opinions on me being a "slut" i feel like i want to change but i don't know how and now I have trapped myself in this situation without even one of the men willing to even be civil with me. I have even considered suicide but when it comes down to it I would never do it because im just too scared.
I really just don't know what to do anymore its horrible