Putting Daughter's on Pill?

[Piglet10]

Debate/Discussion thread cos i love them!

so whats everyones opinion??

I personally hope my child doesn't lose her virginity young but I would defo allow her to be on the pill if i had ANY suspicions she might be sexually active! i was discussing this with a friend today and she (in my opinion naively) said she would bring her daughter up with more respect than to lose hervirginity young and she believed putting them on the pill is 'enabling' them?!

i just dont think anyone knows how their little princesses will turn out lol xxx

 

[nik106]

I think a lot depends on the personality of the child. A parent might not want to believe that they're kids are having sex but it still happens! If my daughter was more mature than her age, i'd probably want her on it to be on the safe side, but if she was more immature then i probably wouldn't bother. I say this because of my friend's younger siblings. He had a brother and sister about 2 years in age apart but much younger than us, when they were 12 and 14 they used to go to discos for underage kids. One day they were telling us about them and we were horrified! Whether or not it was bragging or actually true, they still knew about things. When i was that age, i thought boys were gross, I had my first kiss at 15. Not so for these kids, the girls were kissing, with tongues at 12, and the boys, well at 14, they were getting hand jobs off girls of similar ages at discos!!!!!

They also told us about a sleepover they had. The house was a bit limited in size, so the two younger siblings shared a room, not knowing what they got upto, their mother thought that because they shared one, when they had a couple of friends over each to stay the night, it would be ok if they were all in one room. What i did not need to hear was how they'd teamed up so the friends that stayed fancied each other so when their mum went to bed and they were alone, things became oral!!!!!!!! They're now much older, and i have to say, i'm so surprised that one of them hasn't got a kid already given how young they became somewhat sexually experienced!

My younger brother on the other hand is 11, and he still thinks girls are gross. He's interested in hanging out with his male friends and not in the slightest bit interested in going to hang out with girls. He's not even immature, he's very mature for his age, but just not at the point where he's even really aware of sex

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I was 15 when I lost my virginity and mum took me straight to the doctors and I went straight on the pill. My friends mum slagged her off like anything for doing that even though my friend had slept with more people but wasn't on anything!!
Once Lacey becomes sexually active she'll be going straight on the pill too

 

[Piglet10]

defo agree with you both! and nik valid point about maturity of child!! and shocking stories! xxx

 

[AugustMum]

My LO will be going on the pill whenever she sees fit really. Im hoping that we'll be close enough so she feels confident to tell me most things (Im not nieve enough to think she'll tell me everything!) and when the time comes Ill just tell her the options she has.

 

[Hope81]

well pill still dosent protect them from STDs so i really hope to teach her about condoms actually once with puberty.

 

[inky]

^^WSS, I'm all for avoiding unwanted teen pregnancies and if the pill can help do that then so be it. The first and foremost contraceptive should always be the condom, even if they're on the pill already.

 

[AugustMum]

^ Agreed, she'd still be taught about condoms and I would advise her to use them whether on the pill or not but, if she wanted to of course, she would be on the pill to cover herself even further, because as Im sure we all know, that condom doesn't go on everytime, so it's just giving her that extra protection and putting her more in control.

 

[pinkyprincess]

I made my own choice at 15 to go to the docs and get it as I was in a long term relationship and in matter of months I knew we were going away to a festival for the weekend together. We ended up breaking up as i lost it to someone else about a week after my 16th birthday.


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[Maria1977]

I didn't lose my virginty til I was 18, told my mum the next day, well kind of had to lol And we had 'the talk' and I was on the pill soon after that lol

Obviously oscar is only 7.5 months so we have a few years to go, but we will defo be talking to him about contraception when the time comes lol

 

[evie_smith]

I will ask my girls around 14/15 if they want to go on the pill not only to regulate their periods but to be safe incase and I will say to them if they are going todo anything although I would prefure they waited till they were like 20 lol I will ask them to use a condom if they need any ask me and I will get them - that way I can give them the are you ready for this talk wharle knowing I'm protecting them although if they ask at 14 for condoms I will be shocked I went on the pill about 14/15 as my periods were alllllll over the shot xx

 

[lanny]

Frig the pill Dolly's going on the implant lol, no this is something I feel strong about. I didn't tell my mam a thing because all I got is I will kill you if I Eva find out. So I didn't dare tell her anything and feel if she wasn't as harsh I could of been more open with her. Just because you want to think there not doing it dos'nt mean there not.
Let's just say a 15 I got in trouble and I had no body to tell I ended up doing something I regret everyday of my life and just wish I would of told my mam and should could of helped me.
I never ever want to think dolly couldn't talk to me well any of them for that fact.
So hopefully when the time is right I would put her on the pill but more so I hopes she will come and talk to me and tells me how she feels. I think my mam tried the scare approach and it doesn't make it not happen it just makes them stop telling you xxxx

 

[evie_smith]

I was thinking about the implant but then I thought it leaves scars and they might not like me for that UNO being so young if she had the pill then it won't be so noticeable or injections but I will ask options when it comes to it I'm not a huge fan of the pill as it gave me cysts and migraines :-/ but my girls might be different x

 

[Tasha89]

My Mum whisked me off to the doctors when I told her about my first boyfriend at 16 - starting the pill made me feel so grown up! lol! She never told me about condoms though - which I sorta wish she had, although I was given information about them by my school in sex ed.

I waited a few months before I actually did the deed with him. Still, he turned out to be a total dickhead but i've always been proud of myself that I never 'lost it' in a one night stand Although they came after we split up...

I think i'd ask Evelyn if she would like to start taking the pill if I had any suspicion she was sexually active. I'd also, like evie_smith, explain to her the importance of condoms and offer to purchase them for her if she ever felt embarrassed to do so.

Also like August_mum said - i'd like to hope that me and my daughter have a close relationship (unlike me and my mum did until now) and that she'd feel comfortable telling me most things

 

[pinkyprincess]

But I remember the embarissment of my mum and Step dad (when she was pregnant with my little brother) telling me to help myself to their condoms in the bathroom! Talk about pressure, what if they were counting?

 

[evie_smith]

Lmfao ^^^^^^ oooow and breath! Thy made me giggle (pictures a parent counting them every night) - who would she blame you or her oh lol!!! Xxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

Haha well that would be the question!

 

[Amyrose]

My daughter is 10 now but i have to say she is a very innocent 10. i would like to think i am raising my kids boys and girls to be able to come and talk to me and be open with me if it does come to the point where she is thinking of being sexually active i would hope A she would be educated enough to know about stds and the need to use protection and B. know that she could get pregnant. i have no problem with her going on the pill but i would also hope i have raised her to respect herself an would love to see her wait for the right boy to come along before she looses her virginity. I do know thats very rare these days its a tough one i suppose we cant answer until the situation arises we dont know how we will handle it.

 

[xxbeckyxx]

My Mum asked me if I wanted to go on the Pill when I was 15 and got my first serious boyfriend so I did to keep her happy But didn't have sex for a year after that. We are quite close so I felt able to talk to her if I needed to. Hopefully Lizzie will be the same

At around the same time my best friend had unprotected sex and she daren't talk to her Mum about it so I ended up going to get the MAP for her from boots - she wouldn't get it for herself in case someone she knew was there! She ended up needing the MAP about 3 times because she was too scared to go anywhere to get protection (and obviously this particular boy didn't care!).

 

[K&A]

I haven't got a daughter but I'd hope I'd bring her up like me. I've never been on the pill and I didn't have Jack until I was 22 x


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