Over sensitive??

[monkeynut]

First of all.. Me and OH have mentioned marriage a little but with the cost of what we would like it has never been more than just a little conversation about it, though we have both said that we would like to get married.
It's not the be all and end all, we chose to prioritise having a baby rather than wedding...


However, this morning I had to log on to his Facebook from my phone to get some details from a message (he knew about and gave me his log in details).
Well I didn't log out (not on purpose it just slipped my mind) and I got a notification of a message and without thinking I clicked on it (thinking i was logged on to my account) and its from a female friend, but it showed the message history and a few days ago they had been messaging (started off as asking for address so she could send a card when LO arrives)and she had said "do me a favour and never get married, lol" ...

My OH had responded "oh god no, my
Missus is hard enough to deal with let alone if we were married"

I just find it really upsetting and just not very nice, thing is, Im laid back and easy going, I know I'm easy to live with (we have only been living together properly for two weeks) I just don't know why he would say such a horrible thing.
I can't even really tell him I have seen it as he will think I have been snooping... Which I honestly didn't mean to do.

What do I do? I know He will know something is wrong when he gets home from work in the morning...

 

[tabbi]

He might just be acting up tp his friend, if she is an ex he's more likely to say it to get a reaction from her.
But also it might be true 50%50% hun.
you need to tell him the truth that by accident you saw the messages and you want to know where you stand.
or
you could just mention to him, is marriage still an opion after baby and does he still want to get married to you.
see what he says. i personally would confront him about it so i know where i would stand and where your relationship is going.
if you do confront him do it gentally otherwise things could get out of hand x x x

 

[monkeynut]

Thanks, part of me does think he is acting up to his friend (she had joked about her marriage). I know that if I just ask him about marriage he will say he Does want to at some point (I know he won't have changed his mind) and he will apologise for saying what he did... It's just hurtful reading it.. I guess what bothers me more than the marriage bit is the part about me being difficult- I just can't understand why he thinks that.

I really don't want to tell him I looked, it will cause a massive argument :s

 

[tabbi]

partners usually say hurtful stuff to there friends about there OH so that they get compasion and stuff like that, if it is she is egging him on. just say you say it and it was hurtful.
And if he feels like that about you ask why and see if you can work on it that sort of thing x x x

 

[CARNAT22]

I think the fact she is a female friend probably makes it seem worse than it actually is.

I am sure my OH moans to his mates about me occasionally

However as you found the message by accident I'd ask him about it.. It's not as if you were snooping?

Just say you came across his message and it's upset you, hopefully he'll be able to reassure you!

xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[BabysMomma]

^^wss for sure.

xx

 

[Jayjay027]

I'd tell him I saw it and ask him to clarify exactly what he meant and where u stand.
U saw it innocently, so uv done nothing wrong. And if u don't bring it up, it'll eat away at u! X

Tapatalking from my blackberry!

 

[Jayceesmumma]

I agree if u don't clear this up it will eat away at you.. Talk about it calmly I'm sure he was just being a typical bloke..

 

[Kayelle]

I would be very upset wether he was joking or not I would be hurt to think he was saying these things to people. But yeah could be a joke, you can't tell in what way he said it iykwim. I would defo say something