Hello
I was assaulted and raped in April this year by my friends boyfriend. I dont want to go in to detail however I dont want it to seem consensual and like im just crying rape as my friend says! She was having a party at her house everyone was drunk, I wasnt as I had work the next morning. I decided to go to bed at about 1am as I was sleeping at hers I went to her bedroom and got into bed in my underwear. About 10 minutes later I got woken up by someone in the bed next too me, the person then started touching me up and I turned round and realised it was her boyfriend. I told him to get off of me and he kept begging me for sex, I refused and tried to get out but he had locked the door (its a key lock) he then pushed me to the bed and raped me, it was not protected and he did finish inside.
I was so scared to tell anyone as I know what he and his friends are capable of, I never thought of taking the morning after pill because I was just overwhelmed with shock for days. A week later I told my boyfriend of 5 years and we reported him to the police and the case is currently ongoing.
The rape occurred on the 4th of April and my LMP before that was the 23rd of March. My boyfriend asked me to take a test 4 days before my next period was due which I did and it was negative (me and my boyfriend hadnt had sex for 2 months before that) I then came on on the 26th but it only lasted a day and then stopped.
On the 6th of May me and my boyfriend tried to have sex as it was my birthday. We are ALWAYS careful and he put a condom on, he didnt finish at all and the sex only lasted literally 2 minutes because I ended up pushing him off me in tears because of the memories, we have not had sex since.
I took a test on the 20th of May which produced a clear positive result. I then had spotting so I booked in for an early scan, they told me on the 21st of May I was 5 weeks gone. I then went back on the 10th of June and they told me I was 7 weeks gone.
I saw a doctor 29th of July who gave me a scan and said I was 13 weeks 4 days pregnant.
Although the date matches up to be my boyfriends baby I dont see how it could be, we used a condom he did not finish and it didnt even last long. Is there ANYWAY it could be the other mans baby??? Or can I disqualify him completely. I will not be getting an abortion if it is I just want to know my chances so I can withdraw from telling friends and only tell very close family as I will have the baby adopted. Obviously if it is my boyfriend I want to be excited as its my first pregnancy and tell everyone and buy baby things. I can not afford a pre natal dna tests as they are nearly 1000 pounds, I just want to know my chances. It seems so remote that its my boyfriends considering how careful we are. I have heard of pre cum but have heard thats only if they have came shortly before sex and havent had a wee or anything (he did wee before sex and was at work before we tried too)
I also am ashamed to admit it but due to the stress I was drinking alcohol often could that have contributed to wrong dates due to it effecting babies size?
My sister who is 8 months pregnant told me that if his sperm had lived 7 days and implantation took 19 days then it would amount to how far along I am now, is this true?
Please someone just advise me here are a list of dates
23-03-14- start of period
04-04-14- rape
22-04-14- negative test
26-04-14 period although only one day
07-05-14 sex (read details)
20-05-14- positive pregnancy test
21-05-14- 5 weeks pregnant at scan because of spotting
29-07-14- 13 weeks 4 days pregnant at scan
I was assaulted and raped in April this year by my friends boyfriend. I dont want to go in to detail however I dont want it to seem consensual and like im just crying rape as my friend says! She was having a party at her house everyone was drunk, I wasnt as I had work the next morning. I decided to go to bed at about 1am as I was sleeping at hers I went to her bedroom and got into bed in my underwear. About 10 minutes later I got woken up by someone in the bed next too me, the person then started touching me up and I turned round and realised it was her boyfriend. I told him to get off of me and he kept begging me for sex, I refused and tried to get out but he had locked the door (its a key lock) he then pushed me to the bed and raped me, it was not protected and he did finish inside.
I was so scared to tell anyone as I know what he and his friends are capable of, I never thought of taking the morning after pill because I was just overwhelmed with shock for days. A week later I told my boyfriend of 5 years and we reported him to the police and the case is currently ongoing.
The rape occurred on the 4th of April and my LMP before that was the 23rd of March. My boyfriend asked me to take a test 4 days before my next period was due which I did and it was negative (me and my boyfriend hadnt had sex for 2 months before that) I then came on on the 26th but it only lasted a day and then stopped.
On the 6th of May me and my boyfriend tried to have sex as it was my birthday. We are ALWAYS careful and he put a condom on, he didnt finish at all and the sex only lasted literally 2 minutes because I ended up pushing him off me in tears because of the memories, we have not had sex since.
I took a test on the 20th of May which produced a clear positive result. I then had spotting so I booked in for an early scan, they told me on the 21st of May I was 5 weeks gone. I then went back on the 10th of June and they told me I was 7 weeks gone.
I saw a doctor 29th of July who gave me a scan and said I was 13 weeks 4 days pregnant.
Although the date matches up to be my boyfriends baby I dont see how it could be, we used a condom he did not finish and it didnt even last long. Is there ANYWAY it could be the other mans baby??? Or can I disqualify him completely. I will not be getting an abortion if it is I just want to know my chances so I can withdraw from telling friends and only tell very close family as I will have the baby adopted. Obviously if it is my boyfriend I want to be excited as its my first pregnancy and tell everyone and buy baby things. I can not afford a pre natal dna tests as they are nearly 1000 pounds, I just want to know my chances. It seems so remote that its my boyfriends considering how careful we are. I have heard of pre cum but have heard thats only if they have came shortly before sex and havent had a wee or anything (he did wee before sex and was at work before we tried too)
I also am ashamed to admit it but due to the stress I was drinking alcohol often could that have contributed to wrong dates due to it effecting babies size?
My sister who is 8 months pregnant told me that if his sperm had lived 7 days and implantation took 19 days then it would amount to how far along I am now, is this true?
Please someone just advise me here are a list of dates
23-03-14- start of period
04-04-14- rape
22-04-14- negative test
26-04-14 period although only one day
07-05-14 sex (read details)
20-05-14- positive pregnancy test
21-05-14- 5 weeks pregnant at scan because of spotting
29-07-14- 13 weeks 4 days pregnant at scan