Scan didn't go very well :( Help Needed

[kalia]

I get the impression that the person you were talking to was not a doctor (I'm assuming it was your midwife).
In order to practise medicine doctors have to be members of the General Medical Council (I think). In their standards they state that the doctor must protect and promote the health of their patients. So from the second your baby is born they have to do the best for him or her even if this happens before 24 weeks.

 

[Tegala-7thMarch08]

any baby has the right to survive and have proper care nomatter "how much it costs" im sorry to hear this hun!! but i am so sure they wouldnt just let "her die" that just not right... hopefully you wont go into premature labour just rest and and keep well hydrated

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Ah Hun
just read this
my thoughts are with you love i have my fingers crossed that your little one will hang on in there.
I have no advice apart from take it easy and stay positive
i hope that your GP can shed some light on your situation involving the steriods and they can reassure you more
for you and your bubba
love Sarah

 

[sarafet]

oh andrea

i can't believe this. i honestly can't believe the way they are treating you

i know it's hard hun, but you need to stay positive, despite what they are saying. try and research where you stand with the steroids, what nhs authority do you come under?

hoping you're ok sweetie

sarah xxxxxxx

 

[grace]

Andrea, i cant stop thinking about this. i feel so sorry for you, you must be so worried.

that woman is wrong, i am certain she has either got her wires crossed or is just plain stupid.

when Ami was in the hospital there was another couple there who had a 24 weeker, i used to talk to the mother all the time. she lived miles and miles away from the hospital, it used to take her 2 hours to get there on the train. her baby girl had been transferred immediately after birth - there were no cots in any of the local hospitals.

if the worst were to happen they WILL find your baby a cot and they WILL administer steroids. the only thing is they wanted to give me 2 doses of steroids, one immediately which i got and one 24 hours later. Ami didnt hang on that long so i only got one lot. i would push for steroids asap because labour this early may not last long enough.

i hope you carry to at least 30 weeks, baby will have a brilliant prognosis then but heres praying you go full term

try not to worry, as a few of the girls have said, your amniotic fluid could shoot up and all will be well. xxxx

 

[Sherlock]

Oh Hun

I don't really have much I can offer other than support and hugs.

As others have said, get total rest, as this seems to be important at this time. And seeing your GP on Monday will hopefully give you some better support. And don't be afraid to ask for a second opinion or whatever it takes. Just don't get yourself too stressed. Let your OH do the talking, walking and shouting if need be.

From what you have said, I take it this was a MW talking to you? I would hope a consultant would have had a different approach.

Your LO after 24 weeks can have treatment. As I understand it, before that they only do so at parents request. If your hospital is saying they don't have facilities etc to cope with a very premature baby (before 28 weeks) then hopefully you can find out what hospitals can take them and have facilities. Its crappy but some hospitals just don't have facilities for such early babies, but they do transfer them and do what they can.

Is it worth seeing if you need to have total rest and monitoring that you can transfer hospitals and go to one that does have facilities should you go into labour before 28 weeks? Once past that you could change back. If it means you spend the next 4 weeks in hospital surely it would be worth it if it means you are getting the care and monitoring you need.

With regards to the steriods, worth talking over with your GP and having a referral if need be. If other women can have them, there has to be a proper valid reason why you cannot.

I really wish I had something more helpful to say. I am so sorry you are having to go through this, but you are doing so well so far and I do hope things improve for you over the coming few days and weeks.

 

[debecca]

I really REALLY can't believe what I'm reading!

Firstly, for you and your family that you're having such a rough time with the fluid leakage at the moment. I was wondering just yesterday how you are getting on and have been thinking about you lots and lots

Secondly, the things she has said to you are utterly ridiculous. Even if they happened to be hospital policy, I am astounded they've shared that with you! I know this is probably a ridiculous suggestion, but do you have family anywhere else in the UK where you could go and stay until you're 28 weeks so that if you DO happen to go into premature labour, your little girl would stand a better chance of survival? (And you'd feel much more comfortable at a different hospital, I'm sure).

I'm so so sorry that this silly cow has made you feel so lousy

 

[Charlie:-)]

Sorry to hear your scan hasn't gone well.

Try and stay positive, I know it will be hard but each day is a huge milestone for you and think of it like that, try not to think in week, months ahead but think days.

Im not sure if it will help but maybe you could call the other hospitals and speak to them and find out what they would do if you ended up being transferred, that might give you the reassurance you need. I cant believe they would turn you away.

Also don't worry too much about the placenta previa its a very manageable situation that is solved with a C section, my sis had it. I think this is the least of your worries, try not to stress out and focus on your health and your baby day by day.

 

[BeckyJ]

ive just read this hun, my heart really does go out to you

i hope everything goes well for you at the docs and they put your mind at rest

my auntie had all 3 of her children at the 27 week mark and they are now 15, 17 and 18 yrs old, they were all fine, a little small and had to be kept in prem baby unit for a while but no real issues, i know its easy for others to say but try and stay positive xxx

 

[xJodieLoux]

Hun I'm so sorry your going through all this, please make sure you rest and don't stress yourself out.

I really don't believe that any hospital would just let a baby die. A freind of mine went into labour at 22 week's, and I don't know for certain but I'm sure she was given steroids. Then after the birth she was given the choice of wether or not they wanted them to try and keep the baby alive, they were told all of the risk's and that there would almost definately be brain damage, possibly blind etc. They made the hardest choice they will ever make and decided to let him go. She is now pregnant again with a little girl this time and is due anytime now. Anyway, if the hospital was willing to keep a 22week old alive (not even considered 'viable'), then I'm sure they will do everything they can for your little girl.

