I came off the mini pill mid July & according to OPK have ovulated twice. However I've had no period & lots of BFNs. I want to get fertility tests done but think the dr will say it's too soon since coming off pill. We've been ttc since I came off the pill but have 2 potential issues - 1. I have a low sex drive & suffer a lot with fatigue which can make motivation for sex difficult. 2. My DH is not always able to finish. We occasionally manage it but sometimes one of us just runs out of energy and he has to finish himself off. I struggle with feeling a failure when this happens or if I have let him down. What this all amounts to in my mind is whether we should already be exploring alternatives. I am 36 in a few months and while we haven't been trying long I'm not sure I can cope with the required 6 - 12 month wait when I'm already doubting everything. I think I want to try IUI as seems to be the most natural option but is it too soon to be doing this? Would I even qualify on NHS or should we go private? It took a long time for me to find my husband, now we both just want a family before we are too old & the risks get too high.