Twins chat 2016/17!

[FBTTN8079]

I'm sure they will pick up in no time Blue
Henry & Arthur were weighed yesterday and have managed to regain their birth weight & more! Henry is now 5lb 9 & Arthur is 5lb 5 ! They are on 70mls (2.5oz) 3hrly at the moment

We tried one of their night feeds going to 4hrly again but it's just messed up their feeds in the day so I think we will go back to 3 hr for anouther week even though it's tiring in the night as just don't think they are completely ready yet?

Should I be stimulating them lots in the daytime? At the moment it's eat, sleep repeat with some chatty FaceTime when they are awake ?

 

[MrsB2105]

Oh I feel for you those 3 hourly feeds were horrendous for us, it got easier fairly quickly though x

 

[MrsB2105]

There isn't a lot to do that stimulates them at that age either- you are doing amazing though!!! X

 

[Blueflower]

So when do you stop the 3 hourly feeds?!

 

[FBTTN8079]

Thanks Hun, hubby is mad at me this morning as we tried one 4 hour gap through the night which is fine but it unsettled the rest of the day, we then did a 2 hour feed yesterday at 4pm & at 6pm to get back on track for the midnight feed but when they had that Arthur wouldn't settle at all (always settles on the 3hr) I ended up tipping him up at 2am and then they both were looking for a feed at 3am & I couldn't have kept them out till 4! And Arthur didn't sleep which meant I hadn't slept until he had finished his feed at 4! Hubby was asleep through this all and now he is all mad at me probably because he thinks I made the decision to go back to the 3hrly! X

 

[FBTTN8079]

So he was a little grumpy this morning but think what he didn't say and was trying to do was get the boys through the night so that I could rest as he's worried I'm not getting enough. Would be easier if he said it outright lol. X

 

[Blueflower]

It's such an emotive issue isn't it? We had a disagreement the other evening because one of the twins was rooting on him after breastfeeding and he suggested an extra bottle. I'd thought they'd had enough and I was hungry and tired and got upset. Then he got upset too and was swearing in the kitchen! We want the babies to have enough but we also need the energy to keep going. xx

 

[FBTTN8079]

That's it isn't it ! It's hard & you want the best for the babies plus it's a very tiring & emotional time figuring it all out ! But like you say we need the energy too x

 

[MrsB2105]

So when do you stop the 3 hourly feeds?!

We slowly came away from them at night first when I got fed up of trying to feed them when they were fast asleep so we shifted it to 4 hourly and it worked for a couple of nights and then we decided to leave them so that they could wake us when they were hungry, the 3 hourly in the day carried on until about 6 weeks though and then we started spreading that 4 hourly- took us longer as the boys were poorly at 5 weeks x

 

[MrsB2105]

Ladies, it does get easier I promise, sometimes when you are so sleep deprived it really doesn't feel like it will but they start going longer between feeds in the night, and everything falls into place after that x

 

[FBTTN8079]

Thanks Mrs B I think we just hit one of those tired days lol you are hardcore as you also have your little boy too so hats off to you I love the little guys and it's early days x

 

[FBTTN8079]

MrsB when you dropped to 4hr in the night & 3 hour in the day did you still keep to the same times? I can't seem to work out how we would keep the timings in the day & that's what's throwing the boys out I think. X

 

[MrsB2105]

I think we did yes we only spread the night ones out, I can't remember the exact times but it always worked out well I don't remember struggling with times I think we had 7am, 10, 1, 4, 7, 11, 3, and back to 7 ... I'm pretty sure that's how it went x

 

[Laura1992]

Anyone feel guilty for having to split their time between two babies? Or more for those that already have children. I feel so guilty that I can't just hold them for hours, I'm constantly feeding and then plopping them in a chair or moses basket so I can tend to the other and then feed myself or put laundry on. I feel so guilty and down about it sometimes.

 

[MrsB2105]

I had that guilt for ages, I also find that I feel that feeding them is really impersonal when I'm doing it on my own - that makes me feel guilty too but we can only do our best, it gets slightly easier and then a little harder and then easier again x

 

[Laura1992]

I had that guilt for ages, I also find that I feel that feeding them is really impersonal when I'm doing it on my own - that makes me feel guilty too but we can only do our best, it gets slightly easier and then a little harder and then easier again x

Yes me too, I spend so much time attached to a pump and then just bottles in mouths because I found breastfeeding directly on the boob took far too long, but I sort of feel lazy for not persevering with it. Not that I think there's anything wrong with other types of feeding, I just feel ever guilty for everything at the moment with these two. I need to get a grip! I want to cry when they do little squeaks in their sleep because they are so cute. Is this normal hormones? I hope so. xx

 

[MrsB2105]

Yes that's very normal, and if it isn't then I'm a crazy lady as I sat in tears some days for no reason , honestly you are doing a fab job and twins are very very overwhelming x

 

[Laura1992]

Yes that's very normal, and if it isn't then I'm a crazy lady as I sat in tears some days for no reason , honestly you are doing a fab job and twins are very very overwhelming x

Thanks. Midwife turned up today to check on us and she kept asking me why I felt guilty and upset. Pretty sure I'm on the crazy lady watch list now for crying in front of her about breastfeeding! :/ xxx

 

[MrsB2105]

Haha my health visitor said any crying in the first 6 weeks was expected x

 

[FBTTN8079]

Oh my goodness my crying has only just started to get better lol seriously about 4!days after they were born I would just cry every day & would just look at the boys and cry ha ha hubby would ask why and I would just say I just love them so much so very normal and not crazy ha ha.
I had guilt about not expressing enough, about them being too little in the car seat, I feel guilty when one is slightly more fussy than the other so gets more time but it's all super normal x

Boys were weighed yesterday and are now 6lb 3 and 6lb 7 so really pleased ! They are now on 100mls every 3-4 hours. Think they need a little more as they are still waking 3hrly and trying to stretch them to 3.5-4 hours as this mummy needs some sleep ha ha