Just take each day at a time and stay positive

 

[Steelgoddess]

Hi Hon i hope your baby will be ok...

Just wanted to offer my support
x

 

[littleem]

Hiya, after reading this, i just want to offer you my full support, i honestly dont know what to say, other than keep positive, like you said your nearly 24 weeks, when i was a student nurse i did a placement on scbu and with 24 weekers they did absolutely everything because the baby is classed as viable so it has a real chance. Rest and keep your feet up, you may even go to term. No one can tell you you might not

 

[andreaaa]

I've just read through all your posts and wanted to say thank you so much for thinking of us and offering support

I feel a lot more positive today. Ellie Bump is really happy where she is, she's been awake and kicking since 6a.m

When we had the scan yesterday, she was sitting with her bum in my pelvis and her legs tucked in with her arms around her knees, she looked so comfy... I don't think she has any plans on leaving the big mumma house yet

I am drinking lots and lots and I just hope that the fluid levels stabilise and start going up as the fluid being too low is one of my main concerns as she obviously needs the fluid to help mature her lungs.

I am starting a new job on Tuesday - only 15 hours this week in the office but after this week I will be able to do it from home and that's the plan. TBH if i wasn't working I'd only be worrying about money which wouldn't do me any good either. Plus I don't want to be sitting around feeling sorry for myself

I won't be doing anything strenuous and JP looks after me when he gets home from work so after work I can put my feet up

To answer the questions that I can remember....

It was a Midwife in the Day Care Unit that I spoke to yesterday. I will be seeing my GP on Monday and have an appointment with my Consultant on the 27th, I'm sure they will be a lot more helpful and positive than the Midwife was yesterday.

Debeccaaaaaa and Sherry, I am going to discuss with my GP transferring care of me and baby to North Staffs Hospital, even if it is only temporarily so will let you know what she says. The only family we have that aren't local live in Guernsey and as wonderful as that place is, they fly you over here in emergencies. I would love to live there one day though

Sarah, the authority I come under is Mid Staffs NHS Trust

Thank you so much to all of you for being so lovely

 

[Bloom]

Andrea im so sorry you are having to go through this just make sure you dont overdo it and you do take it easy. As everyone has said you are days away from the 24 week mark which is really good. Just concentrate on getting through one week at a time. Im that Ellie stays put in the big mummas house and stays strong for you. Im sure they would do everything in there power for Ellie if she was born early.



Try and stay positive and think positive thoughts.

 

[Tillytots]

Oh hunni, Ive only just read this

Im so sorry you're being treated so badly! Im sure like others have said that if you should go into premature labour they will administer steroids to give your little princess every chance. OH told me one of his friends gf's went into labour at just 26 weeks and they gave her steroids and she is fine. Baby girls born early stand a better chance than boys if born very early so thats something to remember

Keep drinking tons of water. I pray Ellie stays in your tummy for as long as poss. Try not to do too much hun, you need to rest. Everyday she stays she gets stronger in there. Thinking of you
xxxxxx

 

[Sherlock]

Hi Andrea

Glad you are feeling a bit better about things today. I think every day that passes now, you will feel a little of that worry lifting. I know its a way a way till you can relax and not worry so much, but thinking postive is such an important thing for you all It sounds like LO is having a bit of a party in there which is good. She is active which is always comforting

So long as you are able to get plenty of rest and do as little as possible at least for a few weeks. Sounds like JP is being wonderful and helping

Crossing fingers you can transfer hospitals. In my area you are allowed to change hospitals during pregnancy and even go outside of your local health authority (I know as I did this before we moved) and I cannot see any reason why it can't be the same for you. It is the day and age of patient choice. Hoping your GP is understanding and supportive and will back you in this. They should do.

And at least what you were told yesterday, did not come from your consultant. I would hope they would be more tactful at least and also more positive thinking considering your stage of pregnancy. I'm sure by the time you see them you'll have all your questions ready to ask and have answered properly. Its a shame the MW was so bloody unhelpful and not offering much support

We are here if you need us and thinking of you all

 

[kellysomer]

After 24 weeks a baby is viable and at the parents request treatment will be given to try to save the LO. Before 24 weeks the hospital has to make a decision based on the likelyhood of survival and parents wishes.

This article makes interesting reading. http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/u ... 638522.ece

I am sure bubs will wait a while for you and fluid levels can vary hugely from week to week depending on silly things like if the baby has had a wee recently or swallowed. Keep LO safe and snug for a while longer yet and i am sure she will be fine hun, try not to worry too much.

 

[ASD123456]

Hi Andrea,

Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and I hope and pray your baby stays in you belly for a long time. As you said you'll probably end up going 42 weeks!

I'm sickened at the lack of support and positivity given by this person. Hope it goes well with the GP and switching hospitals.

Alex xx

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi Andrea,

Just wanted to say how very sorry I am for what has been happening to you, and how you've been treated. I don't have much advice really, apart from I'd really push to get those steroids (whatever it takes!!!), make sure you take it really easy, and there's still a really good chance that your little girl will stay put for a while yet.

All the very best

 

[Rosie1]

aww hun i'm so sorry to hear that, have a hug

Can't really give you any advice except don't take what she said lying down! i'd call either another midwife at your hospital or demand to speak to the consultant, and tell them how unhappy you are with what you were told. At the end of the day they are there to work for us an our babies, not the other way round. I would try and get the consultant to sit down with you and go over all the options depending on at what stage she is delivered. I'm pretty sure they can't refuse to give her the care she needs, so just make it clear that you won't accept ANYTHING but the most they can do.

She was talking out of her a**e i'm sure.

Let us know any developments that you may have, thinking of you and your LO.

xxxxx