CatBana
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...is it just me or is it not an incredibly personal question to ask? Nurse 26's thread got me thinking about all the times people have asked me if I'm going to have another one (dd is 5). And it's always people who have 2 or more kids themselves. There's a few mums that have asked me 'don't you want another one??' as if I'm purposely being cruel to my daughter for making her an only child (which is actually something I feel really guilty about) or don't enjoy motherhood enough to do it again. The thing is, I was brought up to not ask personal questions and it never fails to take me by surprise when people ask, it's the fact they're not close to me, yet still ask. I only have a few close friends and when they ask I tell them I'd love another one but leave it there and they have the good sense and courtesy not to pry further. The other week having small talk with a taxi driver he told me one wasn't enough I should be having more!!! I wanted to say 'actually mr. taxi man, fertilisation is easier said than done'!! I think it's because I'm 27 they presume if I'm not pregnant it's out of choice when really we've been ttc for 17 months. My husband says I should just lie, don't give anyone info about myself, but next time I might snap 'it's easier said than done for some people.' At least they might think twice next time they ask someone, they might spare a thought that the person isn't finding it as easy as they did.
Sorry this post is negative but I'd love to hear if someone else is going through this too.
I'm still having issues but had a bit of good news, I told my gp 2 months ago we weren't pregnant yet and she arranged 21 day bloods and semen analysis for us. Both came back normal! Which was a relief, of course there could be something else wrong, but I've got a gynae appointment for next month to mark the 18th month of trying and I guess we'll find out more then. I'm hoping the reason we're not pregnant yet is because we don't bd enough. Anyway must try to stay positive and use that feminine strength that only us women have xoxoxo
Sorry this post is negative but I'd love to hear if someone else is going through this too.
I'm still having issues but had a bit of good news, I told my gp 2 months ago we weren't pregnant yet and she arranged 21 day bloods and semen analysis for us. Both came back normal! Which was a relief, of course there could be something else wrong, but I've got a gynae appointment for next month to mark the 18th month of trying and I guess we'll find out more then. I'm hoping the reason we're not pregnant yet is because we don't bd enough. Anyway must try to stay positive and use that feminine strength that only us women have xoxoxo