Dovekie
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I don't know whether to accept my exes help (when it's available) or tell him to get out of my life?
He treat me so badly during the pregnancy, withholding affection and sex and saying he didn't love me. It's a long story, but we split up when I was 38 weeks and i moved 2 hours away to be closer to family. Im now in a flat, alone with my 4 week old son. He has stayed one weekend so far to help. He's coming this weekend and next (only because I told him he should) because I'm really struggling on my own.
I still love him and last weekend I practically begged him to get back together or at least remain open about the possibility. My thoughts were that, if he is willing to try that, i could forgive him for what happened. However, if he isn't, I can't ever forgive him as I feel like he never wanted me. Anyway, he refused to even see what happens. I was so angry I kicked him out (he was leaving at that point anyway).
Now, he's due to arrive tomorrow, and I just don't want to be nice to him...... but, I really need the help/rest. Our families want us to be on speaking terms for the sake of our son.
I think he's messed me up, mentally. Rejection when you're pregnant is horrible and I worry how all of the negativity and arguing affected our son.
I don't know what to do? It's such a horrible mess.
He treat me so badly during the pregnancy, withholding affection and sex and saying he didn't love me. It's a long story, but we split up when I was 38 weeks and i moved 2 hours away to be closer to family. Im now in a flat, alone with my 4 week old son. He has stayed one weekend so far to help. He's coming this weekend and next (only because I told him he should) because I'm really struggling on my own.
I still love him and last weekend I practically begged him to get back together or at least remain open about the possibility. My thoughts were that, if he is willing to try that, i could forgive him for what happened. However, if he isn't, I can't ever forgive him as I feel like he never wanted me. Anyway, he refused to even see what happens. I was so angry I kicked him out (he was leaving at that point anyway).
Now, he's due to arrive tomorrow, and I just don't want to be nice to him...... but, I really need the help/rest. Our families want us to be on speaking terms for the sake of our son.
I think he's messed me up, mentally. Rejection when you're pregnant is horrible and I worry how all of the negativity and arguing affected our son.
I don't know what to do? It's such a horrible mess.