What's a good age gap?

[SunnyGirl]

I keep wondering when to TTC again. I am utterly shattered, BUT I am 35 in Sept, so really do have to get a move on. Sort of. What kind of gap between babies is good?

 

[cosmicgirl]

I don't think there is an ideal age gap really. There are pro's and con's for big and small gaps.
I think the key is when YOU feel ready xx

 

[Mrs N]

Erm 20 years?? Lol!! Dunno if I will have another one tbh, before I had H I wanted them really close but now I think I need to wait at least 5 years as I was so ill after this one and need him to be able to look after himself a bit iykwim?? But as H doesnt sleep well at night I kinda think maybe we shud have one soon so we dont get used to having sleep again!!
xxx

 

[positivity :)]

I think it depends on what your needs are really.

For me, i have to consider childcare costs so have to wait until Will will be old enough to receive some free childcare by the time the second one needs to go to childcare iykwim?

also, this may sound silly but i dont want to long a gap where i get used to 'me' time again and then go back and start all over again. i also want them close in age. so if i were you i would have a think about what you want and then decide.

otherwise, i will decide for you that you need to join me in ttc in 18 months time

xx

 

[BabyBrain]

I was told be the gynae specialist I'll probably lose my ovaries within the next couple of years, waiting to see a cancer specialist and see what they say. I would have liked 2-3 years between babies but may have to start ttc soon or if not accept Albert will be our one and only. I'm 35 in September too lol

 

[AugustMum]

I think there's no perfect age gap except for when you believe its right.

Personally Im waiting until mid/late next year as my LO will be in her free nursery place and then when Im on maternity leave she will be starting her first year of school (if it does take too long to conceive of course).

Mine was also dictated by the birth. i had an emergency section which gave me post traumatic stress so I would like a homebirth next time so the longer I leave it the better

Its what ever you believe is right.

 

[bidsy]

ive got the same issue, my LO is nearly 18months and I have to start trying next month although I would prefer to wait a little longer now as Joseph is starting to become quite testing, maybe till he's in nursery so I have a bit of time for a baby. My DH has agreed to another as long as we dont try forever as he is 42 and doesnt want to be an old dad so starting ttc after the wedding next month. i finish my last pack of pills in 5 days. just worried i wont be able to give joseph as much attention but i want him to grow up with a sibling. i know ive prob made no sense lol

 

[SunnyGirl]

So interesting reading all these replies. There are pros and cons with each option.
Thinking we might just ntnp once baby boy is a year to 18 months. Let fate decide!
I didn't want to get caught up with opks and stuff again anyway.
Stressed me out loads last time!

 

[winnie89]

Well there is 3.5 years between me and my sister and we close but not as close as we could be I want harry to be at least out of a pram I cannot even contemplate a double buggy (I can only just steer a single) me and hubby are gonna take it slow and see where we get if I get pregnant sooner then fine if not I'm happy to wait

 

[furryheart]

There is 17 years & 10 days difference from my first and second .
My LO will be 2 this sept and we are planning to TTC this sept for a third after our wedding . I will be 39 in january.

 

[Iwant3]

Well there is 3.5 years between me and my sister and we close but not as close as we could be I want harry to be at least out of a pram I cannot even contemplate a double buggy (I can only just steer a single) me and hubby are gonna take it slow and see where we get if I get pregnant sooner then fine if not I'm happy to wait

My son was 3y9m when my daughter was born and still using buggy, so had a double - now I had a quad seat pushchair and I love it!

so yeah in answer to original post - my son was just under 3 when we decided to ttc, and 3 when we conceived (his birthday to be presise, lol). Now my daughter is 2y6m and we are ttc again!

DS and DD play well together and can still enjoy similar games which suprised me as I thought that a 3y9m gap between boy and girl siblings that they wouldn't want to know each other, lol. We have ran out of bedrooms now so number 3 is going to share with no2 so hopefully they get will get on

 

[tinks77]

We're going for 2.5 years, I'm 35 next month and want to be pregnant by the time she's 2 ideally

There is 4 years between me & my sister and we hated each other from day one lol

 

[Olive]

I'd love to start trying in Jan 2014 when B turns 2 but we can't ttc until we have a bigger house really. X


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