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HI girls
Just after a few different opinions and experiences please!
I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, and there will be almost exactly a 3 year gap between my first and second children. Obviously I haven't experienced it yet so I may be completely wrong but I think it sounds like a nice easy (ha!) age gap, I.e. DS1 is potty trained, sleeps through the night, old enough to entertain himself for very short periods of time while I change nappies etc. The downside I think is going to be that he might feel quite jealous as he's old enough to understand that the baby is taking attention away from him, but not old enough to understand why! But I'm hoping we can work through this and will try extra hard to give him one to one attention and make him feel included.
Anyway, I am already thinking about having a 3rd child, which is ridiculous I know when I've not even had number 2 yet lol. But I am just debating different age gaps in my head and wordering if we were going to have a 3rd child, would it be better do do this fairly quickly and have a 18-month to 2-year gap between numbar 2 and 3 maybe (DS1 would be 5), or wait a bit longer?
My main reasons for wanting a third fairly quickly is that I find the newborn stage and sleepless nights difficult. Give me a toddler any day! The thought of getting DC1 and DC2 through the baby stage then having to start all over again fills me with dread, I think it would be difficult to have a big gap and be used to older children then go back to babyhood. Ive also had issues with dodgy smear tests so although I'm only 28, I've always felt I may not have time on my side for having children as having treatment on your cervix can affect future pregnancies, carryingto term etc. Plus my OH is 39 and he doesn't really want to be running around after toddlers into his late 40's!
My main fear about having a third quickly is that it would be extremely difficult having 3 kids under 5! Am I crazy for even considering it? Do any of you have smaller gaps and /or 3 young children?
I realise I might feel totally different after DS2 is born anyway, I might change my mind completely and not even want a third! It took me until DS1'S 2nd birthday to even entertain the Idea of pregnancy again, it would have filled me with horror to do it any earlier! So that may well happen again! But I'm really interested to hear of people's experiences with different gaps, so I am prepared for every eventuality!
Thanks xx
Just after a few different opinions and experiences please!
I'm pregnant with my 2nd child, and there will be almost exactly a 3 year gap between my first and second children. Obviously I haven't experienced it yet so I may be completely wrong but I think it sounds like a nice easy (ha!) age gap, I.e. DS1 is potty trained, sleeps through the night, old enough to entertain himself for very short periods of time while I change nappies etc. The downside I think is going to be that he might feel quite jealous as he's old enough to understand that the baby is taking attention away from him, but not old enough to understand why! But I'm hoping we can work through this and will try extra hard to give him one to one attention and make him feel included.
Anyway, I am already thinking about having a 3rd child, which is ridiculous I know when I've not even had number 2 yet lol. But I am just debating different age gaps in my head and wordering if we were going to have a 3rd child, would it be better do do this fairly quickly and have a 18-month to 2-year gap between numbar 2 and 3 maybe (DS1 would be 5), or wait a bit longer?
My main reasons for wanting a third fairly quickly is that I find the newborn stage and sleepless nights difficult. Give me a toddler any day! The thought of getting DC1 and DC2 through the baby stage then having to start all over again fills me with dread, I think it would be difficult to have a big gap and be used to older children then go back to babyhood. Ive also had issues with dodgy smear tests so although I'm only 28, I've always felt I may not have time on my side for having children as having treatment on your cervix can affect future pregnancies, carryingto term etc. Plus my OH is 39 and he doesn't really want to be running around after toddlers into his late 40's!
My main fear about having a third quickly is that it would be extremely difficult having 3 kids under 5! Am I crazy for even considering it? Do any of you have smaller gaps and /or 3 young children?
I realise I might feel totally different after DS2 is born anyway, I might change my mind completely and not even want a third! It took me until DS1'S 2nd birthday to even entertain the Idea of pregnancy again, it would have filled me with horror to do it any earlier! So that may well happen again! But I'm really interested to hear of people's experiences with different gaps, so I am prepared for every eventuality!
Thanks xx